My 1st date after6yrs- I don't know where I am at!?

I haven't dated anyone in 6yrs- I went out on a first date with a guy, my co-worker introduced me to; he is 49(no kids) and I am 30 (1kid). I have dated only a few men in my highschool years, so I don't know too much about dating experience plus I am very old fasioned).The date went great-we talked non-stop for 3hrs, we enjoyed each others company,at the end he walked me to my car and said" he wants to go out with me again, will be busy for a while(he works out of town and he is visiting his step daughters both 27), he will call or I should call him and he will make the time to go out on a 2nd date. It's been 2 weeks since we went on our 1st date, he never called, I never called.I am very reserved and shy type and he is a bit shy too. I really like him!


Should I stop thinking about him and move on with my life? Please help!!!J

My 1st date after6yrs- I don't know where I am at!?
Hey in my opinion he's too old for you but if you like him thats your bussiness. So if its been two weeks and you're both shy than that's probably the reason. He's probably just waiting for you to call, and you're waiting for him to call! So have courage and call. What's the worst come the worst? He doesn't want to see you again! Then you just move on. This will at least build up your self cofidence! So get off the computer after you read this and CALL HIM!!!! If he doesn't answer leave a SHORT message! Say your just calling to see if he wants to have a second date! Then if he doesn't call you back after at least THREE days then that means he's not interested! Don't worry there are plenty of single guys out there! Good Luck, Cherry!
Reply:Call him once and ask how he is doing. You will be able to tell by his voice and demeanor if he is interested or happy to hear from you. Dont ask him out, make conversation and see if he asks you out. If he doesn't, then it is time to move on. But at least you wont be wondering what could have been.
Reply:If he hasn't called and you know for a fact he has a way of contacting you then he is not interested, it's pretty simple.





Plus, why would you want to pursue a man who is 20 yrs older than you, that seems desperate. There are many many men around your age available.
Reply:Don't assume wait his call
Reply:There is a possibility he loss your number or he could still be busy and haven't found the time to call you. Maybe he was unsure whether or not if you like him and therefor he deciding to wait and see if you will call him.


So call him and get it out of your system. Shy or not, it's worth the effort to find out if it's meant to be or not. Maybe he likes it when the women takes the initiative to contact him, I mean come on why must we put all of the pressure on the man to make the first calls...
Reply:you said hes shy so dats more than likely why he hasnt called. i definatly think you should send him a text, just something casual, ask him how hes gettng on, he might just be too shy to make the fist move but if hes interested a simple text might be the push he needs. youv got to remember he dosnt no how you feel either! please i really really urge you to do this, what have you got to lose?!! you said ye got on really well..... go for it!!! best of luck!!x
Reply:I think that you should just chock it up to his busy lifestyle for now. If he wants to call you, he will, and you need to understand that you are worth it! Don't call him.. he should call you, as he said he would. Date around a little more.. who knows? You might find a guy who has the decency to call sooner!
Reply:He said to call him, or he will call you. You said he's kind of shy, as well. He's could be thinking that he's almost 20 years older than you, his step daughters are your age, and you probably thought he was an old fart and were just being nice to him. Have you asked your co-worker if he said anything about you? Try to get some feeback.





If you had a good time and you're still thinking about him so much, I would go ahead and call him. You are both adults. This isn't high school, and neither one of you is getting any younger. Chances are that he will be relieved to know that he impressed you and you'd like to go out again.





Even if you read the signals wrong and he shuts you down (which I doubt will happen), at least you have resolution, and can get back to looking again, rather than mooning around waiting for the phone to ring. Girl, that was a waste of time in high school, never mind now!
Reply:By the sounds of things he made a big impression on you on your first date! He said he wanted to see you again (did you say you wanted to see him? If not, maybe that's why he hasn't called) You say he's shy, so if he doesn't feel that you were interested maybe he doesn't want to push things and call.





At the end of the day, what can you lose by calling him? If you walk away, you lost him and never gave yourself a chance!
Reply:It's no harm to call him and see what happens. If no good comes of that (in other words, if he says he's busy or he'll call later), don't do any more chasing.