I respect culture, i respect it when an elder japanese woman want her grandaughter to marry nice japanese boy, and any way you swing it. What I don't get is why do some people not date men or women in their own race. I have heard how some white chicks only date black guys, how some asian men only date white girls, or black girls that only date white guys and none will date a person in their own race., why would this be, to me its retarded, a person is a person is a person
Dont date your own race?
I believe it's a matter of taste.. Some people find that members of the opposite sex from some other race are more attractive than their own race. I don't think it's because just the race per se, but about the kind of looks they're attracted to. I know of some white guy who mostly dates Sout-East Asian women since he's into darker-skinned women with wider noses, etc. I've also known of some Hispanic man who mostly dated white girls since he was into light-skinned %26amp; blonde-haired girls: he ended up marrying a Hispanic girl who is light-skinned %26amp; blue-eyed with fake (dyed) blonde hair!
So, yeah, I don't think this type of people intentionally select what race they'd like to date, but due to feature/physical generalization that's linked to a certain race, which they happen to be attracted to, make them seem like they're selective due to the race of the people they prefer to date. I don't think this is completely unnatural either, as most people tend to like/be attracted to things that are rare around where they live. For example: in most tropical countries like Asia where they get plenty of sunlight, lighter-skinned people are considered more beautiful than the dark-skinned locals. In colder parts of United States like the Midwest, people like to get tanned %26amp; dark...
Reply:People who refuse to date someone who share the same skin tone, have some sort of physiological problems. There is this girl (white) who will only date non-white guys because her dad physically abused her when she was little...
Also I have a black friend who will only date non-black guys because her dad walked out on the family when she was young.
Reply:Well it all depends maybe they are not attractive to their own kind... Maybe they find their own to be very much alike... Maybe they just don't want too... Maybe they have had bad experiences in the past and judge them to be all alike... Maybe they haven't found the right one... Or just maybe they are just not saying oh I'm going to only date those who are of the same race as me.... What ever their personal reason is then well we must respect everyone personal decision... We don't choose who to love or do we!
Anyways I treat everyone the same and give everyone the benefit of the doubt... I accept everyone for who they are :)
Reply:I agree!
Reply:Yes, a person is a person. But we are all wired differently and that often manifests itself in our preferences. It's no one's business WHO we are attracted to.
Just because a person is attracted to certain qualities doesn't make it racist. We are entitled to preferences.
Some people like white cars, some like blue.... it's the same thing. Don't read TOO much into it!
Reply:well i personally prefer white ppl idk why but thats how i feel but i want to be with my own race (which is mexican) because i feel that i want to stay with my own people. so thats why i like half white half mexican people. people can like who ever they want like i will go out with any race except black people...its not that im racist or anything but i just dont see myself with that certain race. thats just how i see it.
Reply:maybe its just they havent found the right guy in their own race i can relate to this most white guys are only after one type of girl the skinny skinny flat *** and chested kinda girl and black guys like to have a thick big *** and chest girl mexicans like the same and white guys are more rednecked thn the others so maybe they just need to find the right person in that particular race and havent found them so they just stoped looking in that area
Thursday, November 19, 2009
First date with my female friend?
Me and my female friend have been friends for about a year now I can we have become really good friends. We have hung out many times before. We two do like interested in eachother. So I asked her on a date and she said yes. She just wanted to let me know that she doesn't want to lead me on because she is also interested in two other guys that are her friends and she dated them before. She just wanted to make sure it didn't bug me that she was dating the other two guys. At least she was honest! So it was cool with me..guess I would call it casual dating I guess.
Anyway, we are going to see a movie and have dinner afterwards. Any advice that I should know for a first date? clothes?, how to act, any moves or not? Please let me know!
Thank you!
First date with my female friend?
Hey Dan,
Just be yourself, be cool. Relax and chill out. Have a good time, No stress dude. You are going to see a movie? Best to pick what you both want to see. Share the popcorn that way your hands may touch.
Talk to her over dinner, get to know her better. All good man.
Reply:you've been seeing and talking for years already dude!dont be too concious,she likes you already and fun with you for what you are huh!so be it,just be your self,just wear what suits your style and as what fashion you into, how you do conversating with her is the thrill and is most important by the way ^_^..enjoy your date..
Reply:well dude. incase you havent realised. being so concerned about a casual date. you likew this girl man !.
haha . i;d say , since it's casual , it should just be like a "hang out" so just be yourself man
all the bets getting the girl of your dreams
Reply:Firstly....act yourself, she's a friend, she knows when you're putting up an act....which will make you look bad. Don't make any moves, it's a friend, it's a frist date. As for clothes....you do want to show her that you're making an effort....so go for a polo shirt with nice jeans, and clean sneakers, or a button up shirt if you want.
Reply:So shes dating you because she doesnt want to leave YOU out??
Hmmm... sounds like a pity date. Does she actually like you?
Anyway, just dress smart suit preferable, act mature no imaturity but have a laugh, moves.... well.... im not sure about that in your case.
Reply:I'd like to tell you some uesful tips on the first date do's according to my personal experience when dating people on the dating site richmingle.com. Maybe it can help.
1. Don’t focus too much on talk about what ”your type” is, and why you’ve been unsuccessful up to now. By describing your type, you may be insulting your date -- besides which, if you’re so sure of your type, why are you out on a first date?
You wouldn't like it if he told 36A you, that he usually goes for - bigger? blondes, and he wouldn't like it if you tell him you usually go out with guys who are more buff. So don't start telling him what you don't like, and why you - ve made an exception in this case. It's not just bad manners - it's not productive.
2. Don’t be rude or use questionable manners. Don’t say, ”Shut up,” ”Get out,” or any other playful put down -- and don’t curse. Learn to communicate without these language crutches.
3. Don’t start asking your first date to commit to a party in August, a weekend in September, and meeting your friends at Christmas -- on the first date. Even if you like this other person a lot, stay cool. Don’t play all your cards at once, and don’t make commitments so far in advance on a first -- or second -- date. If this is going to turn into a second date, then you can pick up my book, The Next 50 Dates for ideas to keep the fun going and the tension low.
And for a few laughs - at least I hope you'll think they're funny, here are my top 10 lines you shouldn't say - or hear - on your first (or any) date.
Reply:simply dress up, not much of perfume.
act normal,
be a good boy.
enjoy, %26amp; good luck!
Reply:Wear something nice and not too dressy. Communication is the key towards attracting a woman. Tell her what you like about her and her good qualities. Talk to her as a friend. Find out her style and wear suitable clothes. It sounds like she likes you for you! Good luck
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Anyway, we are going to see a movie and have dinner afterwards. Any advice that I should know for a first date? clothes?, how to act, any moves or not? Please let me know!
Thank you!
First date with my female friend?
Hey Dan,
Just be yourself, be cool. Relax and chill out. Have a good time, No stress dude. You are going to see a movie? Best to pick what you both want to see. Share the popcorn that way your hands may touch.
Talk to her over dinner, get to know her better. All good man.
Reply:you've been seeing and talking for years already dude!dont be too concious,she likes you already and fun with you for what you are huh!so be it,just be your self,just wear what suits your style and as what fashion you into, how you do conversating with her is the thrill and is most important by the way ^_^..enjoy your date..
Reply:well dude. incase you havent realised. being so concerned about a casual date. you likew this girl man !.
haha . i;d say , since it's casual , it should just be like a "hang out" so just be yourself man
all the bets getting the girl of your dreams
Reply:Firstly....act yourself, she's a friend, she knows when you're putting up an act....which will make you look bad. Don't make any moves, it's a friend, it's a frist date. As for clothes....you do want to show her that you're making an effort....so go for a polo shirt with nice jeans, and clean sneakers, or a button up shirt if you want.
Reply:So shes dating you because she doesnt want to leave YOU out??
Hmmm... sounds like a pity date. Does she actually like you?
Anyway, just dress smart suit preferable, act mature no imaturity but have a laugh, moves.... well.... im not sure about that in your case.
Reply:I'd like to tell you some uesful tips on the first date do's according to my personal experience when dating people on the dating site richmingle.com. Maybe it can help.
1. Don’t focus too much on talk about what ”your type” is, and why you’ve been unsuccessful up to now. By describing your type, you may be insulting your date -- besides which, if you’re so sure of your type, why are you out on a first date?
You wouldn't like it if he told 36A you, that he usually goes for - bigger? blondes, and he wouldn't like it if you tell him you usually go out with guys who are more buff. So don't start telling him what you don't like, and why you - ve made an exception in this case. It's not just bad manners - it's not productive.
2. Don’t be rude or use questionable manners. Don’t say, ”Shut up,” ”Get out,” or any other playful put down -- and don’t curse. Learn to communicate without these language crutches.
3. Don’t start asking your first date to commit to a party in August, a weekend in September, and meeting your friends at Christmas -- on the first date. Even if you like this other person a lot, stay cool. Don’t play all your cards at once, and don’t make commitments so far in advance on a first -- or second -- date. If this is going to turn into a second date, then you can pick up my book, The Next 50 Dates for ideas to keep the fun going and the tension low.
And for a few laughs - at least I hope you'll think they're funny, here are my top 10 lines you shouldn't say - or hear - on your first (or any) date.
Reply:simply dress up, not much of perfume.
act normal,
be a good boy.
enjoy, %26amp; good luck!
Reply:Wear something nice and not too dressy. Communication is the key towards attracting a woman. Tell her what you like about her and her good qualities. Talk to her as a friend. Find out her style and wear suitable clothes. It sounds like she likes you for you! Good luck
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First Date Ideas?
I really like this girl and she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. I have a feeling that we might start dating soon %26amp; neither of us have been on a date (i'm 15, she's 16). I heard that movies were a bad first date because you don't get to talk that much. I need some better ideas for a date b/c I really like this girl and I want the first date to be memorable.
First Date Ideas?
Mini golf is a much better idea. Maybe some ice cream or something like that after. Then just hang out talking somewhere, like go for a walk in a park or something. Nothing to complicated.
Reply:aww. so cute! um, i don't know what a good first date is. sorry that doesn't help.
Reply:Make a picnic lunch and go to the beach and hang out, or rent a movie and go to your house and watch it
Reply:I know this one well. Go to a place where there is people. Like a good picnic or like a average restraunt a lot of people in your area like to go or hangout. Where people are in an relax environment.
The key is listen very well to what she is saying. A shopping mall is a good place then maybe you can go to a spot like if you live near the ocean, go to a bluff or if you live in the city maybe walk her to her house.
Some people like to do activities like miniture golf or street fairs.
You don't need to bring anything special. Just look clean and be positive. Have conersations about what you both like.
1 more place to have a date at. Both of you take a walk around the beach,lake, or any popular walking sites in your city. but I would the dinner or lunch thing first then do this.
good luck
Reply:find out wut she like if she likes something u like ask her on a date dont lie tell the truth dont studer and on the first date no sex but when u do have sex go to the limit
*remember on the first date learn as much about her as u can*
Reply:Go to the bowling alley, or a really fun resturant so she doesn't feel nervous. I don't know where you live but maybe the beach/lake afterwards....
Reply:Walk through the park, putt putt golf (spelled wrong), bowling --- uuuuhhhh I love bowling. Good Luck.
Reply:I am a 16-year-old girl, and this is what I think you should do: since you two haven't actually started dating yet, the first date should be fun and memorable, not deep and serious. I would suggest maybe a school basketball/football game, a school dance, a theme park or festival (it's summer time, so town festivals and fairs are usually everywhere), or maybe paintball. Movies can be sort of awkward since you two don't get to talk, and if you go out to dinner, there may be awkward times when neither of you have anything to say. The dates I recommended are fun and can be romantic if you want them to be. As you two get further along in your relationship, then you can attempt the "dinner-and-a-movie" date. Until then, have fun, get to know her, and see where it goes. Good luck!
Reply:Beach, picnic somewhere, arcade, amusement parks....a cemetary...spooky walk
Reply:first date are never memorable, its disastrous. don't worry you'll forget about and she'll forget about you. haha
First Date Ideas?
Mini golf is a much better idea. Maybe some ice cream or something like that after. Then just hang out talking somewhere, like go for a walk in a park or something. Nothing to complicated.
Reply:aww. so cute! um, i don't know what a good first date is. sorry that doesn't help.
Reply:Make a picnic lunch and go to the beach and hang out, or rent a movie and go to your house and watch it
Reply:I know this one well. Go to a place where there is people. Like a good picnic or like a average restraunt a lot of people in your area like to go or hangout. Where people are in an relax environment.
The key is listen very well to what she is saying. A shopping mall is a good place then maybe you can go to a spot like if you live near the ocean, go to a bluff or if you live in the city maybe walk her to her house.
Some people like to do activities like miniture golf or street fairs.
You don't need to bring anything special. Just look clean and be positive. Have conersations about what you both like.
1 more place to have a date at. Both of you take a walk around the beach,lake, or any popular walking sites in your city. but I would the dinner or lunch thing first then do this.
good luck
Reply:find out wut she like if she likes something u like ask her on a date dont lie tell the truth dont studer and on the first date no sex but when u do have sex go to the limit
*remember on the first date learn as much about her as u can*
Reply:Go to the bowling alley, or a really fun resturant so she doesn't feel nervous. I don't know where you live but maybe the beach/lake afterwards....
Reply:Walk through the park, putt putt golf (spelled wrong), bowling --- uuuuhhhh I love bowling. Good Luck.
Reply:I am a 16-year-old girl, and this is what I think you should do: since you two haven't actually started dating yet, the first date should be fun and memorable, not deep and serious. I would suggest maybe a school basketball/football game, a school dance, a theme park or festival (it's summer time, so town festivals and fairs are usually everywhere), or maybe paintball. Movies can be sort of awkward since you two don't get to talk, and if you go out to dinner, there may be awkward times when neither of you have anything to say. The dates I recommended are fun and can be romantic if you want them to be. As you two get further along in your relationship, then you can attempt the "dinner-and-a-movie" date. Until then, have fun, get to know her, and see where it goes. Good luck!
Reply:Beach, picnic somewhere, arcade, amusement parks....a cemetary...spooky walk
Reply:first date are never memorable, its disastrous. don't worry you'll forget about and she'll forget about you. haha
Third Date Sex?
Acceptable Third Date physical contact?
I met this guy a little over two weeks we have only been out twice since we met because of the holidays. We have talked on the phone quite a bit however. We kissed pretty heavily on our second date. Tonight is our third date and while I do not plan on sleeping with him now I was wondering what acceptable third date physical contract would consist of. Just more kissing? Please don't say "whatever feels right" or "it depends" type answers. I just want to get some ideas of ways we can get closer without going all the way and without making a **** of myself. Is sleeping with a guy on the third date bad if you want a relationship?
Third Date Sex?
Get the relationship first and then sleep with him. You don't want to cheapen making love.
Reply:no but if you want to be in a serious relationship i woukd wait longer then the 3rd date
Reply:Slip your bra straps down so that your breasts are uncovered. Let him see your breasts but not touch or kiss them. Kiss his mouth with your tongue. Raise your skirt or open your pants zipper and show him your panties. Stroke him "down there" through clothes to completion. Keep your panty on. Keep his hands off your thigh area. Don't take "It" out and don't let him get "It" out of his pants or into you. Allow a little more sexual play on each date but stick to the "not inside me" rule. Tell him that the date on which you will allow him full sex is 28 Dec 2009 at the earliest.
Reply:its not bad to sleep with a guy on the third date, but if i was you i wouldnt go that far. see what he wants to do and if your ok with that then just do it
Reply:Is it bad? No!! But YOU have to be comfortable with it!! I have always been the type of girl who would not even KISS my boyfriends ... and then I met my soon to be husband. We talked to each other for almost a year and then finally decided to go out on a date. It was magical the way we connected and he felt the same way. I slept with him on our second date ... and now we are getting married!
If YOU are comfortable with it and you trust in him than go for it! There is nothing wrong with it. If you are not comfortable yet then I suggest you keep it at just some passionate kissing. Let the make out session get super heated and then hold yourself back!! Makes it more exciting for you and him and believe me .. if he is really into you ... he will wait!
Reply:two letters: B %26amp; J
Reply:Tell him just exactly what you told us. It was very flattering when women told me they wanted to but it was to soon.
Reply:Is it bad? No. For me by the third date I've either already slept with him or there isn't a third date.
Reply:*queue religions r tards telling you to wait till marriage*
Just do what you want to do and dont sleep with him. simple.
when he invites you up, say no.
Reply:a little soon if you wanna make it last, do you even really know the guy?
Reply:right now you should be trying to get to know each other! if you throw physical stuff in there now then that will dominate your relationship or thats basically what hes going to see in you! i didnt kiss my bf alot in the beginning hell i didnt even show him much affection! but because i was so cold he knew that he had to work to get me and boy did he! my advice is to cool it for now.
Reply:If I dont get action on the third date, I will definently kick her to the kerb! I mean man what is she waiting for does she like me or not? you should know by third date! Its comen knowledge The third date is it it's on! are we going to fine out how we get our freek on ore not!! hell its the third date!!! You now whats up he should know whats up!
h*ll if I am into somebody the first date it is on!
ever heard of a one night stand!
I have made relationships out of one night stands!
Third date he should be expecting it!!
USE PROTECTION!!!!
Reply:Yea its not a good idea to sleep with him so soon! If he is looking for a relationship, he probably wants a respectable girl! So don't give it up so easily! Hang in there hun!
I met this guy a little over two weeks we have only been out twice since we met because of the holidays. We have talked on the phone quite a bit however. We kissed pretty heavily on our second date. Tonight is our third date and while I do not plan on sleeping with him now I was wondering what acceptable third date physical contract would consist of. Just more kissing? Please don't say "whatever feels right" or "it depends" type answers. I just want to get some ideas of ways we can get closer without going all the way and without making a **** of myself. Is sleeping with a guy on the third date bad if you want a relationship?
Third Date Sex?
Get the relationship first and then sleep with him. You don't want to cheapen making love.
Reply:no but if you want to be in a serious relationship i woukd wait longer then the 3rd date
Reply:Slip your bra straps down so that your breasts are uncovered. Let him see your breasts but not touch or kiss them. Kiss his mouth with your tongue. Raise your skirt or open your pants zipper and show him your panties. Stroke him "down there" through clothes to completion. Keep your panty on. Keep his hands off your thigh area. Don't take "It" out and don't let him get "It" out of his pants or into you. Allow a little more sexual play on each date but stick to the "not inside me" rule. Tell him that the date on which you will allow him full sex is 28 Dec 2009 at the earliest.
Reply:its not bad to sleep with a guy on the third date, but if i was you i wouldnt go that far. see what he wants to do and if your ok with that then just do it
Reply:Is it bad? No!! But YOU have to be comfortable with it!! I have always been the type of girl who would not even KISS my boyfriends ... and then I met my soon to be husband. We talked to each other for almost a year and then finally decided to go out on a date. It was magical the way we connected and he felt the same way. I slept with him on our second date ... and now we are getting married!
If YOU are comfortable with it and you trust in him than go for it! There is nothing wrong with it. If you are not comfortable yet then I suggest you keep it at just some passionate kissing. Let the make out session get super heated and then hold yourself back!! Makes it more exciting for you and him and believe me .. if he is really into you ... he will wait!
Reply:two letters: B %26amp; J
Reply:Tell him just exactly what you told us. It was very flattering when women told me they wanted to but it was to soon.
Reply:Is it bad? No. For me by the third date I've either already slept with him or there isn't a third date.
Reply:*queue religions r tards telling you to wait till marriage*
Just do what you want to do and dont sleep with him. simple.
when he invites you up, say no.
Reply:a little soon if you wanna make it last, do you even really know the guy?
Reply:right now you should be trying to get to know each other! if you throw physical stuff in there now then that will dominate your relationship or thats basically what hes going to see in you! i didnt kiss my bf alot in the beginning hell i didnt even show him much affection! but because i was so cold he knew that he had to work to get me and boy did he! my advice is to cool it for now.
Reply:If I dont get action on the third date, I will definently kick her to the kerb! I mean man what is she waiting for does she like me or not? you should know by third date! Its comen knowledge The third date is it it's on! are we going to fine out how we get our freek on ore not!! hell its the third date!!! You now whats up he should know whats up!
h*ll if I am into somebody the first date it is on!
ever heard of a one night stand!
I have made relationships out of one night stands!
Third date he should be expecting it!!
USE PROTECTION!!!!
Reply:Yea its not a good idea to sleep with him so soon! If he is looking for a relationship, he probably wants a respectable girl! So don't give it up so easily! Hang in there hun!
To date or not to date? To have sex with or not to have sex with That is the question!? Confused, HELP!?
Okiedokie, there are a few different questions in here, so try to give opinions on whatever you feel like. I’m just lost here.
There is a guy I know. He‘s nice, sweet, and always hits on me…
Physically, some days I think he’s attractive, others not. Conventionally, he wouldn’t be, though that’s never mattered to me…
I have considered dating him, but my closest friends said it wasn’t a good idea, because of the way he looks and how he’s a total goofball. They all kept saying “Oh come on, you can’t be that desperate. We’ll be disappointed in you if you date him. You could do better, you know you can. No one would ever date him anyway.”
So, because I trust these people, I started to believe that this guy was too repulsive to date, or just plain too weird… even though he’s incredibly sweet.
Well, now, there’s this girl that’s basically in love with him, but he doesn’t feel the same way about her. In terms of attractiveness, she isn’t hideous, either. Actually sorta cute.
To date or not to date? To have sex with or not to have sex with That is the question!? Confused, HELP!?
Well, I would have 2 bits of advice for you, %26amp; I hope they make sense. First, don't be a tool %26amp; let what your friends think guide your every decision. Not to offend you or anything, but that really is being a tool, in my opinion. When I see girls who are so worried about how their friends will react if they date a guy, I think they are tools. Instead, have the courage to do what you want to do. True friends will support you %26amp; be happy for you, even if they can't understand your attraction to this guy. One of my best friends is married to a woman who reminds me of a foul-mouthed Edith Bunker, %26amp; I find her disgusting, but if he's happy, I'm happy for him. This guy may be a goofball %26amp; of average looks, but he might also turn out to be the sort of guy who will treat you like the only woman in the world. Heck, he might be one of those good guys who never gets a chance, because girls' friends are always badmouthing him.
That said, onto my second bit of advice: go slowly. Yeah, you want to lose your virginity, that's understandable. However, you aren't particularly sure if this is the right guy to experience sex with for the first time. So, instead, take things at a pace with which you're fairly comfortable, %26amp; just build slowly until you get where you want to be. At the end of the first date, leave things with a goodnight kiss if that's all you're comfortable doing, but if you would rather bump things up to a goodnight series of kisses that fog the windshield, that's okay, too. As things progress, you'll need to let him go a little past your comfort threshold each date, %26amp; make sure he takes his time making you comfortable with the new activity. Just make sure you maintain control %26amp; that you have a condom on hand in case you decide you're ready for that first penetration. If you need any more advice, you might consult a site like the one below for more information.
Reply:Thanks for the votes %26amp; the 10 points! Report It
Reply:No, do not have sex for these reason. Wait for the right person to have sex with. You will regret it if you don't and you would be using this guy and that isn't right and you know it.
Reply:1. Figure out what you want.
Do you want a sweet guy whom does not give into temptation? Do you want good looks? Do you want someone you can trust?
2. Decide why you would date this guy.
Would you date him so the other girl can't have him?
3. Stand up for yourself.
Don't let your friends depict who you can and cannot date. It's your life, you handle it the way you want to.
4. Treat him nice (if you date him).
Self-explanatory.
Reply:Do not let your Friends substitute for your feelings, go it slow do not feel rushed or a need to please any one but yourself.
Reply:Go for it -- the date, at least. If it works, try a few more. Then you can make a more intelligent choice about whether you want to hustle him into the sack. Sex is fun, but it is also complicated, so be ready to deal with its effect on your feelings.
Reply:Listen sweetie pie--this is kid crap--find a decent guy that you want to date for the right reasons--do what you want to do--with who you want to do it with---even if it is a repulsive obnoxious boy--if that is what you want--it is no one elses business. What are you going to do?? ---ask people all your life about what you should do...??? It does not sound like you are old enough or mature enough or even educated enough to have any kind of sexual encounter. Who ever the partner is--you will have to marry him if HE gets you pregnant---make sure you want this guy for the next 18 years of raising a kid. I am assuming you know sex brings babies....and sometimes even a fatal disease. How precious !!!
Reply:You have a very interesting predicament. I think it is very important to consider the advise of close friends when it comes to dating and relationships. They can give objective observations which you otherwise wouldn't see. Having said that, it does seem to me that your friends' opinions are very superficial. Just because they don't find the guy attractive doesn't mean you shouldn't. And so what if he isn't, as long as your attracted to him?
Now, as for making out with him, this gets trickier. It all boils down to whether or not you feel you will regret it afterwards. If all you want is a one-night stand regardless of the outcome, then by all means go ahead. But if you're expecting something deeper, and it does turn out he was just lusting after you, ask yourself if you will be disappointed and regret having done it. If your answer is yes, then my advise is don't do it.
Reply:Do it.
Reply:letting other people decide who you should and shopuld not date sounds very dumb to me! what if he is great looking and a jerk and they think its ok you would be out with him already?? please you deserve the jerks for thinking that way!
Reply:if youre too confused then why are you worried about having sex if your mind isnt straight? i think you will regret it, so many girls say they regret giving up their virginity to a guy they dont even see anymore or didnt care, it bothers me that so many girls are just having sex for the heck of it. you need to get your head straight before making a decision instead of an unbalanced one. and youre friends who say hes nothing is rude, they dont know him and they already made you turn against him, dont always assume the worst
Reply:You only live once. Women, including myself, complain that there aren't enough GOOD men in the world and completely ignore the fact that there is usually a really good man chasing after us. We make up every excuse in the entire book as to why its a bad idea.
I'd say go for it. What could it hurt? Honestly think about it! You have control over your feelings. You can date him without getting emotionally attached if you keep telling yourself that. Do that until you really think that he's worth your heart and soul. Give a little bit and a little more if things are going good.
Reply:Attraction is a funny thing. It certainly isn't always based on looks, and conventional standards of beauty. If your so called friends find it necessary to manipulate you in the manner that you've described...you may want to re evaluate those relationships. Best Wishes :)
Reply:hun, im 29 years old...... never listen to ya "friends" as far as romance goes. that "loser guy" could turn out to be just what you need. popularity has NOTHING TO DO WITH DATING OR LOVE !!!
if you take advice from ya friends, make sure its "dont do drugs" "dont have sex w/o a condom" or "dont smoke" .... got that?
not one person in tha world has control over you or your emotions.....yer young, follow YOUR heart, not OTHER peoples say-so.
There is a guy I know. He‘s nice, sweet, and always hits on me…
Physically, some days I think he’s attractive, others not. Conventionally, he wouldn’t be, though that’s never mattered to me…
I have considered dating him, but my closest friends said it wasn’t a good idea, because of the way he looks and how he’s a total goofball. They all kept saying “Oh come on, you can’t be that desperate. We’ll be disappointed in you if you date him. You could do better, you know you can. No one would ever date him anyway.”
So, because I trust these people, I started to believe that this guy was too repulsive to date, or just plain too weird… even though he’s incredibly sweet.
Well, now, there’s this girl that’s basically in love with him, but he doesn’t feel the same way about her. In terms of attractiveness, she isn’t hideous, either. Actually sorta cute.
To date or not to date? To have sex with or not to have sex with That is the question!? Confused, HELP!?
Well, I would have 2 bits of advice for you, %26amp; I hope they make sense. First, don't be a tool %26amp; let what your friends think guide your every decision. Not to offend you or anything, but that really is being a tool, in my opinion. When I see girls who are so worried about how their friends will react if they date a guy, I think they are tools. Instead, have the courage to do what you want to do. True friends will support you %26amp; be happy for you, even if they can't understand your attraction to this guy. One of my best friends is married to a woman who reminds me of a foul-mouthed Edith Bunker, %26amp; I find her disgusting, but if he's happy, I'm happy for him. This guy may be a goofball %26amp; of average looks, but he might also turn out to be the sort of guy who will treat you like the only woman in the world. Heck, he might be one of those good guys who never gets a chance, because girls' friends are always badmouthing him.
That said, onto my second bit of advice: go slowly. Yeah, you want to lose your virginity, that's understandable. However, you aren't particularly sure if this is the right guy to experience sex with for the first time. So, instead, take things at a pace with which you're fairly comfortable, %26amp; just build slowly until you get where you want to be. At the end of the first date, leave things with a goodnight kiss if that's all you're comfortable doing, but if you would rather bump things up to a goodnight series of kisses that fog the windshield, that's okay, too. As things progress, you'll need to let him go a little past your comfort threshold each date, %26amp; make sure he takes his time making you comfortable with the new activity. Just make sure you maintain control %26amp; that you have a condom on hand in case you decide you're ready for that first penetration. If you need any more advice, you might consult a site like the one below for more information.
Reply:Thanks for the votes %26amp; the 10 points! Report It
Reply:No, do not have sex for these reason. Wait for the right person to have sex with. You will regret it if you don't and you would be using this guy and that isn't right and you know it.
Reply:1. Figure out what you want.
Do you want a sweet guy whom does not give into temptation? Do you want good looks? Do you want someone you can trust?
2. Decide why you would date this guy.
Would you date him so the other girl can't have him?
3. Stand up for yourself.
Don't let your friends depict who you can and cannot date. It's your life, you handle it the way you want to.
4. Treat him nice (if you date him).
Self-explanatory.
Reply:Do not let your Friends substitute for your feelings, go it slow do not feel rushed or a need to please any one but yourself.
Reply:Go for it -- the date, at least. If it works, try a few more. Then you can make a more intelligent choice about whether you want to hustle him into the sack. Sex is fun, but it is also complicated, so be ready to deal with its effect on your feelings.
Reply:Listen sweetie pie--this is kid crap--find a decent guy that you want to date for the right reasons--do what you want to do--with who you want to do it with---even if it is a repulsive obnoxious boy--if that is what you want--it is no one elses business. What are you going to do?? ---ask people all your life about what you should do...??? It does not sound like you are old enough or mature enough or even educated enough to have any kind of sexual encounter. Who ever the partner is--you will have to marry him if HE gets you pregnant---make sure you want this guy for the next 18 years of raising a kid. I am assuming you know sex brings babies....and sometimes even a fatal disease. How precious !!!
Reply:You have a very interesting predicament. I think it is very important to consider the advise of close friends when it comes to dating and relationships. They can give objective observations which you otherwise wouldn't see. Having said that, it does seem to me that your friends' opinions are very superficial. Just because they don't find the guy attractive doesn't mean you shouldn't. And so what if he isn't, as long as your attracted to him?
Now, as for making out with him, this gets trickier. It all boils down to whether or not you feel you will regret it afterwards. If all you want is a one-night stand regardless of the outcome, then by all means go ahead. But if you're expecting something deeper, and it does turn out he was just lusting after you, ask yourself if you will be disappointed and regret having done it. If your answer is yes, then my advise is don't do it.
Reply:Do it.
Reply:letting other people decide who you should and shopuld not date sounds very dumb to me! what if he is great looking and a jerk and they think its ok you would be out with him already?? please you deserve the jerks for thinking that way!
Reply:if youre too confused then why are you worried about having sex if your mind isnt straight? i think you will regret it, so many girls say they regret giving up their virginity to a guy they dont even see anymore or didnt care, it bothers me that so many girls are just having sex for the heck of it. you need to get your head straight before making a decision instead of an unbalanced one. and youre friends who say hes nothing is rude, they dont know him and they already made you turn against him, dont always assume the worst
Reply:You only live once. Women, including myself, complain that there aren't enough GOOD men in the world and completely ignore the fact that there is usually a really good man chasing after us. We make up every excuse in the entire book as to why its a bad idea.
I'd say go for it. What could it hurt? Honestly think about it! You have control over your feelings. You can date him without getting emotionally attached if you keep telling yourself that. Do that until you really think that he's worth your heart and soul. Give a little bit and a little more if things are going good.
Reply:Attraction is a funny thing. It certainly isn't always based on looks, and conventional standards of beauty. If your so called friends find it necessary to manipulate you in the manner that you've described...you may want to re evaluate those relationships. Best Wishes :)
Reply:hun, im 29 years old...... never listen to ya "friends" as far as romance goes. that "loser guy" could turn out to be just what you need. popularity has NOTHING TO DO WITH DATING OR LOVE !!!
if you take advice from ya friends, make sure its "dont do drugs" "dont have sex w/o a condom" or "dont smoke" .... got that?
not one person in tha world has control over you or your emotions.....yer young, follow YOUR heart, not OTHER peoples say-so.
Second date question?
I am now in the dating scene again after being in a 10 year marriage and sort of forget how to date (court) someone again. I know it sounds silly, but it's true. What is the proper for a second date (as far as flowers/gifts) We've already decided we are "seeing" each other. She and I both have talked about the fact that we are "perfect" for each other... so I want to do this right...
Should I bring a flower or flowers? Gift?
For our second date we will go to dinner and a movie.
We're both in our 30s if that makes a difference as far as etiquette is concerned?
Also, is holding hands proper on a second date? I seriously forget LOL I didn't think I would either....
Thanks in advance.
Second date question?
Bring her a pink rose, hold her hand or put your arm around her shoulder when you're walking. Touch her hair. Take it slow, there is no rush. Just be yourself. Complement her. If and when you want to kiss her, ask her if it's ok first, don't just move in on her. Good luck and thanks for asking. Thats more than I can say for most men. You sound like a nice guy!
Reply:Go with your gut on the flowers.
Take it slow but steady, be your best but true self and most importantly Have FUN
Being kind, polite is alway in vogue. The particulars of what you do is up to you.
What will be will be.
Reply:depending what kind of girl she is, nothing at all would be fine. but if you want to earn brownie points, then yes, a flower would be nice! if she likes pretty things and needs a lot, then buy flowers, but if she is down to earth, just one will do.
also, holding hands is timeless. it doesn't really matter when you do it, as long as you both feel comfortable. why don't you try touching her hand, or try holding it. if she hold your hand back, then great! if she pulls away, just realize that she's not ready and that you should wait a little while longer. and, think about ending the date with a kiss on the cheek. depending on how close you two are, and how the date goes.
best of luck to you!
Reply:boy are you rusty or what? well try this first date flowers, women love flowers. Second date dinner and flowers, holding hands is fine from the first date (worked for me) don't push the issue taking a walk is good drive out some where this all depends on what your date likes good luck
Reply:Flowers is fine.. so it a bottle of wine!
Holding hands... at the age of 30??? U should be on second or third base on your second date!
veneers
Should I bring a flower or flowers? Gift?
For our second date we will go to dinner and a movie.
We're both in our 30s if that makes a difference as far as etiquette is concerned?
Also, is holding hands proper on a second date? I seriously forget LOL I didn't think I would either....
Thanks in advance.
Second date question?
Bring her a pink rose, hold her hand or put your arm around her shoulder when you're walking. Touch her hair. Take it slow, there is no rush. Just be yourself. Complement her. If and when you want to kiss her, ask her if it's ok first, don't just move in on her. Good luck and thanks for asking. Thats more than I can say for most men. You sound like a nice guy!
Reply:Go with your gut on the flowers.
Take it slow but steady, be your best but true self and most importantly Have FUN
Being kind, polite is alway in vogue. The particulars of what you do is up to you.
What will be will be.
Reply:depending what kind of girl she is, nothing at all would be fine. but if you want to earn brownie points, then yes, a flower would be nice! if she likes pretty things and needs a lot, then buy flowers, but if she is down to earth, just one will do.
also, holding hands is timeless. it doesn't really matter when you do it, as long as you both feel comfortable. why don't you try touching her hand, or try holding it. if she hold your hand back, then great! if she pulls away, just realize that she's not ready and that you should wait a little while longer. and, think about ending the date with a kiss on the cheek. depending on how close you two are, and how the date goes.
best of luck to you!
Reply:boy are you rusty or what? well try this first date flowers, women love flowers. Second date dinner and flowers, holding hands is fine from the first date (worked for me) don't push the issue taking a walk is good drive out some where this all depends on what your date likes good luck
Reply:Flowers is fine.. so it a bottle of wine!
Holding hands... at the age of 30??? U should be on second or third base on your second date!
veneers
Blind date with a celebrity?
random question. i just thought about this the other day and decided to see what other's reactions would be. So, here's the thing. One day, you decide to go on a blind date. You get to the place you're meeting your date, you realize...they're famous!!!!!!!! wouldn't that be awkward? i mean, obviously, if you want to take this date seriously you don't want to act like a fan...but, come on! you're on a date with a celebrity! what would you do? would you... -------A) jump up and down and scream "I'M ON A DATE WITH [Insert celeb's name here]------- B) ask for an autograph------- C) act cool and pretend you don't know who they are so that (at least you think) you might have a chance with them (unless of course they're one of those very well known actors/actresses in which case 'c' is inapplicable)------- D) be yourself...(i'd be too nervous to be myself though)------- E) other! (and what is other?)
Blind date with a celebrity?
GOD GOOD QUESTION. I WOULD PROBABLY PICK E.. IT WOULD DEPEND ON WHO THE CELEBRITY WAS. I WOULD PROBABLY PEE MY PANTS OR PASS OUT AND HAVE TO BE RUSHED TO THE HOSP.
Reply:D
Reply:I have met a bunch of Celebs. So it really does not matter, who they are, what matters is how they treat me. If they are worth knowing in the long run, then I am up for it.
Always in the back of your mind, you should just remember, almost all, celebrity relationships end sometime or another.
If you hear about in the trash mags, then the chances of it lasting are slim to none.
Reese Witherspoon %26amp; Ryan Phillippe just split up, so maybe I'll date her!
If I do, you will never hear about it. lol
Reply:What they would like you to do is act normal, be yourself...They do live normal lives and love to be around normal people you treat them just like everyone else...
Reply:hi
Reply:i have been on a date with a celebrity and i was my self it was nothing special and i do wish i had hung on to him but if i had i wouldnt have the love of my life or our daughter and he was a wrestler
Blind date with a celebrity?
GOD GOOD QUESTION. I WOULD PROBABLY PICK E.. IT WOULD DEPEND ON WHO THE CELEBRITY WAS. I WOULD PROBABLY PEE MY PANTS OR PASS OUT AND HAVE TO BE RUSHED TO THE HOSP.
Reply:D
Reply:I have met a bunch of Celebs. So it really does not matter, who they are, what matters is how they treat me. If they are worth knowing in the long run, then I am up for it.
Always in the back of your mind, you should just remember, almost all, celebrity relationships end sometime or another.
If you hear about in the trash mags, then the chances of it lasting are slim to none.
Reese Witherspoon %26amp; Ryan Phillippe just split up, so maybe I'll date her!
If I do, you will never hear about it. lol
Reply:What they would like you to do is act normal, be yourself...They do live normal lives and love to be around normal people you treat them just like everyone else...
Reply:hi
Reply:i have been on a date with a celebrity and i was my self it was nothing special and i do wish i had hung on to him but if i had i wouldnt have the love of my life or our daughter and he was a wrestler
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