Boyfriend allows me to date other guys?

Ok...what are your thoughts on this. My (kind of) boyfriend who I have known for 6 years have been dating since high school, and throughout college. I am 23 and he is 21. I told him I was interested in another guy from work and he said it would be ok if we went on a couple dates. He is not ready to commit to me yet (he thinks we are both still young) and he wants me to date now as opposed to later (I won't cheat later in the relationship). This thing I don't get is that he is "allowing me" to go on dates with this guy and it doesn't bother him. He doesn't think of this guy as a threat to him, or his and my relationship, or he doesn't think I will develop feelings for someone else I guess he has a lot of pride. So I went on one date with this new guy, and the thing is, I think I do want to continue dating this new guy but I don't want to lose my long term boyfriend. What do you think about him allowing me to date other guys? And how should I tell him I want to see this new guy?

Boyfriend allows me to date other guys?
At first you called him your "kind of boyfriend" and then later on you said your long term boyfriend but from the sounds of it, it sounds like you two are dating but not exclusively so in that case you both can date other people if you want. However, if he considers you his girlfriend then there should be no outside dating and it's a red flag that he says you can date other people. Sounds like you two need to just move on though.
Reply:sweetie thats a trick bag dont continue datin the other guy. your boyfriend might just be giving you some freedom to see how strong the relationship really is. dont do it
Reply:your bf is off his head! is is dating others 2? if you want to keep your bf u better not say anythin
Reply:An open relationship is only going to work if both are willing to go through it. How would you feel if he goes on dates with other girls? If you don't like the idea then you have a choice to make. But if you're okay with it, then it's safe to talk to him about the terms and boundaries about this open relationship you guys are having - which means, tell him about how you feel about dating the other guy. If he is as open as I think he is, then it should be fine. And if you both agree with it, then you need to tell the other guy that he's not the only one you're seeing. Be fair to him.





So think whether it would bother you or not if he starts seeing other women and then take it from there. I personally wouldn't be able to go through an open relationship, but each person is different. So once you know which side are you on, you'd be able to make your decision.





Good luck.
Reply:well if he is letting you date other guys there must be another girl so just tell him how you feel
Reply:My SO gave me the same option about a year after we started dating. In this case, it was because I had never dated anyone else before, whereas he had been through many relationships. His stance was that he didn't want to tie me down in a long-term relationship and have me feel later in life that I didn't get to have as many experiences. I told him that wasn't an option for me and that I couldn't and didn't even want to see myself dating anyone else. We have been together now for almost 3 years and I still have not had any other relationships.





It depends on how you REALLY feel about it, whether or not you will admit that feeling to him. Either you are:


1) somewhat unsatisfied by your relationship with him, and are 'shopping around'


2) want to make him jealous and/or do something different sexually


3) your current boyfriend wants an opportunity to see new women





Anyway, what do you plan to do if you decide you also love this other guy, after you continue dating him for a while? Who is going to be more important to you?
Reply:Tell him like you told him the last time...
Reply:I have NEVER known of a guy to let his (potiental) girlfriend date other people. Is he dating other people? If so, then maybe it is time for you two to move on.