First real "adult" date. help?

So, I dated a lot in high school (long term, and just random dates) but it was very much all teenage dating.





I'm in my 20's now, and haven't dated in almost 5 years, but I'm going on my first date on Friday!





I'll admit, we met online, but we've talked a few times , and he seems like an incredible person. We've both expressed a strong desire to get to know each other and become friends, regardless of any romantic relationship that may work out or not (due to common interests of social justice work).





We're just going out for coffee in the afternoon, and it's just casual, but I'm still nervous! I haven't done this whole 'adult dating' scene yet, but I'm thrilled to finally be out of the *pass-a-note* "Will you go out with me?" kinda thing, ya know?








So... any tips on how to make the transition into the real world of dating?





(18+ please. thanks :) )

First real "adult" date. help?
It's fine that you want to leave behind all the childish high school stuff, but don't lose your sense of fun or feel like you have to take this "seriously" because it's an adult date.





I can give you two of the most common mistake women make on the dating scene if that helps--





1) Like I said above, keep things fun and light. No matter how much you like him, resist any and all urges to try to corner him into some serious discussion about how he feels about you--even if you've been dating a while. Women hurry to do this but if guys feel the fun being sucked out of a relationship, we start looking for the emergency exit fast. You don't need these awkward talks. You can tell where you stand with a guy by how he treats you. And when he's ready to tell you how he feels, he will.





Guys resent being pressured into revealing their feelings the same way women resent being pressured into having sex before they're ready. Remember that.





2) Don't call or contact him too much. And don't keep calling unless he is calling you and also instigating the contact at least as often as you. Make sure he has your number and knows you're interested. After that, you need to sit back and let him pursue you. If he doesn't call, he's not into you and calling him won't change his mind.





Good luck. Trust me, once you find someone special, you'll be just as happy to be out of the dating scene as you are right now to be out of high school.
Reply:My advice it not to think of it in terms of 'adult date' because that makes it scarier. Just think of it as meeting a new friend. Just relax and the conversation will flow and you'll have fun. Good luck.
Reply:That sounds very dangerous and


you could get raped that way.
Reply:hope you are taking some friends with you.. people from the net are freaks and weirdos... be very careful...