Third date and no kiss, what's up?

Ok let me start by saying I'm 23 and have never had a girlfriend before. Before you think I'm quasi modo or crazy, it is complicated, but lets just say I've never allowed myself to get close to anyone before.





That said, I met a beautiful girl three weeks ago and I am crazy about her. We went out on our third date tonight, and it ended as the other two have, with a hug. I don't think she knows how inexperienced I am with women, and I don't want to ruin things by telling her. We talk in texts and online every day, and after each date she says she had fun.





Being as inexperienced as I am, I don't know if I should be worried that maybe she views our dates as just hanging out as friends, or if three dates with no kiss is normal. I have made it as clear as I can that I am interested in her. I specifically refer to our dates as dates, and I make the occasional playful sexual joke.





She has no idea what she has done for me already, but I don't want to screw this up. Thanks for your help!

Third date and no kiss, what's up?
At the end of the next date, tell her that you are crazy about her and you would like to kiss her. If she wants that, she will lean toward you with open body language. If she doesn't, she will back away and cross her arms or show closed body language. If she backs away, say "I'm sorry. I hope I wasn't too forward" and then let it go. If she leans in, lightly touch her hair, kiss her on the cheek and then a gentle kiss on the lips that lingers just a little bit. Keep it simple and sweet. You don't have to go for the Hollywood Kiss or slip any tongue - just keep it natural.


Good luck. IF things get awkward, let her know that you have had a lot of things to do in the past and just had trouble finding a girl you really clicked with. This will let her know that maybe you don't have a lot of experience.
Reply:Maybe her feelings aren't mutual. Not saying that she doesn't like you but she may just not be ready to move to the next stage yet. Some girls like to take it slow, everything that happens in a movie just happens in the MOVIES. Give her some time eventually she should come around and the right time will come. Good luck on date number 4.
Reply:If you are open and honest with her, you won't screw things up. Just be confident in what you do. Be willing to screw up.





Girls expect guys to take charge. If you want to kiss her, lean over and kiss her. If you act like a platonic friend, then that is all you will get. Next time you go out, do something like this:





Walk up behind her, nuzzle your nose in her neck and smell her. When she asks you what you are doing tell her you like her smell.





Tell her she has really nice lips.
Reply:She is probably waiting for you to make a move if she is interested. The end of the date first kiss is akward. There is un needed pressure put on the idea of it. If you are comfortable enough to make subtle advances towards her, as you say you have. Then you can make the move, but let her determine if the kiss takes place. I'll elaborate; while being sweet and playful on your next date simply ask her what she would do if you were to kiss her. If her reply is anything other than the look of horror or no than kiss her. That way you made the first move and it takes the pressure off of not knowing if she would like to be kissed by you. Don't do it at the end of the date though. That way come the end of the date you will get to have another kiss.