How long do u date someone...???

How long do u date someone...???


before you know you want to date just them? and is it ok to date alot of other people while ur dating someone? ive dated this girl about a month and i i just want to date her her opinion is she just wants to date... she was hurt in the past in relationships... i have developed feelings for her and told her she said she cant trust her feelings right now so how do i take it? and how long do i wait to get some kind of sign back? ive been very patient and really care but i would like some sign...plz advise





she is 31 and im 27





we have not had sex but we have made out 3-4 times pretty intensely





how long is it fair to keep my heart in it? weve dated a month how much longer?





she had rough past and im trying to be patient

How long do u date someone...???
You can make it exclusive whenever you feel the time is right. Let her know how you feel about her... and that you're not trying yo rush her, but you want to take your relationship to a more serious level. If she's not ready to, that doesn't mean she'll NEVER be ready so don't get akward, just be patient and try harder at the same time. Just don't get too clingy. GOOD LUCK!
Reply:Honestly, if you're 27 you should already know this.


But no, it's not OK to date multiple people at the same time, if you like someone ,stick to em or else both of you might end up getting hurt.


If you're not looking to see someone exclusively then you should let them know.


If you've been seeing each other a month now you should NOT see other women as it will ruin anything you might have with this current girl, once you realize it's over, make it officially over and then you are a free agent again.
Reply:Be patient,you just have to keep showing her how you feel about her,tell her how much you care every day! and if you really Love her though it maybe hard to get the words out at first then just tell her how you feel about her very slowly, like if your talking example lets say you get this funny love feeling just let her know whenever you talk to her you get butterflies in your tummy! simple things like that let people know how much you really do care,soon she'll start to realize that your not just one of the guys from her past waiting to hurt her again but what your speaking is true,I say if you keep letting her know how much you care about her and how much you'd never hurt her then you can try and go steady within 4months,whenever your ready to ask her don't just throw it on her unexpectedly but kind of ease it on her,hint it a few days before your ready to ask her to see if she still feels the way she felt before,that way if she doesn't it'll be alot easier to tell her your ready for a commited relationship later on..I'd say good luck but you probably won't need it,Im sure everything will turn out fine! %26lt;3
Reply:you shouldn't ask for sex because she was hurt before she doesn't want to mess up again....she doesn't want to have sex....because she feels that she could get hurt.....





reminder: sex is sin you don't want eternal life in hell


don't pressure her leave her if thats all you are looking for in your relationship.....hope this helps good luck
Reply:She sounds a lot like me.... I was like that an my boyfriend always said he wanted to leave and he was tired of me thinking he was going to be like the other girls.. it seems like she is not letting go of the past though I know thats easier said then done... I have to take meds now because I just couldn't stop thinking about the past and it just drove me crazy... I was thinking too much about things that didn't matter at all to anyone... he was a jerk and I had to learn to get over that... The thing is I would see things my ex did and just make myself think my boyfriend now was going to hurt me... I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half nd things are so much better... you just have to be there when she wants to cry... and you have only been in it for a month you have to give it sometimes... and you are in that point of your life when you are ready to to settle down... I'm a lot younger then you but trust me she wanst to get over it but maybe she sees him in you... all you can do is be the nicest guy she has ever been with and don't break her heart thats what she is scared of... trust me stay with her she needs you more then anything else in her life.... let her decide what to do... if it just gets worse ask her to go talk to someone... because its not worth it to hold on to everything.... Just take good care of her :-) good luck to you.....
Reply:just tell her how you feel straight how you feel truthfully. if she not ready to be in a serious relationship take your time and really be her friend show her that all guys arent out to break her heart if you feel like you need other stuff its ok to have friends with benifits but keep them as that and let them know as little as possible about you and her because some females are jealous an would do any thing to hurt you and her but time is all you have take it slow and show her love and attention just waite be bestfriends first.
Reply:I would not be mad at her. Ask her would she be upset if you dated other people. I know I have been hurt in the past and it irkd me when a guy tries to force me into something i'm not ready for. If you try being her friend first, show her that you care and that you aren't like the other's she might change her mind.
Reply:Ok, your first problem is you are putting TIMELINES on your relationship. That is a major mistake. Just relax and be happy with your life, without putting STAMPS on it... Trust me, that causes unneccessary stress