2nd date, but is she really interested?

I have pretty much had a steady girlfriend or wife since I was 15,so not a lot of dating experience.Met a woman on-line and chatted with her over messenger.Asked her out and she said yes.Went on the first date-dinner,a long walk,and a nice quiet pub.Started at 6pm and ended around 3:30am.The next day something came up and I asked her out again completely out of the blue and we went on a second date.Again,great night lots of talking,saw a movie and hit the pub again.This one lasted from 9pm to about 3am.Both dates were very plutonic.A few touching shoulders in the movie theather and I put my hand on her back as we walked out of doors.She made eye contact every time I spoke and a lot of times when she spoke, but she sometimes looked around the room a lot while she was talking.A drunk guy tried to play matchmaker and make us hold hands on the first date and we did for a second and then she kind of pulled away.How do I tell if she wants to be just friends or something more? Thanks.

2nd date, but is she really interested?
I'm pretty sure she is interested in you.


maybe she is just a girl that likes to take things a little slower, which is why holding hands made it a little awkward.


you could ask her how she feels, or simply tell her how you feel.


even something as subtle as "I really love spending time with you" could get the message across.


just make sure you find a way to let her know that you want to be more than friends.
Reply:When I'm not completely confortable around someone, I tend to also look around the room often when I talk too. She seems to have interest in you. From reading your story, it seems that your doubt in her not having interest is because she pulled her hand away. Don't let that bother you. She probably wasn't ready for it yet. Just keep going on dates and spending time with her, and soon she will probably look you in the eye when she talks to you, and she will definately hold your hand. Hope I helped you out! Good luck!
Reply:what's the rush?,sounds like everything is going good.don't overanalyze everything.
Reply:well, considering the fact that she accepted to go on date with you is an indication of her interest in you. I think you should help her to define your own interest probably that will serve as a lead for her too. There is also no harm in a having a rael discussion with her. finally, it mat be too early to expect her to give you a complete green light. Take it easy with her. Wishing you all the best.
Reply:Well if you asked her out and she said yes, then I think you've got her. But don't go too fast. Let her pick the speed.
Reply:She seems like she likes you, ask her out again and see how that goes. :)
Reply:Step #1: RELAX!!


Step #2: Quit analyzing. Your noticing things such as eye contact and incidental touching is good, but don't focus on it. That is just a hair away from obsessing. And that, my friend, is something that is not attractive. It is also something that she WILL notice.


Step #3: Relax.


Step #4: Step back, but just a bit. Between tracking the length of your dates so closely and the seeming instantaneous infatuation you've developed even I can feel the pressure and that's just from reading your letter. The more she feels pressure, the less likely she will want "something more". Too much, and even being just friends can be too much. She needs a little time to digest the dates, and you constantly being there will only annoy her.


Step # ...oh, never mind the steps. Unless you are in one of those movies where you have to marry her by tomorrow or you'll lose a zillion dollar inheretance, what is the rush? You can't overwhelm a person into liking you.


There is another factor. If you can flip out over her in two days, how does she know you won't do the same when a new girl comes into the picture? (This is something pointed out to me by a female friend of mine, and damn, she does make sense.)


Relax.
Reply:if you have to try too hard then maybe she's not ~ don't waste your time if you don't feel the magic of these dates because no energy is coming off them. There's way too many people in the world to be holding on to one person ~
Reply:ask her how she feels
Reply:Ask her out again...keep going out w/her...i mean...she went out w/you a second time...just take things slow and treat her like a lady. Good luck! : D
Reply:don't be in too much of a hurry with this relationship, each one has its own course and timing. just enjoy yourself without looking for something more then you will relax and she will feel comfortable with you. be friends and let it grow.
Reply:She might be kinda shy but I know she really likes you.
Reply:She keeps agreeing to see you. She is interested. Take it to the next level or she will start looking at you as just a friend.
Reply:It sounds like you're a wuss. Seriously. Be a man, be confident, make a move already.





P.S. It's "platonic" not plutonic HAHAHAA
Reply:What's the rush? Two dates that went great for both parties involved tells me there's enough interest to ask for a third date. If the woman is truly interested, she'll let you know. Most women these days (especially mature ones) don't want to feel pressured to hop into the sack after a few dates. Let the conversation lead you; as she opens up to you about her life, do the same. Woman are more interested in what's in your head (and your heart) than what's in your pants. Relationships can be like a good book,...take one page at time and let the plot thicken on its own. Good luck.
Reply:well, if she agrred to go on a date with you, then she definately has some interst in you. you should ask her how she feels.
Reply:Maybe she's shy. Give it some time.
Reply:Ask her...out on a date again....see how that goes,. It's only been 2 dates how do either one of you know unless you try a few more times
Reply:Ask her out again, and if she says yes, she's interested, but may be taking it kinda slow in the beginning. Just don't force anything. If she says no, or makes up an excuse, she's probably not interested. Best wishes!
Reply:I think you need to give this more time, and esp since you met online---you dont know anything about each other right now and you can meet a lot of people with something to hide on the internet. Give this more time and let her have a little space---dont come on too strong.