Date for Relationship or Date for Attraction?

I confessed to my good friend that I was starting to like him as more than just a friend, and he told me he wasn't attracted to me in that way. A few days later, we sat down for lunch and he told me that he believed you can date a person and then learn to like them later. He then went on to say that he wanted to see how things went with these two other girls first (he's single) and to give him until the end of winter break to see how things are with them before trying to think about our situation.





Basically, he would consider dating me if things with the two other girls don't work out. I told him I didn't want him to date me if he wasn't attracted, but was I wrong with saying that? I know we both want boyfriends/girlfriends, but should he really date me because he wants a RELATIONSHIP, not because he likes me like that? Even if I did still like him after winter break and he starts to consider the idea, should I even do it?





Any comments are welcome. =)

Date for Relationship or Date for Attraction?
He sounds a bit egotistical. I wouldn't be too happy about being put on hold to wait in line for the time he's done with the current stable of women. I would have been very offended if a man told me some crap like that. I think you need to move on and date other men as you please. Someone will come along that doesn't expect you to wait in line. If there comes a time when the two of you come together, let it be at your convenience, not his. He had a lot of nerve saying that to you. He must see you as a real easy, sure thing. Don't even sweat what you said to him. He's lucky you still even want to speak to him.
Reply:Thanks for the input. After thinking about it, my friend decided that we shouldn't date, and that was the end of it. We're still friends, though. Report It

Reply:dont waste your time sweet b\c he'll probably just use you for sex.


Its best to date someone if your both on the same page not one who likes the other and the other one whos not interested its just stupid.No offence, I know you like him but you'll find someone else and it'll be funny b\c I bet he'll get jealous b\c your with someone else and then he'll want to be with you only b\c he missed out but you cant force yourself to like someone that just comes naturally.


So just be friends with him sweet, Ive been there before.Your not wrong, what you said was right sweet youve got your head screwed on right. Dont date him, there are plenty fish in the sea, dont limit yourself to just the one guy.
Reply:You cant let em play you like that .That guy needs to be taken down a peg or two.People who date should do so because they are sexually attracted to one and other.
Reply:I think you should just keep things as they are. Friendship. You weren't wrong at all for saying that at all. Personally, I think if he liked you, he wouldn't have said that.
Reply:No. Make him CRAZY about you. or get some other guy crazy about you. You deserve nothing less. Plus that's way funner





Have fun girl and don't wait for mister winter break.





Good LUck
Reply:What a jerk. He'll only date you if the two he has his eyes on didn't work out? He basically thinks that he doing you a "favor" by dating you because you told him you like him. As if it's a pity date. You're way better than that. I'd ditch this jerk and find someone worth your time.