2 twentysomethings.. 2 good dates.. no kiss.. 3rd date coming...?

I recently moved to another city and decided to post a match.com add to meet new guys. The first email I recieved was from a guy that really caught my eye. We've been out twice in 3 weeks and we talk/text/im often. We met for lunch on the first date, and went to watch a basketball game on date number 2. The first date ended with a stiff hug, but the 2nd date ended with a warmer embrace. I wanted to kiss him, but he's about a foot taller than I am so it's hard to initiate things.





We have a 3rd date coming up, and I'm not sure how to cross over into anything physical. I'm aware that the 3rd date is the "sex date" to many, but I'd be content with a decent makeout. Since we haven't planned anything yet, should I suggest a date at my place and cook him dinner? I have 2 roommates so I tend to entertain mostly in my bedroom..is this too suggestive? Any suggestions?





Not that I think this matters, but he is white and I am black.. do you think he might be a little nervous because of this

2 twentysomethings.. 2 good dates.. no kiss.. 3rd date coming...?
Put your arms around his neck at the end of the night. If he doesn't move down for a kiss pull him in pause for a sec to look into his eyes and smile then kiss him. He will have dreams about you in no time.


-NmD!
Reply:It is just the third date. You really don't know this person. I would not do anything for awhile till I was totally sure he is not lying to you about anything. I would be very cautious and definitely not take him back to my place.
Reply:There's some underlying issue there. Sorry, I'm sure there are success stories from match.com and others, but most guys on there are on there because they're inept at dating.





So, you'll just have to set the pace, or let him go.





I'd avoid the cooking/entertaining in your bedroom... that is a bit too suggestive, and might lead his thoughts where you may not want him to go.
Reply:What's the big hurry? Maybe he would like to get to know you better before rushing into the bedroom. I would suggest just relaxing and going with the flow of things. Yes, it may be that he is nervous and just needs some encouragement also. Tell him how much you enjoy being with him. Smile into his eyes, but I wouldn't drag him into your bedroom just yet. You have plenty of time. . .
Reply:Yeah, I think to propose dinner at your place is a good idea. Then, if and when your roommates are 'running around' you suggest to go to your bedroom for some more quiet conversation. Just a gentle, friendly, encouraging rub or stroke over his back or shoulder could set you up for some making out.





If you are on your 3rd date already, I don't think it matters that he is white and you are black.