Third date issue?

I haven't dated in a long time. I met this guy, on our first date we went to dinner, second date my sitter canceled and we watched movies at my house. Now he's wanting to come over again but the second date we kissed more than talked or watched the movie. I don't want to be put in this situation again but not sure how I tell him I don't want him that I want to go out on a date and not sit at home. (I'm afraid he's going to try more than kiss) How do I tell him this with out pushing him away? I've already told him I'm not ready for sex but I don't want him back at my house yet for at least a couple more dates.

Third date issue?
tell him you would be more comfortable going to dinner, or just ask him if he wants to go to dinner. if he says no, then tell him that you are uncomfortable having him at your house because you don't want to spend the entire time kissing (or more) and you would rather talk to him so you can get to know him better.
Reply:ok ok
Reply:Well maybe find something that is going on in the city by you that you would be interested in doing (a show, an exhibit, etc) that way you have somewhere to go.





But keep in mind, that he should be interested in taking you out, not just sitting in and trying to get lucky. You may not want to date someone so unmotivated anyways...
Reply:If he's any kind of a man at all, he'll understand that you want to expand your relationship emotionally, not physically. If his mind is focused only on developing the physical relationship, then he probably doesn't respect you that much.
Reply:Purchase tickets to some cultural event beforehand and when he comes over to pick you up, tell him you've surprised him with tickets. Since you've already paid, you can't stay home.
Reply:If u dont allow him to do anything than how can he do any thing,it depends on u that how far u give libarty to him.
Reply:if he is a decent person he will listen to that and should respect your space that is your castle and you need to set down the laws and rules for your domain.... If I was told that it does not feel right then I would respect the control you have to be in control.
Reply:just buy tickets to a movie or something
Reply:Make arrangements. Pay for it. Take charge of the date. If he says he just thought you could both just stay home, be honest. Tell him you felt you were a little too physical and you aren't ready for that yet.





Good luck, and stand firm. :-D

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