I am a hs senior, and have limited experience (1 other first date)
The story. This girl, and I have been flirting for the last 2-3 months. I was finally able to ask her out last tues
I know that she was interested (we both ditched our boosters dates, plus other events). However, when the date happened, i crashed and burned.
We went to get ice cream, and later see a film (apocalipto, yes i know). The date went well. She was fun, and the discussion was rich, laughter, etc. This was untill the movie. At the movie, I was probably a bit annoying and went for a kiss when i shouldn't have. The kiss was agressive, and bad. The date ended, and when i drove her home, she hugged me and smiled.
For the next few days, she dodged me untill finally i forced the topic. "It was too fast, and she said" and needs time to think.
A week later, it is still awkward, but we have 3 clases together.
I am tempted to force the topic and either get a 2nd try or a release for other opportunties.
Bombed a date 1 week ago, what should i do now?
Just try to talk to her about it and just tell her that u made a mistake to kiss her too early. Than ask her if you guys can start it again on a another date. I hope things goes well you you bro!
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Is the date on Trader Joe's milk the "sell-by" date or "best by" date? (the carton doesn't specify)
I have a carton of Trader Joe's milk and the date says 1/20/08. Does this mean it expires on this date, or is that just the sell-by date? The carton doesn't specify. Thanks!
Is the date on Trader Joe's milk the "sell-by" date or "best by" date? (the carton doesn't specify)
definitely a best-by date.
Reply:its good for a week after that date
Reply:usually it's the sell by date.... it's ok to use it but when you do open it use it rather quickly but it shouldnt hurt anything! I am pretty sure you can use stuff up to a week after the sell by date and it's fine!
Reply:okay i dnt live in america and im guessing u do bcoz we dnt have trader joes in western australia but i noe that sell by is when the milk should be sold and its safe to be sold if its like 1 day after sell by they might sell it cheaper but chek the diference beetween sell by and best by if sell by is earlier then i must be right best by in australia is by wehn it should be consumed withoput any health risk so yer ! good luck and dont have it if its old or ur not shore!
Is the date on Trader Joe's milk the "sell-by" date or "best by" date? (the carton doesn't specify)
definitely a best-by date.
Reply:its good for a week after that date
Reply:usually it's the sell by date.... it's ok to use it but when you do open it use it rather quickly but it shouldnt hurt anything! I am pretty sure you can use stuff up to a week after the sell by date and it's fine!
Reply:okay i dnt live in america and im guessing u do bcoz we dnt have trader joes in western australia but i noe that sell by is when the milk should be sold and its safe to be sold if its like 1 day after sell by they might sell it cheaper but chek the diference beetween sell by and best by if sell by is earlier then i must be right best by in australia is by wehn it should be consumed withoput any health risk so yer ! good luck and dont have it if its old or ur not shore!
Date or not to date?
Ok so there is a dance coming up at my school and its really formal and you normally take a date. Thing is I dont like anyone and I dont know who to ask or what to do. Me and my bf broke up in december and we are just starting to become good friends again and he likes this girl, who im friends with but she doesnt like him like that. I really want him to go to the dance so we can hang out and talk and stuff because I will mostlikly be a third weel and it would be fun to have someone to hang with. but if i have a date i will feel inclined to hang out with him and if my ex comes i will really want to be hanging with him and not my date. THe whole me and my ex thing is kinda complicated we have known each other for years and are really close friends. So i guess what my question is should i go alone to the dance and have a good time and convince my ex to be a loner with me or should i ask someone even though i dont like anyone?
Date or not to date?
the most important thing is to have fun at a dance. if you feel in you heart that youll have a better time by yourself, then do that. if you feel like you and your ex can have a great time together, thats ok too. friends can go together to dances. people do it all the time. good luck and have fun.
Reply:just go with your friends and have a good time
Reply:If you don't like anyone, you shouldn't ask anyone or go with someone who asks you unless they know your just going as friends. If you do go with them, and go as their date, thats bad. Don't lead the poor guy on.
Reply:i rather go with my friends and have loaads of fun...lol...paarrtayy!!
Date or not to date?
the most important thing is to have fun at a dance. if you feel in you heart that youll have a better time by yourself, then do that. if you feel like you and your ex can have a great time together, thats ok too. friends can go together to dances. people do it all the time. good luck and have fun.
Reply:just go with your friends and have a good time
Reply:If you don't like anyone, you shouldn't ask anyone or go with someone who asks you unless they know your just going as friends. If you do go with them, and go as their date, thats bad. Don't lead the poor guy on.
Reply:i rather go with my friends and have loaads of fun...lol...paarrtayy!!
Right time to date a girl and kiss too!?
I am in 7th grade and next year I was thinking of going to ask a cute girl named alina out on a date so.. and when should I kiss on my date or is that to early for my first kiss and when should I date a girl, I really want to date this girl when she touched my hand in science class then I liked her and I want to date her so I don't want to wait till I drive My mom can not pay atention to me and drive to the movies or extera and be very polit and be INVISABLE to me and my date. HELP!!!
Right time to date a girl and kiss too!?
i think it is the perfect time. well go meet somewhere where is close and u guys both noe where it is. GOOD LUCK!!
Reply:I think 16 is a good age to start dating. Until then, I think it is safer to hang out with your friends in groups. I think you will be able to have more fun and for less money as well. Even when you are 16, I would recommend going on double dates for a while.
Reply:try walking with her to your date place
Reply:i would go for it!
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Right time to date a girl and kiss too!?
i think it is the perfect time. well go meet somewhere where is close and u guys both noe where it is. GOOD LUCK!!
Reply:I think 16 is a good age to start dating. Until then, I think it is safer to hang out with your friends in groups. I think you will be able to have more fun and for less money as well. Even when you are 16, I would recommend going on double dates for a while.
Reply:try walking with her to your date place
Reply:i would go for it!
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Boyfriend allows me to date other guys?
Ok...what are your thoughts on this. My (kind of) boyfriend who I have known for 6 years have been dating since high school, and throughout college. I am 23 and he is 21. I told him I was interested in another guy from work and he said it would be ok if we went on a couple dates. He is not ready to commit to me yet (he thinks we are both still young) and he wants me to date now as opposed to later (I won't cheat later in the relationship). This thing I don't get is that he is "allowing me" to go on dates with this guy and it doesn't bother him. He doesn't think of this guy as a threat to him, or his and my relationship, or he doesn't think I will develop feelings for someone else I guess he has a lot of pride. So I went on one date with this new guy, and the thing is, I think I do want to continue dating this new guy but I don't want to lose my long term boyfriend. What do you think about him allowing me to date other guys? And how should I tell him I want to see this new guy?
Boyfriend allows me to date other guys?
At first you called him your "kind of boyfriend" and then later on you said your long term boyfriend but from the sounds of it, it sounds like you two are dating but not exclusively so in that case you both can date other people if you want. However, if he considers you his girlfriend then there should be no outside dating and it's a red flag that he says you can date other people. Sounds like you two need to just move on though.
Reply:sweetie thats a trick bag dont continue datin the other guy. your boyfriend might just be giving you some freedom to see how strong the relationship really is. dont do it
Reply:your bf is off his head! is is dating others 2? if you want to keep your bf u better not say anythin
Reply:An open relationship is only going to work if both are willing to go through it. How would you feel if he goes on dates with other girls? If you don't like the idea then you have a choice to make. But if you're okay with it, then it's safe to talk to him about the terms and boundaries about this open relationship you guys are having - which means, tell him about how you feel about dating the other guy. If he is as open as I think he is, then it should be fine. And if you both agree with it, then you need to tell the other guy that he's not the only one you're seeing. Be fair to him.
So think whether it would bother you or not if he starts seeing other women and then take it from there. I personally wouldn't be able to go through an open relationship, but each person is different. So once you know which side are you on, you'd be able to make your decision.
Good luck.
Reply:well if he is letting you date other guys there must be another girl so just tell him how you feel
Reply:My SO gave me the same option about a year after we started dating. In this case, it was because I had never dated anyone else before, whereas he had been through many relationships. His stance was that he didn't want to tie me down in a long-term relationship and have me feel later in life that I didn't get to have as many experiences. I told him that wasn't an option for me and that I couldn't and didn't even want to see myself dating anyone else. We have been together now for almost 3 years and I still have not had any other relationships.
It depends on how you REALLY feel about it, whether or not you will admit that feeling to him. Either you are:
1) somewhat unsatisfied by your relationship with him, and are 'shopping around'
2) want to make him jealous and/or do something different sexually
3) your current boyfriend wants an opportunity to see new women
Anyway, what do you plan to do if you decide you also love this other guy, after you continue dating him for a while? Who is going to be more important to you?
Reply:Tell him like you told him the last time...
Reply:I have NEVER known of a guy to let his (potiental) girlfriend date other people. Is he dating other people? If so, then maybe it is time for you two to move on.
Boyfriend allows me to date other guys?
At first you called him your "kind of boyfriend" and then later on you said your long term boyfriend but from the sounds of it, it sounds like you two are dating but not exclusively so in that case you both can date other people if you want. However, if he considers you his girlfriend then there should be no outside dating and it's a red flag that he says you can date other people. Sounds like you two need to just move on though.
Reply:sweetie thats a trick bag dont continue datin the other guy. your boyfriend might just be giving you some freedom to see how strong the relationship really is. dont do it
Reply:your bf is off his head! is is dating others 2? if you want to keep your bf u better not say anythin
Reply:An open relationship is only going to work if both are willing to go through it. How would you feel if he goes on dates with other girls? If you don't like the idea then you have a choice to make. But if you're okay with it, then it's safe to talk to him about the terms and boundaries about this open relationship you guys are having - which means, tell him about how you feel about dating the other guy. If he is as open as I think he is, then it should be fine. And if you both agree with it, then you need to tell the other guy that he's not the only one you're seeing. Be fair to him.
So think whether it would bother you or not if he starts seeing other women and then take it from there. I personally wouldn't be able to go through an open relationship, but each person is different. So once you know which side are you on, you'd be able to make your decision.
Good luck.
Reply:well if he is letting you date other guys there must be another girl so just tell him how you feel
Reply:My SO gave me the same option about a year after we started dating. In this case, it was because I had never dated anyone else before, whereas he had been through many relationships. His stance was that he didn't want to tie me down in a long-term relationship and have me feel later in life that I didn't get to have as many experiences. I told him that wasn't an option for me and that I couldn't and didn't even want to see myself dating anyone else. We have been together now for almost 3 years and I still have not had any other relationships.
It depends on how you REALLY feel about it, whether or not you will admit that feeling to him. Either you are:
1) somewhat unsatisfied by your relationship with him, and are 'shopping around'
2) want to make him jealous and/or do something different sexually
3) your current boyfriend wants an opportunity to see new women
Anyway, what do you plan to do if you decide you also love this other guy, after you continue dating him for a while? Who is going to be more important to you?
Reply:Tell him like you told him the last time...
Reply:I have NEVER known of a guy to let his (potiental) girlfriend date other people. Is he dating other people? If so, then maybe it is time for you two to move on.
EXCEL - Conditional Formatting Alert Due Date?
EXCEL - Conditional Formatting Alert Due Date?
Heading in cell C1 POS Notification Date -- Cell C2 4/9/2007 (I need for this dated to go to red 60 days prior to the date shown.)
Heading in cell D1- POS Interview Date -- Cell D2 4/23/07 (I need this cell to turn green 7 days prior to date.)
Heading in cell E1 - POS Report Date -- Cell E2 5/1/2007 (I need the cell to turn blue 7 days prior to date)
Thank You
EXCEL - Conditional Formatting Alert Due Date?
This is tricky but can be accomplished even within the limitations of conditional formatting. The trick is to create another cell (usually in a hidden column) that contains the necessary if() function based upon current date comparison to cell C2 value. The result of this if() test in, say, cell Z2, should be equal to cell C2 if true and unequal if untrue. This Z2 formula looks like:
=IF($C2-60%26gt;TODAY(),$C2,$C2-1)
Now you have something in Z2 against which you can compare your value from C2, which is the basic limitation of the conditional formatting feature. Your conditional formatting criteria for cell C2 is thus:
"cell value; is greater than; =$Z2"
Your conditional formatting for this criteria being met would be set to a background pattern of red, or red font depending upon your preference.
I just tried this formula in a sample spreadsheet, and it worked perfectly even when copied to subsequent rows. As of today, all date values on or before 8/8/2007 show red becuse we are within 60 days. All dates from 8/9/2007 forward are normal font because we are not yet within 60 days.
If your question was about being within 60 days of a hard date entered in cell C1 rather than the current date, just replace "TODAY()" in the formula with "$C$1". I leave it to you to apply this same approach to your column D and E formatting.
Good luck!
I'll click your profile in a moment to see if I can E-mail you my example spreadsheet where I tested this solution. [Couldn't send the E-mail per your profile preferences.]
Heading in cell C1 POS Notification Date -- Cell C2 4/9/2007 (I need for this dated to go to red 60 days prior to the date shown.)
Heading in cell D1- POS Interview Date -- Cell D2 4/23/07 (I need this cell to turn green 7 days prior to date.)
Heading in cell E1 - POS Report Date -- Cell E2 5/1/2007 (I need the cell to turn blue 7 days prior to date)
Thank You
EXCEL - Conditional Formatting Alert Due Date?
This is tricky but can be accomplished even within the limitations of conditional formatting. The trick is to create another cell (usually in a hidden column) that contains the necessary if() function based upon current date comparison to cell C2 value. The result of this if() test in, say, cell Z2, should be equal to cell C2 if true and unequal if untrue. This Z2 formula looks like:
=IF($C2-60%26gt;TODAY(),$C2,$C2-1)
Now you have something in Z2 against which you can compare your value from C2, which is the basic limitation of the conditional formatting feature. Your conditional formatting criteria for cell C2 is thus:
"cell value; is greater than; =$Z2"
Your conditional formatting for this criteria being met would be set to a background pattern of red, or red font depending upon your preference.
I just tried this formula in a sample spreadsheet, and it worked perfectly even when copied to subsequent rows. As of today, all date values on or before 8/8/2007 show red becuse we are within 60 days. All dates from 8/9/2007 forward are normal font because we are not yet within 60 days.
If your question was about being within 60 days of a hard date entered in cell C1 rather than the current date, just replace "TODAY()" in the formula with "$C$1". I leave it to you to apply this same approach to your column D and E formatting.
Good luck!
I'll click your profile in a moment to see if I can E-mail you my example spreadsheet where I tested this solution. [Couldn't send the E-mail per your profile preferences.]
Date advice NEEDED for first date. please?
I've fallen for a girl who is one of my best friends, I have been
very good friends with her now for about a year. How ever she is one of my best friends sisters. He is fine with me liking her. And I finally asked her out on a date. I told her how I feel about her and asked her out to a movie this coming weekend.
I like her because shes an amazing person and not because of everything else.
Is she just going out on this date with me to be nice because we are such good friends? How can I know and what to do?
Now on this first date with her at this movie, how should I come on to her? hard and quickly? or take it slow and easy? meaning holding hands, arm around her, going for that kiss... ect.??
Date advice NEEDED for first date. please?
Did you set it straight that you want to be more than friends? Don't just give her subtle hints, that won't do any good........................... First.....................find out if the "date" is a DATE and not just another hang out..............................
Reply:i would recommend a strong mouthwash ... hehehehe...
hey man take it slowly ... holding hands arm arounds etc.. girls like this...
and i think u will have to take it slow coz of there will be a hesitation between u two i guess cz best friends turning lovers... u get what im tryin to say here?.... =)
Reply:Take it slow man. It is your best friends sister....so if you **** up with her, your friendship with him is going to be done. Most girls wouldnt say yes to a date unless they were intrested. She IS intrested, be sweet, arm and holding hands are cool if you think she wants it. I don't reccomend a kiss, but a peck would -probobly work.
Reply:Ummmmm. well I would start by saying, go to a funny movie, that way you can go slow and stay comfortable. next you could go to a scary movie and hold hand's. That's usually a good way to start.
Reply:i think that you should take it nice and slower always the girls favourite way. the reason she most probably said yes for is because she has come to like from being good friends. just think though if anythink was to go wrong between you would you still have that good friendship? you have to look at it from every angle. talk to her find out how she feels. make her feel special on this date and it might go further than you think. whilst your watching your movie you may put your arm around her but if she pulls away then remove your arm and take it slower. she might be feeling the same way as you right now. complement her on the way she looks tell her she looks beautiful and such things. this always makes a girl feel special. thats all girls want from men. so just remember take it slower don't push anyone faster than they want to go. good luck hope my advice was some good to you.
Reply:She might be going on a date with you because you are bestfriends and she might not. Did she confess any feelings for you/what did she do when you told her how you felt?
To find out if she likes you back, try stuff slowly. Buy her way in, share a soda with her/popcorn... Put your arm around her. If she responds positively then go for a kiss. If not, she just wants to be friends.
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very good friends with her now for about a year. How ever she is one of my best friends sisters. He is fine with me liking her. And I finally asked her out on a date. I told her how I feel about her and asked her out to a movie this coming weekend.
I like her because shes an amazing person and not because of everything else.
Is she just going out on this date with me to be nice because we are such good friends? How can I know and what to do?
Now on this first date with her at this movie, how should I come on to her? hard and quickly? or take it slow and easy? meaning holding hands, arm around her, going for that kiss... ect.??
Date advice NEEDED for first date. please?
Did you set it straight that you want to be more than friends? Don't just give her subtle hints, that won't do any good........................... First.....................find out if the "date" is a DATE and not just another hang out..............................
Reply:i would recommend a strong mouthwash ... hehehehe...
hey man take it slowly ... holding hands arm arounds etc.. girls like this...
and i think u will have to take it slow coz of there will be a hesitation between u two i guess cz best friends turning lovers... u get what im tryin to say here?.... =)
Reply:Take it slow man. It is your best friends sister....so if you **** up with her, your friendship with him is going to be done. Most girls wouldnt say yes to a date unless they were intrested. She IS intrested, be sweet, arm and holding hands are cool if you think she wants it. I don't reccomend a kiss, but a peck would -probobly work.
Reply:Ummmmm. well I would start by saying, go to a funny movie, that way you can go slow and stay comfortable. next you could go to a scary movie and hold hand's. That's usually a good way to start.
Reply:i think that you should take it nice and slower always the girls favourite way. the reason she most probably said yes for is because she has come to like from being good friends. just think though if anythink was to go wrong between you would you still have that good friendship? you have to look at it from every angle. talk to her find out how she feels. make her feel special on this date and it might go further than you think. whilst your watching your movie you may put your arm around her but if she pulls away then remove your arm and take it slower. she might be feeling the same way as you right now. complement her on the way she looks tell her she looks beautiful and such things. this always makes a girl feel special. thats all girls want from men. so just remember take it slower don't push anyone faster than they want to go. good luck hope my advice was some good to you.
Reply:She might be going on a date with you because you are bestfriends and she might not. Did she confess any feelings for you/what did she do when you told her how you felt?
To find out if she likes you back, try stuff slowly. Buy her way in, share a soda with her/popcorn... Put your arm around her. If she responds positively then go for a kiss. If not, she just wants to be friends.
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Would You Date Someone With Radically Different Beliefs Than You?
A meat-eater dating a vegan.
A Buddhist dating a Christian.
A person who believes in reincarnation dating a person who does not.
A creationist-thinker dating an evolutionist-thinker.
Would you date someone who just thought totally on a different plane than you?
I would. I have. I will again.
Would You Date Someone With Radically Different Beliefs Than You?
Yes I would, considering everyone seems to have radically different beliefs then I do. A good date is someone willing to talk about different beliefs.
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Reply:yes been there and boned that...I mean ....LOL...I would do it again...its amazing how opposites do attract...
Reply:It depends on the person really. If I could have a compattable relationship with that person, then of course! But if we were too different, then no.
I got dumped for being a wiccan (dating a christian). It's the worst feeling in the world to be hated for what you believe...
Reply:I think a lot of factors play into that.
Are you thinking about just dating? or are you through with dating and want to move into serious relationships?
What sort of family does he or she come from? are they extremists? do they care? do either of you care?
I've seen two completely different people carry out long love filled and happy relationships... but I've also seen two completely different people get very messed up being tangled into something that exploded in a bad way.
I think it depends on the people specifically. It doesn't bother me personally; If I think someone is great, their beliefs and views are usually part of that foundation anyway.
Reply:It depends on how they treat me and my beliefs. I couldn't do it if they didn't appreciate my beliefs and liked to argue them with me. That would drive me crazy.
Reply:No. If its something that I am very passionate about...then NO! If its a sports team or something thats no big deal...but not something that is a non-negotiable huge part of who I am.
A Buddhist dating a Christian.
A person who believes in reincarnation dating a person who does not.
A creationist-thinker dating an evolutionist-thinker.
Would you date someone who just thought totally on a different plane than you?
I would. I have. I will again.
Would You Date Someone With Radically Different Beliefs Than You?
Yes I would, considering everyone seems to have radically different beliefs then I do. A good date is someone willing to talk about different beliefs.
.
Reply:yes been there and boned that...I mean ....LOL...I would do it again...its amazing how opposites do attract...
Reply:It depends on the person really. If I could have a compattable relationship with that person, then of course! But if we were too different, then no.
I got dumped for being a wiccan (dating a christian). It's the worst feeling in the world to be hated for what you believe...
Reply:I think a lot of factors play into that.
Are you thinking about just dating? or are you through with dating and want to move into serious relationships?
What sort of family does he or she come from? are they extremists? do they care? do either of you care?
I've seen two completely different people carry out long love filled and happy relationships... but I've also seen two completely different people get very messed up being tangled into something that exploded in a bad way.
I think it depends on the people specifically. It doesn't bother me personally; If I think someone is great, their beliefs and views are usually part of that foundation anyway.
Reply:It depends on how they treat me and my beliefs. I couldn't do it if they didn't appreciate my beliefs and liked to argue them with me. That would drive me crazy.
Reply:No. If its something that I am very passionate about...then NO! If its a sports team or something thats no big deal...but not something that is a non-negotiable huge part of who I am.
Date ideas?
Hi,
I haven't dated for ages, but needs some ideas for a great date, I'm the male... both mid 20's, day or night date ideas be great. Tell me what dates you have enjoyed and how you like to be treated.
Date ideas?
Treat her with respect! Open doors (I think car doors are a little too much, but doors to buildings are fine). Look at her when she's speaking. Put your cell phone on silent. Listen to what she's saying and ask questions to let her know you are paying attention. Thank her for your date and tell her you had a good time. If you say you'll call her, do it within 48-72 hours. Tell her again that you had a good time when you call. Make specific plans to see each other again.
As far as date ideas... These will depend on the type of area you live in and the weather.
Where I live, there are a lot of state parks and free hiking trails. If you both like the outdoors, enjoy the nice weather while it's around! You can see the leaves change and get some exercise in. It helps if the area is pretty, not just some rugged trail without anything nice to look at.
The traditional movie/dinner thing is good, but punch it up and take her to a play or murder mystery dinner or theater production or concert.
Play an unusual game, like frisbee golf. Bring a picnic lunch.
Since we're nearing Halloween, go on a haunted hayride or visit a haunted house. Check the library or the Internet for some "real" haunted areas in your vicinity.
And it's fall, so orchards and wineries are in their prime. Pick up a pumpkin and carve it together. Or pick some apples and have cider.
Have a bonfire, roast marshmallows, and tell ghost stories.
Reply:I would stay away from movies or loud places because you won't have a chance to talk and get to know each other. How about a nice dinner followed by a walk on the beach or pier. Or pick a place that over looks the water. The ocean can be very romantic.
Good Luck
Reply:cinema foolowed by meal!!!!!
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I haven't dated for ages, but needs some ideas for a great date, I'm the male... both mid 20's, day or night date ideas be great. Tell me what dates you have enjoyed and how you like to be treated.
Date ideas?
Treat her with respect! Open doors (I think car doors are a little too much, but doors to buildings are fine). Look at her when she's speaking. Put your cell phone on silent. Listen to what she's saying and ask questions to let her know you are paying attention. Thank her for your date and tell her you had a good time. If you say you'll call her, do it within 48-72 hours. Tell her again that you had a good time when you call. Make specific plans to see each other again.
As far as date ideas... These will depend on the type of area you live in and the weather.
Where I live, there are a lot of state parks and free hiking trails. If you both like the outdoors, enjoy the nice weather while it's around! You can see the leaves change and get some exercise in. It helps if the area is pretty, not just some rugged trail without anything nice to look at.
The traditional movie/dinner thing is good, but punch it up and take her to a play or murder mystery dinner or theater production or concert.
Play an unusual game, like frisbee golf. Bring a picnic lunch.
Since we're nearing Halloween, go on a haunted hayride or visit a haunted house. Check the library or the Internet for some "real" haunted areas in your vicinity.
And it's fall, so orchards and wineries are in their prime. Pick up a pumpkin and carve it together. Or pick some apples and have cider.
Have a bonfire, roast marshmallows, and tell ghost stories.
Reply:I would stay away from movies or loud places because you won't have a chance to talk and get to know each other. How about a nice dinner followed by a walk on the beach or pier. Or pick a place that over looks the water. The ocean can be very romantic.
Good Luck
Reply:cinema foolowed by meal!!!!!
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First Blind date?
ok, ive been on dates before, but never a blind date where i had never met the person before. A guy i work with was telling me that he wanted me to meet this girl who he thought i would be interested in and vice versa and i said that i was up for it. Im getting her number on Monday and figured i would either call that night or tues night to get a feel for her. I dont know what she looks like and she doesnt know what i look like so i was thinking for our first meeting to keep it simple and short since we may not hit it off. I was thinking we could go to starbucks, even though i dont drink coffee and dont normally go to starbucks, so that we could talk for like an hour, and then if everything goes good have a second date which would include an actually dinner, and then move on from there. How does this sound, and does anyone have any other suggestions for a blind date. I thought about bowling or the zoo, but figured those were better suited for a second or third date
First Blind date?
yeah the starbuck thing could work, that way you are not obligated to sit there with the otehr person for hours on end, then if the coffee goes really well, you guys might even decide something afterwards, so allow time afterwards if needed . . . .
Reply:You are right now the dollar, my friend. A coffee cafe is the perfect place for a blind date (it's very public). I'm glad I had suggested it for a blind date because when we met, while we were talking, I discovered he still had a lot of issues and carried a lot of baggage from his divorce (he was also very bitter towards his ex-wife)....needless to say, there was no second date.
First Blind date?
yeah the starbuck thing could work, that way you are not obligated to sit there with the otehr person for hours on end, then if the coffee goes really well, you guys might even decide something afterwards, so allow time afterwards if needed . . . .
Reply:You are right now the dollar, my friend. A coffee cafe is the perfect place for a blind date (it's very public). I'm glad I had suggested it for a blind date because when we met, while we were talking, I discovered he still had a lot of issues and carried a lot of baggage from his divorce (he was also very bitter towards his ex-wife)....needless to say, there was no second date.
Men who date skinny girls?
I am a little heavy... bout 30 pounds over wieght, and I have just started dating a man that has only dated women that were very skinny or very well built. I put on my wieght about 3 years ago, use to were a 9 or smaller and now am in a 16. I don't like it and plan on loosing the weight, but why would a man date only those kind of girls and then date me? His only answer to my question is that I am very sweet and nice. He never says that he thinks I am sexy or pretty. He has seen pictures of me from 3 years ago and asked why I would "let my self go", and I did tell him. He also said he would help me get back in shape... But my main question is, Why would he go from dating onlly skinny girls and then be interested in me?
Men who date skinny girls?
he probably realized that appearances aren't everything. i know a lot of girls that are skinny but their hearts are ugly as a 500 pound fat man in a tub of lard.
Reply:Perhaps the guy you are dating knows you have potential. If you are friendly and already sweet, maybe the guy is seeing your beauty from the inside.
But let's get this straight.
Because you are a girl, you are very sensitive in how you look. It's only natural since I am a girl too. I too complain that I am overweight but people love me for who I am. However; In the inside, I feel like a lump.
I suggest that you and I eat less (or eat sensibly) and excercise more. It will build up our self-esteem and in the process,we will feel that we are better looking than our boyfriend's exes.
Good luck and wish me luck too.
Reply:He sees something special in you. Probibly something he's been waiting for. I do think that this relationship could be bad for you if your weight and getting you back into shape is the main subject.
Reply:Dont fool your self. IF he talked about your weight thats a serious thing. HE will turn on you in due season.
Reply:Perhaps he really likes you.. And I think he is sincere when he says you are sweet and nice. Accept it. Enjoy the moment. :)
Reply:He sees the inner you and likes it. Not everything is based off outer appearences
Reply:I think he went to dating you because he's actually interested so don't worry, I'm a bit heavy to and the guy I'm with has been with all types of girls, I think it's just a guy thing.
Reply:He sees potential and likes your personality. You said it yourself: He doesn't tell you you're sexy or pretty because you're fat and out of shape; 30lbs is NOT a 'little' heavy!
He offered to help you get back to "sexy and pretty" and instead of doing that for yourself and a guy you like that you know has a different ideal, you're questioning his motives! What do YOU want? To remain overweight and alone, or try and get everything you want and look good to everybody else in the offing? Wake up and grab the brass ring...
Reply:Is he with a skinny girl now? No they didn't satisfy him or he would still be with them. He likes the look and is ready to help you. He likes your personality is willing to help you get where you want to be and he wants you to be. Enjoy him and thank him do not chase him away.
Reply:He thinks you will get skinny like in your pictures. He will never be happy with you until you are thin again. Better start dieting if you want to keep him. The saying "more cushion for the push'n" is a myth. Men like tiny girl so they look big next to her.
Reply:You got the goods girl! Obviously you must be a good looking gal. It does hurt though not to hear how sexy or pretty you are. It has got to be hard for you to know about how he use to date "skinny" girls but honey beauty is only skin deep. There might not be any connection in the body type...it just might have happened to be they were all "skinny" ya know!?
I buy what he says about why he likes you. There is nothing wrong with that!
I hope this isn't the topic of conversation too often. You shouldn't dwell on it n neither should he. He chose you the way you are... not to change you. You should change you for you n not for him. Cuz what if you didn't lose weight and maybe even gained weight? What would happen then!?
Best Wishes %26amp; God Bless!
Reply:Maybeee....what he says is true....and....you are being offensive.
Why do ppl like you question your relationship like that. If he had a real problem with girls that were big...would he even date you?. Think about it. I hear about ppl questioning why they leave, but never why they are!. Get over it and enjoy him , keep this up and he'll leave. Sorry, but the constant questioning is NOT a turn on.
Reply:Relationships are about proximity and availablity. You are available and close. He probably honestly cares for you, now. I've never dated a large girl but I probably would if things sort of fell into place the right way. Most guys don't care as much about looks as we lead on. My girlfriend is very pretty but I would still be with her if she gained 50 pounds. I might be concerned but I'd still love her.
Reply:go up to hIm and tell him i think im over weight and ask him to work out with you and he will accept pt you for who you are and if he dosent then he is a jerk ***
Reply:Hmmm.... Could it be that you're "very sweet and nice"?
Sounds to me like he's a nice guy, deeper than the average shallow jerk who's only looking to hook up.
Reply:how do u know for sure that's all he dated? he could be pulling ur leg on that one. anyway, hey, if he's sweet back to you then quit worrying over your weight as an attraction thing and only worry about it for health reasons. peace
Reply:Not going to judge her but I think that most men that date skinny girls have an EGO problem.
Reply:He just got tired of bone or sticks. LOL. Nah! seriously, U probably have a great personality that surpasses skinny bone jones.............. sometimes guys change their minds about their taste. A curvier body always gets more attention. Its like guys are attracted to woman with voluptios shapes unconciously but society sometimes mocks them for talling for tubbies. Honestly, I'm overweight and I'm in ur same situation, my man use to be with skinny girls but he shows me that he still loves me although I'm size 16. I can tell he likes my big hips and boob. Those are the parts that turn him on.
Reply:He did tell you did'nt he? He likes your personality, thats a good thing. Plus,it sounds like you have something going on in the 'mind' department. It sounds like you are looking for a reason that he SHOULD'NT date you. Maybe the so-called skinny girls were stuck on themselves and you are not. He sees something in you that you do not. Sounds like that whatever happens in your relationship, he will help you to discover some good qualities in yourself that you did not know existed.
Reply:Dump him and date me, i dont care if you have extra junk in the trunk. More cushion for the pushin baby.
Reply:Maybe he realised beauty is only skin deep. Maybe he was hurt emotionaly buy one of the skinny girls and it hurts to much to go back. Most probably what he says is true. He thinks your sweet and nice and thats enoufe. If you want lose the weight but do it for yourself, it dosent sound like this guy is that hung up on looks. (Not that im saying plump girls are ugly. Personaly i cant stand skinny girls im always worried ill break them.)
Hope this helps.
Reply:If he started dating you when you were overweight then maybe he does think your sweet, if you want to lose the weight for yourself go ahead and do it. But if your losing it just to keep him then maybe he isn't the guy you thought he was.
dds
Men who date skinny girls?
he probably realized that appearances aren't everything. i know a lot of girls that are skinny but their hearts are ugly as a 500 pound fat man in a tub of lard.
Reply:Perhaps the guy you are dating knows you have potential. If you are friendly and already sweet, maybe the guy is seeing your beauty from the inside.
But let's get this straight.
Because you are a girl, you are very sensitive in how you look. It's only natural since I am a girl too. I too complain that I am overweight but people love me for who I am. However; In the inside, I feel like a lump.
I suggest that you and I eat less (or eat sensibly) and excercise more. It will build up our self-esteem and in the process,we will feel that we are better looking than our boyfriend's exes.
Good luck and wish me luck too.
Reply:He sees something special in you. Probibly something he's been waiting for. I do think that this relationship could be bad for you if your weight and getting you back into shape is the main subject.
Reply:Dont fool your self. IF he talked about your weight thats a serious thing. HE will turn on you in due season.
Reply:Perhaps he really likes you.. And I think he is sincere when he says you are sweet and nice. Accept it. Enjoy the moment. :)
Reply:He sees the inner you and likes it. Not everything is based off outer appearences
Reply:I think he went to dating you because he's actually interested so don't worry, I'm a bit heavy to and the guy I'm with has been with all types of girls, I think it's just a guy thing.
Reply:He sees potential and likes your personality. You said it yourself: He doesn't tell you you're sexy or pretty because you're fat and out of shape; 30lbs is NOT a 'little' heavy!
He offered to help you get back to "sexy and pretty" and instead of doing that for yourself and a guy you like that you know has a different ideal, you're questioning his motives! What do YOU want? To remain overweight and alone, or try and get everything you want and look good to everybody else in the offing? Wake up and grab the brass ring...
Reply:Is he with a skinny girl now? No they didn't satisfy him or he would still be with them. He likes the look and is ready to help you. He likes your personality is willing to help you get where you want to be and he wants you to be. Enjoy him and thank him do not chase him away.
Reply:He thinks you will get skinny like in your pictures. He will never be happy with you until you are thin again. Better start dieting if you want to keep him. The saying "more cushion for the push'n" is a myth. Men like tiny girl so they look big next to her.
Reply:You got the goods girl! Obviously you must be a good looking gal. It does hurt though not to hear how sexy or pretty you are. It has got to be hard for you to know about how he use to date "skinny" girls but honey beauty is only skin deep. There might not be any connection in the body type...it just might have happened to be they were all "skinny" ya know!?
I buy what he says about why he likes you. There is nothing wrong with that!
I hope this isn't the topic of conversation too often. You shouldn't dwell on it n neither should he. He chose you the way you are... not to change you. You should change you for you n not for him. Cuz what if you didn't lose weight and maybe even gained weight? What would happen then!?
Best Wishes %26amp; God Bless!
Reply:Maybeee....what he says is true....and....you are being offensive.
Why do ppl like you question your relationship like that. If he had a real problem with girls that were big...would he even date you?. Think about it. I hear about ppl questioning why they leave, but never why they are!. Get over it and enjoy him , keep this up and he'll leave. Sorry, but the constant questioning is NOT a turn on.
Reply:Relationships are about proximity and availablity. You are available and close. He probably honestly cares for you, now. I've never dated a large girl but I probably would if things sort of fell into place the right way. Most guys don't care as much about looks as we lead on. My girlfriend is very pretty but I would still be with her if she gained 50 pounds. I might be concerned but I'd still love her.
Reply:go up to hIm and tell him i think im over weight and ask him to work out with you and he will accept pt you for who you are and if he dosent then he is a jerk ***
Reply:Hmmm.... Could it be that you're "very sweet and nice"?
Sounds to me like he's a nice guy, deeper than the average shallow jerk who's only looking to hook up.
Reply:how do u know for sure that's all he dated? he could be pulling ur leg on that one. anyway, hey, if he's sweet back to you then quit worrying over your weight as an attraction thing and only worry about it for health reasons. peace
Reply:Not going to judge her but I think that most men that date skinny girls have an EGO problem.
Reply:He just got tired of bone or sticks. LOL. Nah! seriously, U probably have a great personality that surpasses skinny bone jones.............. sometimes guys change their minds about their taste. A curvier body always gets more attention. Its like guys are attracted to woman with voluptios shapes unconciously but society sometimes mocks them for talling for tubbies. Honestly, I'm overweight and I'm in ur same situation, my man use to be with skinny girls but he shows me that he still loves me although I'm size 16. I can tell he likes my big hips and boob. Those are the parts that turn him on.
Reply:He did tell you did'nt he? He likes your personality, thats a good thing. Plus,it sounds like you have something going on in the 'mind' department. It sounds like you are looking for a reason that he SHOULD'NT date you. Maybe the so-called skinny girls were stuck on themselves and you are not. He sees something in you that you do not. Sounds like that whatever happens in your relationship, he will help you to discover some good qualities in yourself that you did not know existed.
Reply:Dump him and date me, i dont care if you have extra junk in the trunk. More cushion for the pushin baby.
Reply:Maybe he realised beauty is only skin deep. Maybe he was hurt emotionaly buy one of the skinny girls and it hurts to much to go back. Most probably what he says is true. He thinks your sweet and nice and thats enoufe. If you want lose the weight but do it for yourself, it dosent sound like this guy is that hung up on looks. (Not that im saying plump girls are ugly. Personaly i cant stand skinny girls im always worried ill break them.)
Hope this helps.
Reply:If he started dating you when you were overweight then maybe he does think your sweet, if you want to lose the weight for yourself go ahead and do it. But if your losing it just to keep him then maybe he isn't the guy you thought he was.
dds
Should I Date Him?
I just broke up with my boyfriend after dating him for over a year. It was nothing he did, I just wasn't happy anymore. Well he didn't take it too well and i think he thinks that i broke up with him because of this new guy i like. Don't get me wrong, i really like this new guy and i even love him but he's not the reason i broke up with my boyfriend. Anyways, this new guy is the sweetest guy ever and he's constantly complimenting me and we've even said I Love You to eachother and we both mean it 100%. I really want to date him but i think it would be better for everyone else if we waited a while before we did. We've talked about it and he understands and is willing to wait but i really really want to date him! And he really wants to date me. We wanna date, but i don't wanna piss off my ex because i want to be friends with him so any ideas?
Should I Date Him?
YES#
Reply:Why not date?
Just go, you are not answerable to anyone else... especially he is only your EX now.
Reply:i'm in that same position. my boyfriend broke up with me last monday. but secretly liked this one guy jordan. he's super sweet and says i love you all the time. we just connect but i didn't want to take things too fast. then on friday of that same week he asked me out! so i said yes and so far my ex is still my friend he isn't pissed or anything so that's good!
Reply:Date him. You've got one life, and if you like him, you've just got to take the plunge and date him, even if it might hurt your ex. Your ex is in the past for a reason, so just explain to him he isnt the reason you split and why you did break it off with him.
Reply:Dear very confused, When you said "it would be better for everyone else", it sounds like you mean your ex. If this sweet guy is so special you should date him. Very rarely do ex partners make good friends. You should accept that breaking up means moving on. You didn't end a marriage. I am sure your ex is already getting over it, as you should be too.
Reply:Ok how do you love this new guy already? He compliments you and so you love him? Were you seeing him before you broke up with your ex? I wonder about you; this doesn't make sense...
Should I Date Him?
YES#
Reply:Why not date?
Just go, you are not answerable to anyone else... especially he is only your EX now.
Reply:i'm in that same position. my boyfriend broke up with me last monday. but secretly liked this one guy jordan. he's super sweet and says i love you all the time. we just connect but i didn't want to take things too fast. then on friday of that same week he asked me out! so i said yes and so far my ex is still my friend he isn't pissed or anything so that's good!
Reply:Date him. You've got one life, and if you like him, you've just got to take the plunge and date him, even if it might hurt your ex. Your ex is in the past for a reason, so just explain to him he isnt the reason you split and why you did break it off with him.
Reply:Dear very confused, When you said "it would be better for everyone else", it sounds like you mean your ex. If this sweet guy is so special you should date him. Very rarely do ex partners make good friends. You should accept that breaking up means moving on. You didn't end a marriage. I am sure your ex is already getting over it, as you should be too.
Reply:Ok how do you love this new guy already? He compliments you and so you love him? Were you seeing him before you broke up with your ex? I wonder about you; this doesn't make sense...
Date Ideas?
Okay everybody, we get asked this over and over in our advice column… what are some good "first date" or "date night" ideas? We have emptied our tank of creative suggestions on this subject! We’re opening it up to you. Give us some unique suggestions or even a special date that you went on and how it worked out!! We just might just recommend your date idea in our advice column!
Date Ideas?
Second date idea: Dance classes, yoga, karate, pilates classes?
Paintball date, Indoor rockclimbing? (Great way to establish trust and physical intimacy, exercise).
First date idea: Quiet night in. Cooking, wine, TV, snuggle on couch. (Nice, intimate, romantic, private, good *getting to know you* date)
Third date idea - Go to a live taping of The Oprah Show or other "chat show"?
(Good way to gauge intellectual compatibility after the intial intoxication of physical chemistry).
Reply:I get all my best date ideas from www.redenvelope.co.za
(I don't think you guys are based in South Africa, but these activities must be available anywhere...)
Reply:I had this guy take me on a boat. He had food, wine, and follows... We left at noon and did not end up going home until we were down watching the stars. It was a day and night I will never forget.
Reply:six flags
Reply:yes go to the local mental health center admit yourself and enjoy all your friends or go to the local std clinic and pick up some pointers
Date Ideas?
Second date idea: Dance classes, yoga, karate, pilates classes?
Paintball date, Indoor rockclimbing? (Great way to establish trust and physical intimacy, exercise).
First date idea: Quiet night in. Cooking, wine, TV, snuggle on couch. (Nice, intimate, romantic, private, good *getting to know you* date)
Third date idea - Go to a live taping of The Oprah Show or other "chat show"?
(Good way to gauge intellectual compatibility after the intial intoxication of physical chemistry).
Reply:I get all my best date ideas from www.redenvelope.co.za
(I don't think you guys are based in South Africa, but these activities must be available anywhere...)
Reply:I had this guy take me on a boat. He had food, wine, and follows... We left at noon and did not end up going home until we were down watching the stars. It was a day and night I will never forget.
Reply:six flags
Reply:yes go to the local mental health center admit yourself and enjoy all your friends or go to the local std clinic and pick up some pointers
How to Date?
I am 30 years old and from age 15, I have been in 2 long term relationships. I have never really "dated". Anytime my current ex and I went out, I paid for it all because he was always broke. I have no idea how to date. What is the proper etiquette? Should I expect him to pay? If I ask him out, should I pay my own way? How do I let him know without sounding mean that I expect for him to pay for the date...and that it does not mean I "owe" him anything? I feel like if he pays for the date, he is going to try to "get some" and that is definately not what I want. I keep running into these "What are you gonna do for me?" guys who think just because they bought me dinner or a drink then I should sleep with them. Please tell me what to do because I am terrified of dating, but I won't get over my ex if I don't get out there and meet new people. Thanks.
How to Date?
I believe the man should always do the pursuing. And the paying. I don't believe in casual dating. What's the point? If you don't want to be cheap, make him make the effort to win you. A guy likes the challenge of wooing a girl. If you come easy, they expect you to be easy. If you are a challenge, they'll be more inclined to do the right thing.
Why do you need to date to be ok with yourself?? I think it is important to be ok with yourself or you enter into a romance with needs and that isn't healthy. Both parties should enter in with the ability to give, not the expectation to take.
Reply:Uhh, chica, not every guy loves the act of wooing a girl. It's probably the bane of most shy guy's existence, and for those who aren't introverted, it's probably really expensive, too. Don't generalize! Report It
Reply:You, only ou, can set the standard on a date. If you feel better paying, then do it...personally I believe the guy should pay - the girl should offer occasionally... and pay occasionally, insist on it. A man should not e xpect to get some just for dinner and a drink.... he should expect to get some after earning it! Women HAVE what men innately desire, need, want and dream about... make them work for it! (By the way, women can buy dinner and a drink and expect 'some' too without attachments or guilt!!) Play the field very cautiously. Don't look for a new husband/boyfriend immediately. Definitely do not find another sponge boyfriend. You need someone to show YOU a good time, pay for it all and expect companionship that MAY lead to love, passion, and a relationship etc.... You don't have to stick with a loser. Be strong.... be stronger... respect yourself. YOURE A WOMAN for goodness sake!!!
Reply:Nowadays, the person who asks for the date is expected to pay, but it's always ok for the guest to offer to pay, or offer to split the check. Sounds like what you could really use is a big dose of confidence. Maybe try one of those speed-dating gigs to get you back in the game!
How to Date?
I believe the man should always do the pursuing. And the paying. I don't believe in casual dating. What's the point? If you don't want to be cheap, make him make the effort to win you. A guy likes the challenge of wooing a girl. If you come easy, they expect you to be easy. If you are a challenge, they'll be more inclined to do the right thing.
Why do you need to date to be ok with yourself?? I think it is important to be ok with yourself or you enter into a romance with needs and that isn't healthy. Both parties should enter in with the ability to give, not the expectation to take.
Reply:Uhh, chica, not every guy loves the act of wooing a girl. It's probably the bane of most shy guy's existence, and for those who aren't introverted, it's probably really expensive, too. Don't generalize! Report It
Reply:You, only ou, can set the standard on a date. If you feel better paying, then do it...personally I believe the guy should pay - the girl should offer occasionally... and pay occasionally, insist on it. A man should not e xpect to get some just for dinner and a drink.... he should expect to get some after earning it! Women HAVE what men innately desire, need, want and dream about... make them work for it! (By the way, women can buy dinner and a drink and expect 'some' too without attachments or guilt!!) Play the field very cautiously. Don't look for a new husband/boyfriend immediately. Definitely do not find another sponge boyfriend. You need someone to show YOU a good time, pay for it all and expect companionship that MAY lead to love, passion, and a relationship etc.... You don't have to stick with a loser. Be strong.... be stronger... respect yourself. YOURE A WOMAN for goodness sake!!!
Reply:Nowadays, the person who asks for the date is expected to pay, but it's always ok for the guest to offer to pay, or offer to split the check. Sounds like what you could really use is a big dose of confidence. Maybe try one of those speed-dating gigs to get you back in the game!
To date or not to date?
there is this guy that i dated 3 years ago and we fell in love. we are not dating anymore, but we are sort of like fwbs, very physically involved with one another. we would like to date again but our parents forbid it. it is clear that he has moved on with other women and such, as have i with men, but i cannot get him out of my mind. i am still in love with him and i still think to this day that we were meant to be. i believe that he still loves me, as he mentions it every so often. he will be going off to college in 2 years, but unfortunately i am a grade behind him. he asked me to think of what we can do (besides dating for right now) relationship wise. should we be fwbs? what else is there? any suggestions?
To date or not to date?
You have got to follow your heart and do what is best for you not what someone else wants for you. As much as you love your parents and respect their wishes and they love you, they can't live their life through you and only you can live your life. If you feel this strongly about this guy and feel that he is the one for you and vice versa then follow your heart and go for it as if you don't and it is still on your mind down the track then you may just regret it.
Parents will be parents, but they are only looking out for you and your interests. But why do they forbid it? if this guy has done wrong by you then I'd be very cautious and may be respect their wishes and not see him, but if he hasn't and you both want to be together then just start dating again taking it easy.......as while you are living under your parents roof it will be quite hard. Just take it easy and slowly and maybe they will come round and start to realise that he is not too bad and that he makes you happy. But don't try to hide things as it will only make things worse.
dental bridge
To date or not to date?
You have got to follow your heart and do what is best for you not what someone else wants for you. As much as you love your parents and respect their wishes and they love you, they can't live their life through you and only you can live your life. If you feel this strongly about this guy and feel that he is the one for you and vice versa then follow your heart and go for it as if you don't and it is still on your mind down the track then you may just regret it.
Parents will be parents, but they are only looking out for you and your interests. But why do they forbid it? if this guy has done wrong by you then I'd be very cautious and may be respect their wishes and not see him, but if he hasn't and you both want to be together then just start dating again taking it easy.......as while you are living under your parents roof it will be quite hard. Just take it easy and slowly and maybe they will come round and start to realise that he is not too bad and that he makes you happy. But don't try to hide things as it will only make things worse.
dental bridge
LMP date or scan date???????????????????
which date do you go by and which is the most accurate?
when the midwife goes by by LMP my due date is the 25th nov, but when i went for my scan the date next to EDD is the 19th nov.
which do i go by and why?
have only had the one scan and always thought that the scan dating was more accurate.
thanks.
ps
surley not all women concieve 14 days after LMP ??????
LMP date or scan date???????????????????
Go by scan. Im a midwife.
Reply:my last menstrual says i am due nov 23rd the scan said i am due nov 30......
i guess the baby will come when they are ready at least they are close enough to give you a pretty accurate guess.
Reply:I was informed that the scan date was more accurate. Exactly for the reason you said, not every women conceives on the day 14.
It's only a guide though, the baby could come before or after.
Reply:go by your scan good luck
Reply:Hey there!
The EDD gives you a more accurate date, the LMP is just an estimate and most babies are born within two weeks of that estimated date. So baby will arrive sometime between the 17th and the 25th november (give or take!) x
Reply:LMP coz some babies grow loads faster and bigger than others......look at the difference in size in new borns....:)
Reply:Always the scan date, by my LMP I should be 15 weeks pregnant but I am actually only 12, you are right not all women ovulate on day 14.
Reply:I think the EDD is more accurate. Mine are 5 days apart. But babies come on their own terms so just be ready somewhere in that time frame! Congrats!
Reply:go by your scan date as this is a more accurate by the size of your baby, and you are right not all women conceive 14 days after LMP some women take longer for the egg to be released!
Reply:Okay, if the ultrasound was done in the first 12 weeks, it is considered preferred over LMP, because the fetuses grow at the same rate, but once you get past 12 wks, the fetuses grow at their own rate, so it can vary. What's the big deal anyway? The due dates are 6 days apart. A due dates just a date, it just means the baby is due to come between 2 wks before or after that date.
Reply:How about just saying you're due Nov. 23 to be in the middle! :P That's not a big difference anyway... ya never know, you might have him/her on the 15th or the 30th... Remember it's just an estimate ;) My daughter was due at first on 15th of June by LMP, then 24th June by EDD.. she was born July 7th!
Good luck and congratulations!!!
Reply:lmp = what scan tells them
edd = what you thought
Reply:Ultrasound dates are more accurate. However, the ones done in the first trimester are the best ones to go by. But I wouldn't worry, there's not a big difference between the 19th and the 25th.
Reply:The scan date is what I would go by. I think most women do NOT conceive 14 days after LMP. Ovulation occurs at different times due to many reasons. Irregular periods, Stress, and even if never had irregular periods before you could have this time.
when the midwife goes by by LMP my due date is the 25th nov, but when i went for my scan the date next to EDD is the 19th nov.
which do i go by and why?
have only had the one scan and always thought that the scan dating was more accurate.
thanks.
ps
surley not all women concieve 14 days after LMP ??????
LMP date or scan date???????????????????
Go by scan. Im a midwife.
Reply:my last menstrual says i am due nov 23rd the scan said i am due nov 30......
i guess the baby will come when they are ready at least they are close enough to give you a pretty accurate guess.
Reply:I was informed that the scan date was more accurate. Exactly for the reason you said, not every women conceives on the day 14.
It's only a guide though, the baby could come before or after.
Reply:go by your scan good luck
Reply:Hey there!
The EDD gives you a more accurate date, the LMP is just an estimate and most babies are born within two weeks of that estimated date. So baby will arrive sometime between the 17th and the 25th november (give or take!) x
Reply:LMP coz some babies grow loads faster and bigger than others......look at the difference in size in new borns....:)
Reply:Always the scan date, by my LMP I should be 15 weeks pregnant but I am actually only 12, you are right not all women ovulate on day 14.
Reply:I think the EDD is more accurate. Mine are 5 days apart. But babies come on their own terms so just be ready somewhere in that time frame! Congrats!
Reply:go by your scan date as this is a more accurate by the size of your baby, and you are right not all women conceive 14 days after LMP some women take longer for the egg to be released!
Reply:Okay, if the ultrasound was done in the first 12 weeks, it is considered preferred over LMP, because the fetuses grow at the same rate, but once you get past 12 wks, the fetuses grow at their own rate, so it can vary. What's the big deal anyway? The due dates are 6 days apart. A due dates just a date, it just means the baby is due to come between 2 wks before or after that date.
Reply:How about just saying you're due Nov. 23 to be in the middle! :P That's not a big difference anyway... ya never know, you might have him/her on the 15th or the 30th... Remember it's just an estimate ;) My daughter was due at first on 15th of June by LMP, then 24th June by EDD.. she was born July 7th!
Good luck and congratulations!!!
Reply:lmp = what scan tells them
edd = what you thought
Reply:Ultrasound dates are more accurate. However, the ones done in the first trimester are the best ones to go by. But I wouldn't worry, there's not a big difference between the 19th and the 25th.
Reply:The scan date is what I would go by. I think most women do NOT conceive 14 days after LMP. Ovulation occurs at different times due to many reasons. Irregular periods, Stress, and even if never had irregular periods before you could have this time.
Prepayment Penalty Date Wrong?
I bought my house on Sept 28,2006. I am in the process of refinancing it already after 1 year and 5 months. Here's the question. On my prepayment penalty clause I have an "addendum" that is dated Sept 28, 2009. It says that AFTER 24 months of "said" date I could prepay without penalty. Can they "predate" these clauses? Is this supposed to be a 5 year "hold-down?." If i prepay within first year AFTER said date it is 2% of principal remaining, prepay within 2nd year it is 1%, and within 3rd year ...no penalty. The year 2009 is baffling me. What if I pay it now? I'm not technically within the first year of 2009 until October 1st of this year. It doesn't stipulate paying before, it says AFTER said date. Is this a typo? There are no fees associated with paying before the said date. They can't "forbid" me and refuse to let me refinance until after "said" date can they?.......Any help is appreciated.
Prepayment Penalty Date Wrong?
I am not sure why you are asking. You printed the answer.
After October 2008 you have no penality.
As you are in the second year the panality to refi is 1% of your loan amount.
Reply:hmm- because its a addendum which means changes to the original contract- yes they can post date it - but this is VERY unusual. normally there would be a very long clause about the post dating.
So it is very possible that the dating was mis typed, its my guess that it was mis typed especially since the 6 is right below the 9 on a keypad.
Also- read over the original contract carefully to be sure that it doesn't include pre-payment penalty statements that will occur before this post-dated document kicks in.
Just so ya know the average mortgage has a clause about pre-payment penalties- and every one is the same- with a prepayment penalty occuring during the first 1-5 years.
The way they think of it is- they want to make decent amount of money off you- so if you are going to refinance somewhere else within a couple of years- then they are going to recover that money by charging the penalty. I have been a investor for 10 yrs, agent for 5 and consultant for 3- and have only heard of a prepayment penalty starting after a couple of years when a mortgage is held by a personal party (not a bank).
I dont know where your from so i couldnt say for sure- but i would recommend contacting the attorney that did your closing- they will know local law and standards and can probley tell ya quickly if this is a typo. and usually they will not charge if they already did the closing paperwork.
if there is a pre payment penalty- i would recommend holding off on that refinance for a while if you have decent credit because rates are expected to hold if not drop within the next few months. now if you have fair credit- or no equity - it might pay off in the lon\g run to just pay the penalty and refinance now.
Prepayment Penalty Date Wrong?
I am not sure why you are asking. You printed the answer.
After October 2008 you have no penality.
As you are in the second year the panality to refi is 1% of your loan amount.
Reply:hmm- because its a addendum which means changes to the original contract- yes they can post date it - but this is VERY unusual. normally there would be a very long clause about the post dating.
So it is very possible that the dating was mis typed, its my guess that it was mis typed especially since the 6 is right below the 9 on a keypad.
Also- read over the original contract carefully to be sure that it doesn't include pre-payment penalty statements that will occur before this post-dated document kicks in.
Just so ya know the average mortgage has a clause about pre-payment penalties- and every one is the same- with a prepayment penalty occuring during the first 1-5 years.
The way they think of it is- they want to make decent amount of money off you- so if you are going to refinance somewhere else within a couple of years- then they are going to recover that money by charging the penalty. I have been a investor for 10 yrs, agent for 5 and consultant for 3- and have only heard of a prepayment penalty starting after a couple of years when a mortgage is held by a personal party (not a bank).
I dont know where your from so i couldnt say for sure- but i would recommend contacting the attorney that did your closing- they will know local law and standards and can probley tell ya quickly if this is a typo. and usually they will not charge if they already did the closing paperwork.
if there is a pre payment penalty- i would recommend holding off on that refinance for a while if you have decent credit because rates are expected to hold if not drop within the next few months. now if you have fair credit- or no equity - it might pay off in the lon\g run to just pay the penalty and refinance now.
My date thinks that we are related because we have some of the same step relatives/step cousins. Are we?
The girl I'm dating met her step relative and then the step relative mentioned my sister and said that she was her step granddaughter. Now my date thinks that since there is a step relation between her and my step grandma that we are related and can't date.
I want to tell my date that I like her alot and that we are not related by blood, only by law. I can't figure out how to say it to her.
I don't want to stop dating her because of a misunderstanding..this girl is awesome.
My date thinks that we are related because we have some of the same step relatives/step cousins. Are we?
Hi there,
You %26amp; your lady are not related at all, only via marriage.
Which lets face it could change at any time!!
Tell her how you feel about her, %26amp; explain that you are not related in the blood sence just through marriage.
Hope you get your girl, good luck!! xxx
Reply:that's right you are related by law.... that's okay... it's not incest!
Just bring it up slowly and tell her that you don't want to lose her by somthing silly!
Reply:If you guys have a lot of the same step parents then maybe theres somone in there that is of actual blood connection. You may even be first cousins. Find out before you fall into incest.
Reply:dude you are not related so go for it she is watching to much opra or tell her the closer the kin the deeper it goes in
Reply:if she is uncomfortable about the situation there is nothing that you can do to help her get over it.
Reply:Yeah I agree with you COMPLETELY!
girls hard kinda hard to get thing in to their brains...So Yeah you guys should not quit dating because you have some of the same step relatives!
you guys are not related at all!
Not by blood just my marriage!!!!
Just tell her that... I mean you cant make her want to date you if she doesnt because... I mean you just cant!!!!!
So maybe just talk to her about that!
Bring ya'll's parents into it maybe with another opinion she would feel better about it!!
GOOD LUCK!
*MeRRy ChrIstmaS!*
Reply:just tell her that you care about her and that you two are only related by law and that you dont have blood relation then tell her that no matter what you will always like her and that you dont want to lose her over some thing stupid like trhis
I want to tell my date that I like her alot and that we are not related by blood, only by law. I can't figure out how to say it to her.
I don't want to stop dating her because of a misunderstanding..this girl is awesome.
My date thinks that we are related because we have some of the same step relatives/step cousins. Are we?
Hi there,
You %26amp; your lady are not related at all, only via marriage.
Which lets face it could change at any time!!
Tell her how you feel about her, %26amp; explain that you are not related in the blood sence just through marriage.
Hope you get your girl, good luck!! xxx
Reply:that's right you are related by law.... that's okay... it's not incest!
Just bring it up slowly and tell her that you don't want to lose her by somthing silly!
Reply:If you guys have a lot of the same step parents then maybe theres somone in there that is of actual blood connection. You may even be first cousins. Find out before you fall into incest.
Reply:dude you are not related so go for it she is watching to much opra or tell her the closer the kin the deeper it goes in
Reply:if she is uncomfortable about the situation there is nothing that you can do to help her get over it.
Reply:Yeah I agree with you COMPLETELY!
girls hard kinda hard to get thing in to their brains...So Yeah you guys should not quit dating because you have some of the same step relatives!
you guys are not related at all!
Not by blood just my marriage!!!!
Just tell her that... I mean you cant make her want to date you if she doesnt because... I mean you just cant!!!!!
So maybe just talk to her about that!
Bring ya'll's parents into it maybe with another opinion she would feel better about it!!
GOOD LUCK!
*MeRRy ChrIstmaS!*
Reply:just tell her that you care about her and that you two are only related by law and that you dont have blood relation then tell her that no matter what you will always like her and that you dont want to lose her over some thing stupid like trhis
Due Date Calculation?
I have this question, this may sound weird.
The first day of my LMP was June 1st 2007 (06/01/07)
I believe I got pregnant on the 14th or 16th of June.
My doctor first calculated my due date as march 9th from the LMP date I gave her.
When I went for my first IV ultra sound, she said my due date wasn’t correct.
She then tells me that the due date is March 21st and my LMP started on June 15th.
Now I know she is an excellent OB-GYN with over 20yrs of experience, but I know when I had my last period!!
Could she possibly be miscalculating? I am currently working and I intend to work until 2weeks before my due date. But if she calculated wrong, I don’t want to be at work when I go into labor….
Anyone with similar experiences? Any advice appreciated!
Due Date Calculation?
First day of last menstrual period: June 1, 2007
Estimated date of conception: Friday, June 15, 2007
End of 1st trimester (12 weeks): Friday, August 24, 2007
End of 2nd trimester (27 weeks): Friday, December 7, 2007
Estimated Due Date: March 7, 2008
You are 17 weeks, 5 days pregnant
Go by your last period. Same thing happened to my mom. The doctor said she was further along than what she was. She knew when her last period was. My god she had had 6 kids before my brother she knows something about counting back and finding out when your due.
Well when it came time to have my brother she knew she was due in January NOT febuary like the doctor said, they even gave her drugs to stop labor but they couldn't stop it cause it was time to have him. Don't listen to your doctor, you always go by your last period. Maybe you should get a different doctor.
Good luck
Reply:go by your period if you are sure of date. your due date would be march 9th.
Reply:The most accurate due date would be the ultrasound. They measure the baby and can give you an accurate date depending on the size of the baby.
Reply:Well, I am pregnant and my due date is March 14th. My lmp was June 8th. My u/s confirmed that. Yet, your due date is just an estimate. It is more like a due month. Maybe get a second opinion.
Reply:Personally, I don't know why doctors still give due dates. They should give a "due range" or something. Calculating due dates is a very imprecise science. Its possible that you miscalculated your ovulation date and conceived later in your cycle than you thought, thus pushing your due date further back. Its also possible that the original date is correct and your baby will just be a little smaller than average. Generally, an ultrasound is going to more precise than going off your LMP - especially if its early in your pregnancy. I would wait to take off work until two weeks before the March 21st due date. There's no gurantee you won't go into labor before you stop working, but that's my suggestion.
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The first day of my LMP was June 1st 2007 (06/01/07)
I believe I got pregnant on the 14th or 16th of June.
My doctor first calculated my due date as march 9th from the LMP date I gave her.
When I went for my first IV ultra sound, she said my due date wasn’t correct.
She then tells me that the due date is March 21st and my LMP started on June 15th.
Now I know she is an excellent OB-GYN with over 20yrs of experience, but I know when I had my last period!!
Could she possibly be miscalculating? I am currently working and I intend to work until 2weeks before my due date. But if she calculated wrong, I don’t want to be at work when I go into labor….
Anyone with similar experiences? Any advice appreciated!
Due Date Calculation?
First day of last menstrual period: June 1, 2007
Estimated date of conception: Friday, June 15, 2007
End of 1st trimester (12 weeks): Friday, August 24, 2007
End of 2nd trimester (27 weeks): Friday, December 7, 2007
Estimated Due Date: March 7, 2008
You are 17 weeks, 5 days pregnant
Go by your last period. Same thing happened to my mom. The doctor said she was further along than what she was. She knew when her last period was. My god she had had 6 kids before my brother she knows something about counting back and finding out when your due.
Well when it came time to have my brother she knew she was due in January NOT febuary like the doctor said, they even gave her drugs to stop labor but they couldn't stop it cause it was time to have him. Don't listen to your doctor, you always go by your last period. Maybe you should get a different doctor.
Good luck
Reply:go by your period if you are sure of date. your due date would be march 9th.
Reply:The most accurate due date would be the ultrasound. They measure the baby and can give you an accurate date depending on the size of the baby.
Reply:Well, I am pregnant and my due date is March 14th. My lmp was June 8th. My u/s confirmed that. Yet, your due date is just an estimate. It is more like a due month. Maybe get a second opinion.
Reply:Personally, I don't know why doctors still give due dates. They should give a "due range" or something. Calculating due dates is a very imprecise science. Its possible that you miscalculated your ovulation date and conceived later in your cycle than you thought, thus pushing your due date further back. Its also possible that the original date is correct and your baby will just be a little smaller than average. Generally, an ultrasound is going to more precise than going off your LMP - especially if its early in your pregnancy. I would wait to take off work until two weeks before the March 21st due date. There's no gurantee you won't go into labor before you stop working, but that's my suggestion.
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3rd date advice- is a hug or kiss expected ?? or if neither happens-are we just buddies& no romance possibile?
1st date was a casual dinner.2nd date we played tennis %26amp; had lunch. 3rd date we are going to play tennis %26amp; go get something to eat. 1st date-she gave a hug at end of night. 2nd date-I gave her a hug. N o real romance or sparks. just having fun %26amp; getting to be
with each other. Should we continue to do the same thing-
should i wait for a move from her to show her inetrest romantically
SHould we at least hug or kiss on cheek at end of night.
what does everyone think??????
3rd date advice- is a hug or kiss expected ?? or if neither happens-are we just buddies%26amp; no romance possibile?
There is no real formula to follow for any number of dates. You simply need to let it flow, for lack of a better term, it seems this girl likes you as this is your 3rd date.
Keep getting to know each other, take things slow and let HER set the pace. However, you can ask her if she'd like for you to kiss her, being honest and asking questions is the best approach, no matter how many dates you've been on.
Reply:Kiss her, kiss her, kiss her...
Reply:I think the more time you spend getting to know someone is better than trying to move into fast and screwing things up. Being the third date I would probably go ahead and move in for a kiss and see what happens.
Reply:Just kiss the girl already!
Reply:kiss her! if you dont kiss her by the third date she will think your not interested. just do it.
Reply:You should be kissing each other by now.
Reply:Go ahead and kiss her. She obviously likes you to have gone out with your 3 times. Just dont be a wuss with the kiss. Let the fire in your heart melt her lips.
Reply:You better hurry up and make some kind of move or she'll think you don't have the balls. If you don't do it on 3rd date after tennis %26amp; lunch, then ask her for an evening dinner, cocktails, or a movie and be sure to make some sort of move to show your interest by the end of the date...perhaps since it's at nighttime and more of a real date it will be more comfortable to approach. If you wait too long it will just keep getting built up and getting more %26amp; more uncomfortable...because neither of you will know where you stand. Good Luck! and don't be nervous...she wouldn't keep agreeing to go out with you if she wasn't interested in you.
Reply:Your first mistake is "expecting" something to happen....you either make it happen or move on. If you're feeling each other in that special way, it'll be obvious......
with each other. Should we continue to do the same thing-
should i wait for a move from her to show her inetrest romantically
SHould we at least hug or kiss on cheek at end of night.
what does everyone think??????
3rd date advice- is a hug or kiss expected ?? or if neither happens-are we just buddies%26amp; no romance possibile?
There is no real formula to follow for any number of dates. You simply need to let it flow, for lack of a better term, it seems this girl likes you as this is your 3rd date.
Keep getting to know each other, take things slow and let HER set the pace. However, you can ask her if she'd like for you to kiss her, being honest and asking questions is the best approach, no matter how many dates you've been on.
Reply:Kiss her, kiss her, kiss her...
Reply:I think the more time you spend getting to know someone is better than trying to move into fast and screwing things up. Being the third date I would probably go ahead and move in for a kiss and see what happens.
Reply:Just kiss the girl already!
Reply:kiss her! if you dont kiss her by the third date she will think your not interested. just do it.
Reply:You should be kissing each other by now.
Reply:Go ahead and kiss her. She obviously likes you to have gone out with your 3 times. Just dont be a wuss with the kiss. Let the fire in your heart melt her lips.
Reply:You better hurry up and make some kind of move or she'll think you don't have the balls. If you don't do it on 3rd date after tennis %26amp; lunch, then ask her for an evening dinner, cocktails, or a movie and be sure to make some sort of move to show your interest by the end of the date...perhaps since it's at nighttime and more of a real date it will be more comfortable to approach. If you wait too long it will just keep getting built up and getting more %26amp; more uncomfortable...because neither of you will know where you stand. Good Luck! and don't be nervous...she wouldn't keep agreeing to go out with you if she wasn't interested in you.
Reply:Your first mistake is "expecting" something to happen....you either make it happen or move on. If you're feeling each other in that special way, it'll be obvious......
How can today's date in Excel - in a FORM - be saved as the day the form was accessed and filled in?
I've created a form and I want to 'lock' the date - set up automatically for 'today' - so that when the form (template) is 'saved as' for a specific project, the date the form was originally saved is saved, i.e. it doesn't KEEP returning the 'today' date.
Is this clear? or have I clouded it?
I select a form to input data on, e.g. 12/24/2008, I add the data and then save the form in the project file.
The next person in the chain retrieves the form a couple of weeks later and the submission date, i.e. 12/24/2008 is still showing.
What I'm trying to do is stop people 'back dating' a form by having the form automatically add today's date, but then I want the date SAVED in the cell on the date it was originally processed
Anyone got any ideas please?
Many thanks
Pooo
How can today's date in Excel - in a FORM - be saved as the day the form was accessed and filled in?
You have to learn how to write vba for that.
Private Sub Workbook_BeforeSave(ByVal SaveAsUI As Boolean, Cancel As Boolean)
ActiveSheet.Range("a1") = Now()
End Sub
Is this clear? or have I clouded it?
I select a form to input data on, e.g. 12/24/2008, I add the data and then save the form in the project file.
The next person in the chain retrieves the form a couple of weeks later and the submission date, i.e. 12/24/2008 is still showing.
What I'm trying to do is stop people 'back dating' a form by having the form automatically add today's date, but then I want the date SAVED in the cell on the date it was originally processed
Anyone got any ideas please?
Many thanks
Pooo
How can today's date in Excel - in a FORM - be saved as the day the form was accessed and filled in?
You have to learn how to write vba for that.
Private Sub Workbook_BeforeSave(ByVal SaveAsUI As Boolean, Cancel As Boolean)
ActiveSheet.Range("a1") = Now()
End Sub
First date questions?
It's my first date wit ha girl I really really like. Everytime we've talked we can't wait to see each other. We just felt a connection with each other almost immideitly. And tomarrow is our first date and I must admitt, the closer it gets i feel nervous. I guess its normal right? lol. We're both big bowling fans, she's on our town's bowling leauge so we agreed to do that and sit and talk for our first. I dont want to sound premature but how do I tell if she wants me to kiss her? there's been times I've missed it acording to other girls I've dated and I never figured it out. Any hints? (good ones). Also, my friends think of her as annoying, and they told me I shouldn't date her, of course they've got no room to talk. one's 19 and had a gf 16. one has a gf in canada he's never met lol. How can I tell them to get over it so we both don't feel so acward around my friends? Also, whats a good way to kiss a girl on the 1st date if it comes up?
First date questions?
Well some hints are she will dawdle a bit near the end of the date, like if she says she has to go soon and then looks at you with like a little smile on her face then she might want you to kiss her. Some girls might even lean in a little bit and wait for you to do the rest. A good way to kiss a girl on the first date is probably like open mouth but no tongue, you kinda make out but you keep it short and simple. You can tell your friends to bugger off because you like her and that he shouldnt be talking because he has a gf hes never met, thats lame.
Reply:First of all .. if she scoots closer and closer to you..tryes to hold your hand..shes probably easing in... almost every girl wants that kiss!! gotta have somthing to tell the girlfriends later on...heres an idea..a photo booth!! If you can find one of those... that last pic might be a smooch!!.if you think its the big moment..and you go in for it..and she looks away.. give a kiss on the cheek..tell her she smells nice..BE SLICK! lol if your friends love you..they'll come around..somtimes dudes give other dudes a hard time b/c they don't wanna loose you to a girl.. but deep down inside, they want you happy...just takes some getting used to..
First date questions?
Well some hints are she will dawdle a bit near the end of the date, like if she says she has to go soon and then looks at you with like a little smile on her face then she might want you to kiss her. Some girls might even lean in a little bit and wait for you to do the rest. A good way to kiss a girl on the first date is probably like open mouth but no tongue, you kinda make out but you keep it short and simple. You can tell your friends to bugger off because you like her and that he shouldnt be talking because he has a gf hes never met, thats lame.
Reply:First of all .. if she scoots closer and closer to you..tryes to hold your hand..shes probably easing in... almost every girl wants that kiss!! gotta have somthing to tell the girlfriends later on...heres an idea..a photo booth!! If you can find one of those... that last pic might be a smooch!!.if you think its the big moment..and you go in for it..and she looks away.. give a kiss on the cheek..tell her she smells nice..BE SLICK! lol if your friends love you..they'll come around..somtimes dudes give other dudes a hard time b/c they don't wanna loose you to a girl.. but deep down inside, they want you happy...just takes some getting used to..
Is every friendly date a real date?
I met a girl who I find attractive and pleasant. I asked her out for lunch, but I am wondering whether she thinks it's a friendly date or a date date. What would you think? Someone tells me every date is a date date (unless they are simply not looking).
Can anyone recommend any subtle cues to let her know I'm interested?
Is every friendly date a real date?
man. make eye contact. when she's not looking at you, just stare at her eyes and when she looks up into yours just smile and make a joke or something. make fun of her in a friendly way or something. don't do anything really physical yet. just keep her wanting more. plant the seed and let it sprout. this ALWAYS works for me. remember, eye contact and funny, pretty much just be charming. that'll do it for most girls.
Reply:I would say that would have been a casual date, not a date date.
If you ask her out for dinner and a movie, now thats a date!
Why don't you just ask her out for dinner?
Good luck
Reply:it depended how yu treated her on the date.
if yu wanted to hug her tight or hold her hand she would've taken it a date date but if yu just yeah
bablablabalbal
she mustve taken it a frendly date
flirt with her
:]
hope this helps
%26lt;3
Reply:just flirt with her! make sure you open doors for her and DEF pay for her meal. maybe lightly touch her hand or something during lunch too. if you're really worried, just tell her how you feel!
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Can anyone recommend any subtle cues to let her know I'm interested?
Is every friendly date a real date?
man. make eye contact. when she's not looking at you, just stare at her eyes and when she looks up into yours just smile and make a joke or something. make fun of her in a friendly way or something. don't do anything really physical yet. just keep her wanting more. plant the seed and let it sprout. this ALWAYS works for me. remember, eye contact and funny, pretty much just be charming. that'll do it for most girls.
Reply:I would say that would have been a casual date, not a date date.
If you ask her out for dinner and a movie, now thats a date!
Why don't you just ask her out for dinner?
Good luck
Reply:it depended how yu treated her on the date.
if yu wanted to hug her tight or hold her hand she would've taken it a date date but if yu just yeah
bablablabalbal
she mustve taken it a frendly date
flirt with her
:]
hope this helps
%26lt;3
Reply:just flirt with her! make sure you open doors for her and DEF pay for her meal. maybe lightly touch her hand or something during lunch too. if you're really worried, just tell her how you feel!
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Ladies....would you date a man who was in a Trial Seperation?
I am up in the air about even dating right now. My wife wants a 6 month seperation and she already starting dating after a month. I am just confused as to how I should handle this. I want her to know I am still the man she married and that I could be with another woman but I choose to be with her. I feel like she is acting out right now to show me that she is just as able. We have been married for one year and we dated for a year and a half but we had been chasing each other back and forth for over ten years. So should I just start dating too or should I stick to my guns to show how badly I want this to work? I really believe if she wanted a seperation she would not be dating she would be alone. I have tons of questions about this situation just tell me the first things that comes to mind or what you think I shold hear. But for this forum...would you date a guy in a seperation or should I not tell the girl, at first, I am dating that I am in a seperation in case I might scare her off?
Ladies....would you date a man who was in a Trial Seperation?
I would not date a separated man. You would not be truly available and a waste of my time. You want your wife back. So work towards that instead of playing games and possibly getting a 3rd person involved for no reason. If you happen to still try to date anyways, you must tell that person that you are separated and not trying to get a divorce. They deserve to know what they are getting into. Good luck with your marriage.
Reply:I would say it's too risky and I'm surprised your wife is doing it. mentioning it probably would scare off a lot of girls (depends what they're after) but so would not being honest if they find out later, or you have to break up the realationship to get back with your wife.
Reply:i would be honest with the girl...or else yeh you might scare her off and you might offend her a little.
hope it works between you and your wife
Reply:If I were you I wouldn't hold my breath. If you are in a trial separation she isn't supposed to be dating someone else. That is not fair to you. I would begin dating right away and forget the "trial' part. It looks like it is off. She will only return to you if she finds out that the grass is not greener on the other side. Why would you want to accept used goods? Go for it man, and forget her.
Reply:she sounds like a verry selfish, confused woman, she wants to be married but she also wants to have relations with other men.
and you are putting right there for her..
i am sorry to say it, but grow a pair(balls) and tell her do you want to be married to me? no seperation no dating other men you are with me or you are not...., its you who is suffering not her, give her the ultamatum.. and see if she makes the right choice.. if she dosen't then get a divorce and move on...just accept that she was not the right woman for you and find a woman that deserves you.
no i would not date a guy who was in a seperation period because it sounds as though all she has to do is snap her fingers and you will come running like a little puppy dog, and ill bet my bottom dollar she would make a fuss as soon as you dated another woman.. as i said she is selfish and is having it all her own way and you are letting her.....
Reply:If you both start dating you're never gonna get back together, and u'll fall in love with someone else. Now if you want to be with ur wife and no other woman, show her and dnt date other men. If she asks why ur not dating tell her its because u love her and there's no point in dating if u already know who you wanna spend the rest of ur life with.
Personally I would not date someone in a trial seperation because I would never feel as if we were completly commited, and i wuld think of it was just somethng casual, a fling, no strings attached.
good luck
hope i helped.
Reply:nope!!! too much baggage, and if it were me, I wouold always wonder if he would be getting back together with his wife, considering it is only a trial. I would stay away. Nothing but trouble.
Reply:you said "I really believe if she wanted a seperation she would not be dating she would be alone"
...WUT? you got it all mixed up man! if she DID'NT really want a separation SHE would be alone and would not date. So since she is dating...i think she's looking for a replacement of you already. I personally wouldn't date a man in trial separation....but why lie about this? what's your agenda?
Reply:First of you said you've been married a year? and already the separation comes about. she wants it for 6 months. who ever heard of a time frame for separation. If she started to date only after one month of the separation she was likely to have been cheating on you before she came up with this idea of a six months separation. At such a early stage of marriage she can't be serious of you. She seems to have issues with her self. I don't know how old she is but it sounds like she can take all that comes with a marriage to only want to separate after only a year of marriage isn't right. makes no sense what so ever. and to date a month later tells me she has some issues about weather or not she should have gotten married if she was truely ready to be married. She must feel that aniexty of why did I. I been married for 8 years. and some times feel like a trail separation because all the weight of the marriage is thrown on to me. but i think about the years invested in it. but i have a ray of hope it will change soon. any ways if she really want just some time to think she wouldn't date some else to see if there is any better out after one yer of marriage she might have cheated on you and wants to do this trail 6 months to see if she has any feeling for this other guy. separation is not about finding some else to see if find some one better. people are always going to look better at first cause they are new. but after awhile all the same problems can happen with them. stress from a mortage stress from a job not having the money to do the thing you use to do because you took the step to be as one. she got married and is scares her now or she cheated on you and wants to make up a reason for this separation. I wouldn't date some one who is in separation. unless they are on the verge of divorce and no chance of rekindling the marriage. but separation shouldn't be like that. She must feel over welmed because she doesn't have the money freedom to buy what ever she wanted because it affects you also on what she spends. if thats the case she is immature and needs to learn what marriage mean try getting some marriage consoling to see if you can resolve her issues she has about being married and not having that spending freedom. if that is her problem that is but maybe the consoling will help figure out if thats her problem. or what her problem is. have you asked her why the separation? What in th world makes want it so early in the marriage? To me it is usually cause they cheated. to hide the fact they cheated they come up witht his 6 month trail separation. Figure out the real reason behind this so you figure out if you should try to fix it or let it go. I hate to say it but if she cheated on you she didn't have to guts to tell you so she came up witht his trail separation thing. I would just talk to her and find out don't ask her if she cheated. but just ask her why is she dated in the separation when it suppose to be a time to think not a time to date. there is some thing funny there i think.
Reply:well the seperation is not the reason that i won't date with u, is where u put ur heart now, if still with her, so why should i date with u if you didn't see in me, if u just using me, right??
Reply:yes id find you so intresting but like if you were a tv show i wouldnt let my heart get into anything cause girls fall easy and hard ;[
Reply:no. once the trial is over and they go back together.. what happens to me. can not take that chance. sorry. no
Reply:Sure...date but don't let your heart get involved just in case,
Reply:you should be straight up about the situation. Chances are you will not be getting back with your wife.
Reply:NO NO NO NO NO NO NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Right. Read your other question and this whole thing obviously weighs heavy on your mind.
The answer to the question is: Absolutely not!
It is utterly unfair to whomever you're dating because you're still married and you may go back to your spouse. It boils down to you using other people. What will you say to your potential date: Hey lady, I'm married and I love my wife and if she says so, I'll go back to her, but in the meantime, I'd love to sleep with you?.
Are you afraid to divorce unless you have someone else lined up? Are you trying to live up to your wife's level of infidelity? All that does is make you equally wrong! If she started taking crack, would you go out and take crack to level the playing field? Think about the logic (or rather lack of logic) of what you're considering doing here.
Instead of involving a whole lot of other people, do yourself a favor and call it quits and then go out and date. This may be difficult, but forget what your wife is doing. It's wrong, either way you look at it. Make a clean break and get on with your life. Everything else will only make matters more difficult.
Ladies....would you date a man who was in a Trial Seperation?
I would not date a separated man. You would not be truly available and a waste of my time. You want your wife back. So work towards that instead of playing games and possibly getting a 3rd person involved for no reason. If you happen to still try to date anyways, you must tell that person that you are separated and not trying to get a divorce. They deserve to know what they are getting into. Good luck with your marriage.
Reply:I would say it's too risky and I'm surprised your wife is doing it. mentioning it probably would scare off a lot of girls (depends what they're after) but so would not being honest if they find out later, or you have to break up the realationship to get back with your wife.
Reply:i would be honest with the girl...or else yeh you might scare her off and you might offend her a little.
hope it works between you and your wife
Reply:If I were you I wouldn't hold my breath. If you are in a trial separation she isn't supposed to be dating someone else. That is not fair to you. I would begin dating right away and forget the "trial' part. It looks like it is off. She will only return to you if she finds out that the grass is not greener on the other side. Why would you want to accept used goods? Go for it man, and forget her.
Reply:she sounds like a verry selfish, confused woman, she wants to be married but she also wants to have relations with other men.
and you are putting right there for her..
i am sorry to say it, but grow a pair(balls) and tell her do you want to be married to me? no seperation no dating other men you are with me or you are not...., its you who is suffering not her, give her the ultamatum.. and see if she makes the right choice.. if she dosen't then get a divorce and move on...just accept that she was not the right woman for you and find a woman that deserves you.
no i would not date a guy who was in a seperation period because it sounds as though all she has to do is snap her fingers and you will come running like a little puppy dog, and ill bet my bottom dollar she would make a fuss as soon as you dated another woman.. as i said she is selfish and is having it all her own way and you are letting her.....
Reply:If you both start dating you're never gonna get back together, and u'll fall in love with someone else. Now if you want to be with ur wife and no other woman, show her and dnt date other men. If she asks why ur not dating tell her its because u love her and there's no point in dating if u already know who you wanna spend the rest of ur life with.
Personally I would not date someone in a trial seperation because I would never feel as if we were completly commited, and i wuld think of it was just somethng casual, a fling, no strings attached.
good luck
hope i helped.
Reply:nope!!! too much baggage, and if it were me, I wouold always wonder if he would be getting back together with his wife, considering it is only a trial. I would stay away. Nothing but trouble.
Reply:you said "I really believe if she wanted a seperation she would not be dating she would be alone"
...WUT? you got it all mixed up man! if she DID'NT really want a separation SHE would be alone and would not date. So since she is dating...i think she's looking for a replacement of you already. I personally wouldn't date a man in trial separation....but why lie about this? what's your agenda?
Reply:First of you said you've been married a year? and already the separation comes about. she wants it for 6 months. who ever heard of a time frame for separation. If she started to date only after one month of the separation she was likely to have been cheating on you before she came up with this idea of a six months separation. At such a early stage of marriage she can't be serious of you. She seems to have issues with her self. I don't know how old she is but it sounds like she can take all that comes with a marriage to only want to separate after only a year of marriage isn't right. makes no sense what so ever. and to date a month later tells me she has some issues about weather or not she should have gotten married if she was truely ready to be married. She must feel that aniexty of why did I. I been married for 8 years. and some times feel like a trail separation because all the weight of the marriage is thrown on to me. but i think about the years invested in it. but i have a ray of hope it will change soon. any ways if she really want just some time to think she wouldn't date some else to see if there is any better out after one yer of marriage she might have cheated on you and wants to do this trail 6 months to see if she has any feeling for this other guy. separation is not about finding some else to see if find some one better. people are always going to look better at first cause they are new. but after awhile all the same problems can happen with them. stress from a mortage stress from a job not having the money to do the thing you use to do because you took the step to be as one. she got married and is scares her now or she cheated on you and wants to make up a reason for this separation. I wouldn't date some one who is in separation. unless they are on the verge of divorce and no chance of rekindling the marriage. but separation shouldn't be like that. She must feel over welmed because she doesn't have the money freedom to buy what ever she wanted because it affects you also on what she spends. if thats the case she is immature and needs to learn what marriage mean try getting some marriage consoling to see if you can resolve her issues she has about being married and not having that spending freedom. if that is her problem that is but maybe the consoling will help figure out if thats her problem. or what her problem is. have you asked her why the separation? What in th world makes want it so early in the marriage? To me it is usually cause they cheated. to hide the fact they cheated they come up witht his 6 month trail separation. Figure out the real reason behind this so you figure out if you should try to fix it or let it go. I hate to say it but if she cheated on you she didn't have to guts to tell you so she came up witht his trail separation thing. I would just talk to her and find out don't ask her if she cheated. but just ask her why is she dated in the separation when it suppose to be a time to think not a time to date. there is some thing funny there i think.
Reply:well the seperation is not the reason that i won't date with u, is where u put ur heart now, if still with her, so why should i date with u if you didn't see in me, if u just using me, right??
Reply:yes id find you so intresting but like if you were a tv show i wouldnt let my heart get into anything cause girls fall easy and hard ;[
Reply:no. once the trial is over and they go back together.. what happens to me. can not take that chance. sorry. no
Reply:Sure...date but don't let your heart get involved just in case,
Reply:you should be straight up about the situation. Chances are you will not be getting back with your wife.
Reply:NO NO NO NO NO NO NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Right. Read your other question and this whole thing obviously weighs heavy on your mind.
The answer to the question is: Absolutely not!
It is utterly unfair to whomever you're dating because you're still married and you may go back to your spouse. It boils down to you using other people. What will you say to your potential date: Hey lady, I'm married and I love my wife and if she says so, I'll go back to her, but in the meantime, I'd love to sleep with you?.
Are you afraid to divorce unless you have someone else lined up? Are you trying to live up to your wife's level of infidelity? All that does is make you equally wrong! If she started taking crack, would you go out and take crack to level the playing field? Think about the logic (or rather lack of logic) of what you're considering doing here.
Instead of involving a whole lot of other people, do yourself a favor and call it quits and then go out and date. This may be difficult, but forget what your wife is doing. It's wrong, either way you look at it. Make a clean break and get on with your life. Everything else will only make matters more difficult.
How can i subtract delivery date from current date in c++?
I have a program running for a university project (1st year at uni of central lancashire, preston, england baby yeh...
everything works fine, its a carpet shop program that calcs the prices etc then asks for a delivery date....
which it then converts to three strings, and then to integers for seperate day / month / year (need this as it is,
so dont say i should change it...)
cout %26lt;%26lt; "\nPlease enter the preferred date of delivery, in the format DD/MM/YYYY: \n";
cin %26gt;%26gt; Date;
DayStr[0] = Date[0];
DayStr[1] = Date[1];
DayStr[2] = '\0';
^^ same for month and years ^^
i then get the date n time from the system using time_t now;
how can i subtract the currrent date from the delivery date so i can print to be delivered in x days?
any help welcomed :D
How can i subtract delivery date from current date in c++?
Assuming your above program works, which I don't think it will because your doing an aggregate operation on an array..you should assign values to indexes in the array...eg cin %26gt;%26gt; Date[0] or use a for loop or something...regardless since your putting everything in an array anyway simply do something like using a counter variable, personally i think it would be the easiest way of doing something like that.
int counter = 0;
cout %26lt;%26lt; enter day to subtract %26lt;%26lt; endl;
cin %26gt;%26gt; counter;
cout %26lt;%26lt; Date[1] - Date[counter] %26lt;%26lt; endl;
I belive using
Reply:i don't know
teething
everything works fine, its a carpet shop program that calcs the prices etc then asks for a delivery date....
which it then converts to three strings, and then to integers for seperate day / month / year (need this as it is,
so dont say i should change it...)
cout %26lt;%26lt; "\nPlease enter the preferred date of delivery, in the format DD/MM/YYYY: \n";
cin %26gt;%26gt; Date;
DayStr[0] = Date[0];
DayStr[1] = Date[1];
DayStr[2] = '\0';
^^ same for month and years ^^
i then get the date n time from the system using time_t now;
how can i subtract the currrent date from the delivery date so i can print to be delivered in x days?
any help welcomed :D
How can i subtract delivery date from current date in c++?
Assuming your above program works, which I don't think it will because your doing an aggregate operation on an array..you should assign values to indexes in the array...eg cin %26gt;%26gt; Date[0] or use a for loop or something...regardless since your putting everything in an array anyway simply do something like using a counter variable, personally i think it would be the easiest way of doing something like that.
int counter = 0;
cout %26lt;%26lt; enter day to subtract %26lt;%26lt; endl;
cin %26gt;%26gt; counter;
cout %26lt;%26lt; Date[1] - Date[counter] %26lt;%26lt; endl;
I belive using
Reply:i don't know
teething
Third date....you know what I'm talkin' about...?
Okay, outside opinions needed. I went out on a semi-blind date Friday. Had an awesome time, we only had plans for a couple hours but ended up talking into the wee hours of the morning. Then, we had the "date-after-the-date," met up and hung out for a couple hours on Sat night, much shorter and more casual than the 1st date, which was fine because our schedules were pretty tight Saturday. We have kissed but nothing more. Normally I'm a girl who waits for a while, but I don't think I can help myself? Sex on the 3rd date too soon? I am really into this guy. What advice do you have?
Third date....you know what I'm talkin' about...?
Do it, and DO IT ALL. Times have changed and you need to make sure he is hooked. Go O to completion and hint at A next time.....and ignore the bitter religious puritans on here...they are all lonely and wishing they had the guts or that their husbands came home nights!
Reply:Thanx and I promise you I am right x Report It
Reply:Keep your legs crossed.
Reply:You know in your heart when it is time, it doesnt matter if it is the first date or the 30th date. Sounds like things are going great and I wish you all the best. My wife and I both knew within hours of meeting that it was meant to be. I wont say when it was but we had sex pretty early in our relationship.
Reply:the choice is really yours to decide. to some it would seem a bit too soon, would make you out to seem a bit easy, who wants to marry someone who puts out after a couple of dates, if you do it with him how many people has she done it with? it is easier for blokes they are still socially accepted if they sleep about but not for women. the other side is if you fancy him/sex that much take it as far as you want!! oh yeah dont forget safe sex
Reply:There is no timetable that must be followed. Wait until you know this guy better. An worthwhile man will wait.
Reply:i wouldn't follow the 3rd date rule. if that was the case... i'd be a major turbo sl_ut by now and would have made major rounds.
be good to yourself-
Reply:If you want to do it, then do it. don't be upset if you never see him again though. He is a bloke. at least you'll know sooner rather than later.
If this does work tell him he owe's me one!!!
Reply:whatever turns u on
Reply:Wait. Wait. Wait until you know him a lot lot lot better. I believe in waiting til marriage obviously you differ in opinion. Get to know who he is before you put your emotions on the line. If you're they type of woman who can just have sex without attachment then you probably wouldn't be here asking.
Reply:go for it but u have to suck it all off now
Reply:I'd say that it has to be no sooner than the third date but also no earlier than about 2 weeks for a blind date. I'm a hypocrite though; I've had a ton of one night stands but that's all most turned out to be. Waiting is better if you want a real relationship.
Reply:i say give it up. what do you have to lose?? it's not like you're a virgin (i'm assuming) so give it to him like he's never had it before!!! go get 'em tiger!!!!!!
Reply:The only person who I ever had sex with early on in the relationship was my husband. We actually were so attracted to eachother, and so into eachother that we did do it on the first date, but it was mutual. (I know what people are going to say about that, and that's ok...we love eachother so I think it's fine)
If you know he's not just gonna up and leave you after this, then I'd say go for it! Nothing wrong with it! If you don't trust him, or think there is a chance he's not gonna call again then I'd say wait a little longer...see what he's like. Good luck :)
Reply:I'm not going to be a "religious puritan" type, just a common sense older woman type here.
The time for sex is not yet. You need to find out more about him, what his values are like, hobbies, friends he hangs with, what he does with his quiet time, whether he wants you in that space or not. How does he treat you? Is he a gentleman with his mom or sisters? That's a huge indicator of how he'll treat you.
If you feed the physical attraction more than you allow the emotional and mental attraction to grow, it won't be a healthy relationship. It'll be one-dimensional and painful when he gets bored and it shatters 'cause that's all you had to hold it together.
My advice is to keep it to kissing %26amp; handholding but no petting or sex until you're both ready for something more committed. Sorry to those who advise to "go for it!". They're looking at the short term lust and gratification. If you want more, maybe a deep relationship with this guy, then wait.
Reply:Talk to him about it. If he thinks its too early, then it is. If he is cool with it, then you are good to go. Consider how recent your last relationship was. Jumping in too soon with someone new can damage a new relationship. Are you over your last one. Is he? If your really into him, if you want to keep this relatijonship for a while.... then talk to him about this. Communication is really important here.
Reply:Use the ribbed trojans!
Have fun!
Reply:it all depends, do you think he just wants you for sex? or do you think that it is something that will turn into a relationship? if the only thing that you guys want from each other is just sex or a fling go for it as long as that is what BOTH of you want. but you need to talk about it. to me it is weird, people feel shy or embarrassed to talk about sex, but they feel more ok to just have sex with someone they don't really know that well. you know what i mean, when you talk al you do is move your mouth and words come out, but when you have sex you use so much more.
so basically if yo can't talk to him about it then you shouldn't do it.
Reply:I'd wait
Reply:it's not too son .. go 4 it if you feel like it
Reply:Just wait,it will be better sex if u wait anyways...
Reply:give it up!!!!!!!! you know him well enough, I mean you did talk into the wee hours of the night...
Reply:it looks like you guys are on the same page, so why not go out on the 3rd date? if youre into this guy and he's giving you the same vibes, then i think you guys are ready for the 3rd date. just because you're use to taking your time doesnt mean you still have too.
good luck for the both of you!
Reply:Seriously, if you think you want to be with this guy for a long term, DON'T SLEEP ON THE THIRD DATE!!!
I mean, don't even sleep on the 10th date if he hasn't asked you to be his girl!!
I think people just go sleeping with strangers too easily, and guess what, you'll be dumped in a month.
Don't do that for your sakes, no matter what your friends say.
You will definately regret if you sleep too early!!
I assure you FOR SURE, waiting isn't bad!
When that time comes, and I know you would be seduced very much, but tell him that you won't be sleeping with a guy is not in a relationship.
If he goes away from your life cuz you don't sleep with him easily, than that's the kind of guy, and you don't want that do you?
If you want him to love you, respect yourself. There's NOTHING COOL about sleeping with people you're not in a relationship. Get him to say the words first, and than go in bed!
Reply:if you dont feel regret very easily then go for it. if you one of those girls who crries over her first kiss cos it wasnt "perfect" then dont go for it.......... But have fun!!!!
Third date....you know what I'm talkin' about...?
Do it, and DO IT ALL. Times have changed and you need to make sure he is hooked. Go O to completion and hint at A next time.....and ignore the bitter religious puritans on here...they are all lonely and wishing they had the guts or that their husbands came home nights!
Reply:Thanx and I promise you I am right x Report It
Reply:Keep your legs crossed.
Reply:You know in your heart when it is time, it doesnt matter if it is the first date or the 30th date. Sounds like things are going great and I wish you all the best. My wife and I both knew within hours of meeting that it was meant to be. I wont say when it was but we had sex pretty early in our relationship.
Reply:the choice is really yours to decide. to some it would seem a bit too soon, would make you out to seem a bit easy, who wants to marry someone who puts out after a couple of dates, if you do it with him how many people has she done it with? it is easier for blokes they are still socially accepted if they sleep about but not for women. the other side is if you fancy him/sex that much take it as far as you want!! oh yeah dont forget safe sex
Reply:There is no timetable that must be followed. Wait until you know this guy better. An worthwhile man will wait.
Reply:i wouldn't follow the 3rd date rule. if that was the case... i'd be a major turbo sl_ut by now and would have made major rounds.
be good to yourself-
Reply:If you want to do it, then do it. don't be upset if you never see him again though. He is a bloke. at least you'll know sooner rather than later.
If this does work tell him he owe's me one!!!
Reply:whatever turns u on
Reply:Wait. Wait. Wait until you know him a lot lot lot better. I believe in waiting til marriage obviously you differ in opinion. Get to know who he is before you put your emotions on the line. If you're they type of woman who can just have sex without attachment then you probably wouldn't be here asking.
Reply:go for it but u have to suck it all off now
Reply:I'd say that it has to be no sooner than the third date but also no earlier than about 2 weeks for a blind date. I'm a hypocrite though; I've had a ton of one night stands but that's all most turned out to be. Waiting is better if you want a real relationship.
Reply:i say give it up. what do you have to lose?? it's not like you're a virgin (i'm assuming) so give it to him like he's never had it before!!! go get 'em tiger!!!!!!
Reply:The only person who I ever had sex with early on in the relationship was my husband. We actually were so attracted to eachother, and so into eachother that we did do it on the first date, but it was mutual. (I know what people are going to say about that, and that's ok...we love eachother so I think it's fine)
If you know he's not just gonna up and leave you after this, then I'd say go for it! Nothing wrong with it! If you don't trust him, or think there is a chance he's not gonna call again then I'd say wait a little longer...see what he's like. Good luck :)
Reply:I'm not going to be a "religious puritan" type, just a common sense older woman type here.
The time for sex is not yet. You need to find out more about him, what his values are like, hobbies, friends he hangs with, what he does with his quiet time, whether he wants you in that space or not. How does he treat you? Is he a gentleman with his mom or sisters? That's a huge indicator of how he'll treat you.
If you feed the physical attraction more than you allow the emotional and mental attraction to grow, it won't be a healthy relationship. It'll be one-dimensional and painful when he gets bored and it shatters 'cause that's all you had to hold it together.
My advice is to keep it to kissing %26amp; handholding but no petting or sex until you're both ready for something more committed. Sorry to those who advise to "go for it!". They're looking at the short term lust and gratification. If you want more, maybe a deep relationship with this guy, then wait.
Reply:Talk to him about it. If he thinks its too early, then it is. If he is cool with it, then you are good to go. Consider how recent your last relationship was. Jumping in too soon with someone new can damage a new relationship. Are you over your last one. Is he? If your really into him, if you want to keep this relatijonship for a while.... then talk to him about this. Communication is really important here.
Reply:Use the ribbed trojans!
Have fun!
Reply:it all depends, do you think he just wants you for sex? or do you think that it is something that will turn into a relationship? if the only thing that you guys want from each other is just sex or a fling go for it as long as that is what BOTH of you want. but you need to talk about it. to me it is weird, people feel shy or embarrassed to talk about sex, but they feel more ok to just have sex with someone they don't really know that well. you know what i mean, when you talk al you do is move your mouth and words come out, but when you have sex you use so much more.
so basically if yo can't talk to him about it then you shouldn't do it.
Reply:I'd wait
Reply:it's not too son .. go 4 it if you feel like it
Reply:Just wait,it will be better sex if u wait anyways...
Reply:give it up!!!!!!!! you know him well enough, I mean you did talk into the wee hours of the night...
Reply:it looks like you guys are on the same page, so why not go out on the 3rd date? if youre into this guy and he's giving you the same vibes, then i think you guys are ready for the 3rd date. just because you're use to taking your time doesnt mean you still have too.
good luck for the both of you!
Reply:Seriously, if you think you want to be with this guy for a long term, DON'T SLEEP ON THE THIRD DATE!!!
I mean, don't even sleep on the 10th date if he hasn't asked you to be his girl!!
I think people just go sleeping with strangers too easily, and guess what, you'll be dumped in a month.
Don't do that for your sakes, no matter what your friends say.
You will definately regret if you sleep too early!!
I assure you FOR SURE, waiting isn't bad!
When that time comes, and I know you would be seduced very much, but tell him that you won't be sleeping with a guy is not in a relationship.
If he goes away from your life cuz you don't sleep with him easily, than that's the kind of guy, and you don't want that do you?
If you want him to love you, respect yourself. There's NOTHING COOL about sleeping with people you're not in a relationship. Get him to say the words first, and than go in bed!
Reply:if you dont feel regret very easily then go for it. if you one of those girls who crries over her first kiss cos it wasnt "perfect" then dont go for it.......... But have fun!!!!
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2nd date, but is she really interested?
I have pretty much had a steady girlfriend or wife since I was 15,so not a lot of dating experience.Met a woman on-line and chatted with her over messenger.Asked her out and she said yes.Went on the first date-dinner,a long walk,and a nice quiet pub.Started at 6pm and ended around 3:30am.The next day something came up and I asked her out again completely out of the blue and we went on a second date.Again,great night lots of talking,saw a movie and hit the pub again.This one lasted from 9pm to about 3am.Both dates were very plutonic.A few touching shoulders in the movie theather and I put my hand on her back as we walked out of doors.She made eye contact every time I spoke and a lot of times when she spoke, but she sometimes looked around the room a lot while she was talking.A drunk guy tried to play matchmaker and make us hold hands on the first date and we did for a second and then she kind of pulled away.How do I tell if she wants to be just friends or something more? Thanks.
2nd date, but is she really interested?
I'm pretty sure she is interested in you.
maybe she is just a girl that likes to take things a little slower, which is why holding hands made it a little awkward.
you could ask her how she feels, or simply tell her how you feel.
even something as subtle as "I really love spending time with you" could get the message across.
just make sure you find a way to let her know that you want to be more than friends.
Reply:When I'm not completely confortable around someone, I tend to also look around the room often when I talk too. She seems to have interest in you. From reading your story, it seems that your doubt in her not having interest is because she pulled her hand away. Don't let that bother you. She probably wasn't ready for it yet. Just keep going on dates and spending time with her, and soon she will probably look you in the eye when she talks to you, and she will definately hold your hand. Hope I helped you out! Good luck!
Reply:what's the rush?,sounds like everything is going good.don't overanalyze everything.
Reply:well, considering the fact that she accepted to go on date with you is an indication of her interest in you. I think you should help her to define your own interest probably that will serve as a lead for her too. There is also no harm in a having a rael discussion with her. finally, it mat be too early to expect her to give you a complete green light. Take it easy with her. Wishing you all the best.
Reply:Well if you asked her out and she said yes, then I think you've got her. But don't go too fast. Let her pick the speed.
Reply:She seems like she likes you, ask her out again and see how that goes. :)
Reply:Step #1: RELAX!!
Step #2: Quit analyzing. Your noticing things such as eye contact and incidental touching is good, but don't focus on it. That is just a hair away from obsessing. And that, my friend, is something that is not attractive. It is also something that she WILL notice.
Step #3: Relax.
Step #4: Step back, but just a bit. Between tracking the length of your dates so closely and the seeming instantaneous infatuation you've developed even I can feel the pressure and that's just from reading your letter. The more she feels pressure, the less likely she will want "something more". Too much, and even being just friends can be too much. She needs a little time to digest the dates, and you constantly being there will only annoy her.
Step # ...oh, never mind the steps. Unless you are in one of those movies where you have to marry her by tomorrow or you'll lose a zillion dollar inheretance, what is the rush? You can't overwhelm a person into liking you.
There is another factor. If you can flip out over her in two days, how does she know you won't do the same when a new girl comes into the picture? (This is something pointed out to me by a female friend of mine, and damn, she does make sense.)
Relax.
Reply:if you have to try too hard then maybe she's not ~ don't waste your time if you don't feel the magic of these dates because no energy is coming off them. There's way too many people in the world to be holding on to one person ~
Reply:ask her how she feels
Reply:Ask her out again...keep going out w/her...i mean...she went out w/you a second time...just take things slow and treat her like a lady. Good luck! : D
Reply:don't be in too much of a hurry with this relationship, each one has its own course and timing. just enjoy yourself without looking for something more then you will relax and she will feel comfortable with you. be friends and let it grow.
Reply:She might be kinda shy but I know she really likes you.
Reply:She keeps agreeing to see you. She is interested. Take it to the next level or she will start looking at you as just a friend.
Reply:It sounds like you're a wuss. Seriously. Be a man, be confident, make a move already.
P.S. It's "platonic" not plutonic HAHAHAA
Reply:What's the rush? Two dates that went great for both parties involved tells me there's enough interest to ask for a third date. If the woman is truly interested, she'll let you know. Most women these days (especially mature ones) don't want to feel pressured to hop into the sack after a few dates. Let the conversation lead you; as she opens up to you about her life, do the same. Woman are more interested in what's in your head (and your heart) than what's in your pants. Relationships can be like a good book,...take one page at time and let the plot thicken on its own. Good luck.
Reply:well, if she agrred to go on a date with you, then she definately has some interst in you. you should ask her how she feels.
Reply:Maybe she's shy. Give it some time.
Reply:Ask her...out on a date again....see how that goes,. It's only been 2 dates how do either one of you know unless you try a few more times
Reply:Ask her out again, and if she says yes, she's interested, but may be taking it kinda slow in the beginning. Just don't force anything. If she says no, or makes up an excuse, she's probably not interested. Best wishes!
Reply:I think you need to give this more time, and esp since you met online---you dont know anything about each other right now and you can meet a lot of people with something to hide on the internet. Give this more time and let her have a little space---dont come on too strong.
2nd date, but is she really interested?
I'm pretty sure she is interested in you.
maybe she is just a girl that likes to take things a little slower, which is why holding hands made it a little awkward.
you could ask her how she feels, or simply tell her how you feel.
even something as subtle as "I really love spending time with you" could get the message across.
just make sure you find a way to let her know that you want to be more than friends.
Reply:When I'm not completely confortable around someone, I tend to also look around the room often when I talk too. She seems to have interest in you. From reading your story, it seems that your doubt in her not having interest is because she pulled her hand away. Don't let that bother you. She probably wasn't ready for it yet. Just keep going on dates and spending time with her, and soon she will probably look you in the eye when she talks to you, and she will definately hold your hand. Hope I helped you out! Good luck!
Reply:what's the rush?,sounds like everything is going good.don't overanalyze everything.
Reply:well, considering the fact that she accepted to go on date with you is an indication of her interest in you. I think you should help her to define your own interest probably that will serve as a lead for her too. There is also no harm in a having a rael discussion with her. finally, it mat be too early to expect her to give you a complete green light. Take it easy with her. Wishing you all the best.
Reply:Well if you asked her out and she said yes, then I think you've got her. But don't go too fast. Let her pick the speed.
Reply:She seems like she likes you, ask her out again and see how that goes. :)
Reply:Step #1: RELAX!!
Step #2: Quit analyzing. Your noticing things such as eye contact and incidental touching is good, but don't focus on it. That is just a hair away from obsessing. And that, my friend, is something that is not attractive. It is also something that she WILL notice.
Step #3: Relax.
Step #4: Step back, but just a bit. Between tracking the length of your dates so closely and the seeming instantaneous infatuation you've developed even I can feel the pressure and that's just from reading your letter. The more she feels pressure, the less likely she will want "something more". Too much, and even being just friends can be too much. She needs a little time to digest the dates, and you constantly being there will only annoy her.
Step # ...oh, never mind the steps. Unless you are in one of those movies where you have to marry her by tomorrow or you'll lose a zillion dollar inheretance, what is the rush? You can't overwhelm a person into liking you.
There is another factor. If you can flip out over her in two days, how does she know you won't do the same when a new girl comes into the picture? (This is something pointed out to me by a female friend of mine, and damn, she does make sense.)
Relax.
Reply:if you have to try too hard then maybe she's not ~ don't waste your time if you don't feel the magic of these dates because no energy is coming off them. There's way too many people in the world to be holding on to one person ~
Reply:ask her how she feels
Reply:Ask her out again...keep going out w/her...i mean...she went out w/you a second time...just take things slow and treat her like a lady. Good luck! : D
Reply:don't be in too much of a hurry with this relationship, each one has its own course and timing. just enjoy yourself without looking for something more then you will relax and she will feel comfortable with you. be friends and let it grow.
Reply:She might be kinda shy but I know she really likes you.
Reply:She keeps agreeing to see you. She is interested. Take it to the next level or she will start looking at you as just a friend.
Reply:It sounds like you're a wuss. Seriously. Be a man, be confident, make a move already.
P.S. It's "platonic" not plutonic HAHAHAA
Reply:What's the rush? Two dates that went great for both parties involved tells me there's enough interest to ask for a third date. If the woman is truly interested, she'll let you know. Most women these days (especially mature ones) don't want to feel pressured to hop into the sack after a few dates. Let the conversation lead you; as she opens up to you about her life, do the same. Woman are more interested in what's in your head (and your heart) than what's in your pants. Relationships can be like a good book,...take one page at time and let the plot thicken on its own. Good luck.
Reply:well, if she agrred to go on a date with you, then she definately has some interst in you. you should ask her how she feels.
Reply:Maybe she's shy. Give it some time.
Reply:Ask her...out on a date again....see how that goes,. It's only been 2 dates how do either one of you know unless you try a few more times
Reply:Ask her out again, and if she says yes, she's interested, but may be taking it kinda slow in the beginning. Just don't force anything. If she says no, or makes up an excuse, she's probably not interested. Best wishes!
Reply:I think you need to give this more time, and esp since you met online---you dont know anything about each other right now and you can meet a lot of people with something to hide on the internet. Give this more time and let her have a little space---dont come on too strong.
1st date = success, 2nd date on Friday, is that okay?
hi all, i'm very new to the dating world
i went on a date with a girl on sat and she called me on sunday and left a msg sayin she had a great time, i called her back (cuz my friends told me too, they said if she called, u're in) and setup a 2nd date for friday...i was wondering...is that too much of a gap between dates?
i dont want her to lose interest if we're busy and what not. there is this dance party im planning on taking her after dinner on friday. she has an exam on friday and im busy this week at work, is it ok if we dont really "communicate" until thursday when i make the final plan for when i pick her up etc? how often are people suppose to communicate? text messages are cool? thanks!!!!
1st date = success, 2nd date on Friday, is that okay?
maybe msg her tomorrow saying you are looking forward to friday night and let her know you'll call her on thursday to finalise plans...but otherwise yeah it's ok not to talk during the week if you have made plans to catch up
Reply:Right after a date, your suppose to call and say how'd things go and stuff, but hey if she called you it's a good sign. the most important thing now is for you to STAY connected. yes that means txt messages, im's and w.e else you can think of. Do so, but not so much that she thinks ur desperate. Don't always be their when she calls, when she plans a 2nd date, cancel it and put another day so she knows your not always availble and boring. Remember, if she thinks your to easy, you lost ;)
Reply:There are some dating advices on tallhub.com, a dating service for tall people.
dentures
i went on a date with a girl on sat and she called me on sunday and left a msg sayin she had a great time, i called her back (cuz my friends told me too, they said if she called, u're in) and setup a 2nd date for friday...i was wondering...is that too much of a gap between dates?
i dont want her to lose interest if we're busy and what not. there is this dance party im planning on taking her after dinner on friday. she has an exam on friday and im busy this week at work, is it ok if we dont really "communicate" until thursday when i make the final plan for when i pick her up etc? how often are people suppose to communicate? text messages are cool? thanks!!!!
1st date = success, 2nd date on Friday, is that okay?
maybe msg her tomorrow saying you are looking forward to friday night and let her know you'll call her on thursday to finalise plans...but otherwise yeah it's ok not to talk during the week if you have made plans to catch up
Reply:Right after a date, your suppose to call and say how'd things go and stuff, but hey if she called you it's a good sign. the most important thing now is for you to STAY connected. yes that means txt messages, im's and w.e else you can think of. Do so, but not so much that she thinks ur desperate. Don't always be their when she calls, when she plans a 2nd date, cancel it and put another day so she knows your not always availble and boring. Remember, if she thinks your to easy, you lost ;)
Reply:There are some dating advices on tallhub.com, a dating service for tall people.
dentures
Second date ideas anyone?
I am looking to go on a second date with this woman I met through an online dating site and we had our first date last week. Now, does anyone have any good second date ideas other then the conventional go out to dinner and a movie type of thing? Its so hard to guage because it seems like there could still be conversation time needed to get to know one another of course…but by going to a movie that just puts it to a stop as far as conversation goes….but in the same sense a guy just doesn't want to invite a woman out to dinner and what fun is that just to do that again type of thing
So if anyone has any ideas on what to do that would be great….and is a dinner and a movie just fine for a second date?
Second date ideas anyone?
Woman... How old? Makes a huge difference! How serious are you about her?
We are guys, we are about getting it done... Know what I mean?
The problems I have with Laur... answer is that the woman might want to go right home for another guy's booty call... Yep, happens all the time and I do not want you to be the guy paying for it.
20's: Speed dating. Can't stay any place longer than 20 minutes. Make things in walking distance.
Arrange drinks at one place. Street performers (like at Venice Beach) for the next stop. Next stop appitizers. Next stop is to talk to another couple outside on the sidewalk you both find interesting. Quickie Chineese food... Make sure to get the Fortune Cookies... and always end them with the added: "in bed!" you get the idea? You probably won't get any unless you keep the excitement level up. and if it does, is most likely is going to be an awkward, difficult and unskilled act... most likely lacking passion.
30's: Look in the local throw away paper and find a new restaurant that just opened. Try it out. Meet the owner and the chef. Eat only what they reccommend. After that, find out what is going on at the local college... art exhibit, play, etc... go there. End the evening in a dimly lit room with Baley's and Coffee... that way she will be wide awake and invite you in when you drop her off. 30% chance of getting any unless she is over 36... then your chances sharply increase. Maybe talk to Laur... in three years.
40's: When she answers the door, ravager her passionately. Take her for a walk. Hold her hand. Always keep your hands on her. Make an excuse to go back to her place again, and ravage her again and again. Order some delivery food from her favorite delivery place. Watch a video... Liberstraum that you have fast forwarded to when the guy is on the train (if you do not fast forward it, do not waist your time with this movie).
50's: You know better at this age... Same as 40's but more intense. Figure it out for yourself. I think you got the message.
Good luck.
Reply:what about a moonlight dinner at a lake or a beach side picnic at night. you can eat, drink, talk and look at the stars.
something like that..
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good luck!
So if anyone has any ideas on what to do that would be great….and is a dinner and a movie just fine for a second date?
Second date ideas anyone?
Woman... How old? Makes a huge difference! How serious are you about her?
We are guys, we are about getting it done... Know what I mean?
The problems I have with Laur... answer is that the woman might want to go right home for another guy's booty call... Yep, happens all the time and I do not want you to be the guy paying for it.
20's: Speed dating. Can't stay any place longer than 20 minutes. Make things in walking distance.
Arrange drinks at one place. Street performers (like at Venice Beach) for the next stop. Next stop appitizers. Next stop is to talk to another couple outside on the sidewalk you both find interesting. Quickie Chineese food... Make sure to get the Fortune Cookies... and always end them with the added: "in bed!" you get the idea? You probably won't get any unless you keep the excitement level up. and if it does, is most likely is going to be an awkward, difficult and unskilled act... most likely lacking passion.
30's: Look in the local throw away paper and find a new restaurant that just opened. Try it out. Meet the owner and the chef. Eat only what they reccommend. After that, find out what is going on at the local college... art exhibit, play, etc... go there. End the evening in a dimly lit room with Baley's and Coffee... that way she will be wide awake and invite you in when you drop her off. 30% chance of getting any unless she is over 36... then your chances sharply increase. Maybe talk to Laur... in three years.
40's: When she answers the door, ravager her passionately. Take her for a walk. Hold her hand. Always keep your hands on her. Make an excuse to go back to her place again, and ravage her again and again. Order some delivery food from her favorite delivery place. Watch a video... Liberstraum that you have fast forwarded to when the guy is on the train (if you do not fast forward it, do not waist your time with this movie).
50's: You know better at this age... Same as 40's but more intense. Figure it out for yourself. I think you got the message.
Good luck.
Reply:what about a moonlight dinner at a lake or a beach side picnic at night. you can eat, drink, talk and look at the stars.
something like that..
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good luck!
Would you date a girl who first told you she lives by herself and after other dates she seems to be a mother?
Would you date a single mother? And how should she behave on the first date: tell all the worse that happen in her life or just to have some fun? I feel bad now because on my first date I said the guy that I live on my own. I have enough memories of guys reactions when they were told that I have two kids on my first dates. It turned me away... meaning that I was loosing a hope of finding with a man, not only to be with, but to build a relationship with. So, In my last situation I wanted to have a special date w/o any pressure and when he asked: do you live by yourself, I said yes, meaning for myself : I am living by myself with my two children... When he was observing my car, he might see a car sit, but he didn't say anything. Today he saw a sit again and kissed as usual, but was little nervous. This image is familiar to me. Should I stop looking for a man and better concentrate on my children, or there are any hope for me to get some luck with guys? I don't want to lie.
Would you date a girl who first told you she lives by herself and after other dates she seems to be a mother?
I am married and I married a woman with children. It sounds like you are dating the wrong guys. I think you should be honest, if you want a relationship. If you want to go out a little and have fun, it doesn't matter.
Many guys do not want the added work that goes with raising some other guy's children. It is a lot of extra work too. It makes for a complicated life.
On the other hand, many guys simply do not care whether or not there are children involved.
Finally, you may want to consider what life would be like without a man in it. I am not trying to be negative, but it sounds like you do not know how to be happy just with yourself. A need for someone is a legitimate need, but you also may not find it. It isn't the children that are necessarily causing it, it is just very difficult to find someone that makes sense to marry.
The better question to ask married women with children is how did they find their husband. I do not know the answer to that as I am on the wrong side of the fence.
Be honest and look at how you are picking up the guys or why they are picking you up.
Reply:yes i would date her,unless i knew her for a year before i found out about the kids, i would expect to hear it on the second date or so.
i would not lie about the kids, but i wouldnt put it out in front either.
if he asks, you have to tell him.
we ask about if you live alone because we want to know how easy it will be for us to get sex. if you dont live alone, we have to get a motel or something. and its a lot harder to get a girl into a motel then it is into her own place.
yes, a lot of guys will bail when they see the kids, but they are losers anyway.
Reply:I do understand you reasoning for not wanting to make the annoucement of your young family just yet to a total stranger. However, you should never deny your children either to anyone. There are guys out there how would date you, inspite of the fact that you have kids, maybe with the intention of not getting serious. But once you show them how wonderful you are, then they may not see your family as a complication of the relationship. ****I would not go telling your first dates about other relationships, about anything scandelous you did in the past, nothing like that*** That is a big turn off. The guy would probably wonder what he was getting himself into, and run the other way as quick as possible.
Hope this helps.
Reply:Don't lie but unless it is brought up or asked, you don't have to reveal the fact that you have kids on a first or even second date. That can be something to reveal when it may be looking promising of having a future with the guy you're dating. Many guys don't want to date single moms but some are open to it if they get to know the mom as a person and proceed slowly.
By all means, try to have fun. Even if you didn't have kids, if you have a gloom and doom conversation first date, it is very unlikely that you will ever have a second date with that person.
Reply:Truth is always easier to maintain then a lie. On a first date, the idea is to just have a good time, some fun. There is no permanent relationship implied. Asking about your living situation could be genuine interest or just small talk. Treat it like any other conversation. If the man likes you for you, he will not be put off by your single mom status. At any rate, it is better to get it out, minus gory details like who the father is and why your not with him, on the first date, then get involved and have it come between you.
Reply:Yes I would it doesnt really matter if the a girl got kids It matters if u like each other on the inside
Reply:yes if she wants to have a relationship
Reply:be upfront. when they ask - tell them you are a single mom, but there is no other man in your life. better to have them know up front. many guys won't mind the kids - it just takes time...
Reply:I used to be turned off by the idea of dating a single mother, but that changed when I hit my mid 30's.
I think younger men aren't up to the task mentally or financially.
Reply:As one mother to another...protect the fact you have kids at all costs. In conversation with him, find out how he feels about kids...then gradually tell him the truth.
DO NOT sleep with him.
And do not introduce him to your kids until you are absolutely sure he is the right guy for you.
If he is any kind of a real man, he will accept the "not the whole truth" once it is revealed. Any real man would respect you for protecting your kids.
Reply:you need to be up front about yourself with others. lying on the first date, or even beforehand about your kids doesn't work.
most people i know don't have a problem dating someone with kids. and some men have kids of their own as well.
you dont' have to divulge personal information about yourself, but letting a person know "yes i have kids!" is quite alright. this gives them a choice whether to accept or reject your lifestyle.
don't be so desparate to build a relationship that you lie about your kids. right now they are the MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life anyway.... and that's how it needs to be.
take care.
Reply:honesty will get you somewhere. if a man is really interested in you, he will take and accept you as you are. be honest in your relationship. good luck!
Reply:From one single mom to another I can see where your coming from :( and I was always open about the fact that I had children never hid that from any of them but I also never let my children meet them... I would have them gone if he was to pick me up at my house or i would meet him... Getting to know you should be his first step if it goes well after a mounth or so then you can introduce your kids to him... but starting it off with a LIE... as you seem to think you have done will not get you the right man anyway... ya know what i mean? It takes a special man to Love you and your little ones or big ones witch ever the case :p I would keep the kids out of any relationship to begin with when he is ready to meet them you will know... I had one guy after a mounth of dating invite me and both my boys to a cook out at his parents :s i thought oh wow thats kinda crazy him meeting them for the first time and also introducing us all to his parents... i had secound thoughts about it but it was a great get together and all his siblings with there little ones where there so i found out that he was really a good kid man. So just relax he will fall in your lap :p ... Good luck hun and focus more on YOU and your babes...
Reply:Never be ashamed of being a mother. If a guy doesn't like it, screw them. Find a man that appreciates the finer things in life - a good woman.
Reply:The object of a first date is to get to know eachother.....basic details of eachother's daily life to be filled out later if there is mutual attraction. Mentioning that you have children is a massively important detail....obviously they are a major part of your life and whomever you end up dating would need to eventually interact with them.
If the guy does not feel comfortable with a woman that has children then you are wasting both your time and his time. Not to mention the emotional energy that you are expending. You should tell him about your children. If he stays then that is great....if not....well come on, lets be honest.....he would have left eventually. If things don't work out, don't go hunting for another man. Enjoy your life and enjoy your children. The right guy will come along when you aren't expecting it and you will not have to lie about anything.
Reply:I think your kids should always come before a man, and if you children disapprove of him then don't force him on them.
My mom did that crap to me my whole life, and we never got a long because of "him"
Reply:WOW LOL DON'T worrier the knight in shinning armor is coming to u soon
Reply:Just be honest with him, if hes worth being with for anything other than a one night thing he is going to find out anyway wouldn't you want him to know up front? Plus the right man for your situation is going to need to realize that your kids are important to you and that they are going to be part of your life whether he is or not. Dont give up, some guys may be freaked out by kids, but it kind of reflects his maturity level as well as how much he really likes you.
Reply:men have to know that when dating a woman with children, its a package deal...you cant accept the woman and not the children, cause that wont work. you'll find a man who will love you and your children..dont worry bout it. just dont rush into relationships...maybe you will find a single father at the park with his children or something, then you come along with your children, and you two could talk....anything is possible...good luck, girl
Reply:I would date a single mom because for 1 I have wanted kids so if u are a single mom let me know cause I am single and looking final_fantasy_vii_gamer@yahoo.com
Reply:Let the guy know, yet ALSO, let them know you are NOT looking for a guy just to be daddy for the kids,
I mean, generally, guys have difficulty understanding things with females if it is not obvious and out in the open...
They see this gal, theyre interested and she is also, but then she has kids... the guy will get suspicious, like she is looking for another daddy, she has eyes on me to support her and someone elses kids... that sort of thinking, like as if youre looking to do some mooching...
I am not saying that you are doing that at all but sharing what I have experienced...
When you bring up the facts that you have children, let the guy know that you re not looking for someone to be a papa to take care of you and the kids, what kryptonite is to superman, is similar to the possibility of a better relationship...
Let them know you are interested in them as a person, not as someone that has a wallet.... You know how guys are about child support, the fears of being raked over the coals? heard any horror stories from any guys? Well this is a similar thing to guys to experience... like a woman forcing kids on them and stuff... and they may not be ready...
Let them know you do not expect nor need them in that way, but just a relationship... You got children and theyre yours only, and not wanting to put them on him as well.... nor are you looking for him to be the next 'daddy'...
With the right guy, that will come in time... but for us guys sake, be straight forward and make it obvious, otherwise we just don't get it sometimes...
Reply:been in ur exact position hun! im about 2 steps ahead now lol
im 19, with a 3yrold
i used to look around and all that but i got sick of all he crap and stopped looking. thru my blog i met my man. unfortunately, he lives 4 hours away, so i only see him once a month...
he fits everything i need, he loves my son just as much as me... he is my man!
i still classify myself as a single mum, because as of yet, we dont have often enuff contact for him to have a decent imput, so as m sons full time carer, it makes sense
i stopped looking, and i found sean :D
dont feel that u need a man to complete the picture, just see a man as a bonus!
and dont see ur kids as baggage, see them as part of the package!
my man calls us his precooked family, all ready and prepared for him to step in :P
Reply:Don't try so hard to be in a relationship. When you least expect it that special person will find you.
Reply:kids first. tell the truth, because it'll bite you in the a ss later on. if you are that afraid of what guys will say, then you aren't ready for dating. most guys are ok with it, and those who aren't, are not the ones you need to date.
Reply:Sweetie, dating is hard enough without adding complications like omitting certain important details (kids). Bring the kids up in casual conversation...if he says "I thought you live alone" tell him you have kids, but no roommates.
Then if he runs, you need to go find a Parents Without Partners group in your area. There are tons of great men out there... the trick is finding them in the right places.
Stay away from bars,that's where the players go...they are NOT interested in kids...and if they are I would worry. Stay AWAY from on-line dating, that's where the pedophiles go to troll for single mommies with kids.
Try church, parents without partners, or if your kids are in school try the PTA. It's amazing how many single daddies out there face the same issues. Hang in there sweetie, it may seem like there is no one out there but if you are patient and wait for the right one, it will be so worth it in the end.
If you have an interest then join a club or organization. If you like the civil war, or the middle ages, join a recreationist group...its something you can do WITH your kids and you will meet folks in a safe enviroment. Not only will you meet some VERY nice people but you will discover that chivalry is NOT dead!
Been there. Good luck honey!
Reply:Nicky - I'm a 44yo single guy. I use eharmony.
My experience has been that I have said that kids are NOT a turn off. BUT, I want to (first) date a woman, rather than her children. If the relationship developed, children would be part of the whole deal.
But I want to date a sexy, funny, expressive woman. Some parents define themselves in terms of their children.
On eHarmony, some women don't tell me anything apart from their relationship with their children. Do you like Souh Park, skydiving or skinnyipping ? Be the woman first, rather than (just) the parent.
Good luck :-)
Reply:There are lots of guys who simply won't date you. This came as a huge shock to me, growing up just about all I did date was single mothers. Lots of guys don't want the hassle of having kids screw up their plans. Honestly, who can blame them? They don't have kids and don't want them. You just need to find someone who doesn't mind. You definately want to be happy so don't give up. Also, it's a bad idea to whip out the kids on the first date too.
Reply:Yes
Reply:I would dye my hair an adult color, only date men I knew and who knew me, and generally behave as if I belonged with other adults with kids rather than kids playing at adult.
Reply:i think it is deceitful. i know it is probably difficult to just have a night out and enjoy yourself without feeling like you are getting your date all involved with yourself. but you need to understand, you have 2 kids. there's no getting out of that. if you want to have a good relationship, you have to be honest right away. do not spend your date describing in detail all the b.s. you've dealt with the baby's daddy (or daddies), but do not omit the fact you have children. i do feel that it is a pretty big omission when you're trying to get to know someone.
it's not that you shouldn't be able to date, but your kids are priority. they should not be hidden or pushed aside for you to start a new relationship. also, do not introduce them to several new men unless you're sure that the man will be around for a while. this ruins any sens of security they might have.
good luck!
Reply:Face it you come with kids! The right person will not run and welcome the additional parts of you! f you have to hide the kids or not speak of them you come off more as a bad mom who doesnt love her kids than as a woman who is afraid of them? Come on thats ridiculous! Be honest, you need a man in your life you not only cares for you but for your children as well. You are not looking for just your own happiness but someone who accepts your kids! Not telling men on first dates is not protecting your kids its being selfish. Speak up or dont go out. Maybe you should take a look at the kind of guy you are going out with. Maybe picking more responsible men or perhaps older would make a difference in their reaction.
Would you date a girl who first told you she lives by herself and after other dates she seems to be a mother?
I am married and I married a woman with children. It sounds like you are dating the wrong guys. I think you should be honest, if you want a relationship. If you want to go out a little and have fun, it doesn't matter.
Many guys do not want the added work that goes with raising some other guy's children. It is a lot of extra work too. It makes for a complicated life.
On the other hand, many guys simply do not care whether or not there are children involved.
Finally, you may want to consider what life would be like without a man in it. I am not trying to be negative, but it sounds like you do not know how to be happy just with yourself. A need for someone is a legitimate need, but you also may not find it. It isn't the children that are necessarily causing it, it is just very difficult to find someone that makes sense to marry.
The better question to ask married women with children is how did they find their husband. I do not know the answer to that as I am on the wrong side of the fence.
Be honest and look at how you are picking up the guys or why they are picking you up.
Reply:yes i would date her,unless i knew her for a year before i found out about the kids, i would expect to hear it on the second date or so.
i would not lie about the kids, but i wouldnt put it out in front either.
if he asks, you have to tell him.
we ask about if you live alone because we want to know how easy it will be for us to get sex. if you dont live alone, we have to get a motel or something. and its a lot harder to get a girl into a motel then it is into her own place.
yes, a lot of guys will bail when they see the kids, but they are losers anyway.
Reply:I do understand you reasoning for not wanting to make the annoucement of your young family just yet to a total stranger. However, you should never deny your children either to anyone. There are guys out there how would date you, inspite of the fact that you have kids, maybe with the intention of not getting serious. But once you show them how wonderful you are, then they may not see your family as a complication of the relationship. ****I would not go telling your first dates about other relationships, about anything scandelous you did in the past, nothing like that*** That is a big turn off. The guy would probably wonder what he was getting himself into, and run the other way as quick as possible.
Hope this helps.
Reply:Don't lie but unless it is brought up or asked, you don't have to reveal the fact that you have kids on a first or even second date. That can be something to reveal when it may be looking promising of having a future with the guy you're dating. Many guys don't want to date single moms but some are open to it if they get to know the mom as a person and proceed slowly.
By all means, try to have fun. Even if you didn't have kids, if you have a gloom and doom conversation first date, it is very unlikely that you will ever have a second date with that person.
Reply:Truth is always easier to maintain then a lie. On a first date, the idea is to just have a good time, some fun. There is no permanent relationship implied. Asking about your living situation could be genuine interest or just small talk. Treat it like any other conversation. If the man likes you for you, he will not be put off by your single mom status. At any rate, it is better to get it out, minus gory details like who the father is and why your not with him, on the first date, then get involved and have it come between you.
Reply:Yes I would it doesnt really matter if the a girl got kids It matters if u like each other on the inside
Reply:yes if she wants to have a relationship
Reply:be upfront. when they ask - tell them you are a single mom, but there is no other man in your life. better to have them know up front. many guys won't mind the kids - it just takes time...
Reply:I used to be turned off by the idea of dating a single mother, but that changed when I hit my mid 30's.
I think younger men aren't up to the task mentally or financially.
Reply:As one mother to another...protect the fact you have kids at all costs. In conversation with him, find out how he feels about kids...then gradually tell him the truth.
DO NOT sleep with him.
And do not introduce him to your kids until you are absolutely sure he is the right guy for you.
If he is any kind of a real man, he will accept the "not the whole truth" once it is revealed. Any real man would respect you for protecting your kids.
Reply:you need to be up front about yourself with others. lying on the first date, or even beforehand about your kids doesn't work.
most people i know don't have a problem dating someone with kids. and some men have kids of their own as well.
you dont' have to divulge personal information about yourself, but letting a person know "yes i have kids!" is quite alright. this gives them a choice whether to accept or reject your lifestyle.
don't be so desparate to build a relationship that you lie about your kids. right now they are the MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life anyway.... and that's how it needs to be.
take care.
Reply:honesty will get you somewhere. if a man is really interested in you, he will take and accept you as you are. be honest in your relationship. good luck!
Reply:From one single mom to another I can see where your coming from :( and I was always open about the fact that I had children never hid that from any of them but I also never let my children meet them... I would have them gone if he was to pick me up at my house or i would meet him... Getting to know you should be his first step if it goes well after a mounth or so then you can introduce your kids to him... but starting it off with a LIE... as you seem to think you have done will not get you the right man anyway... ya know what i mean? It takes a special man to Love you and your little ones or big ones witch ever the case :p I would keep the kids out of any relationship to begin with when he is ready to meet them you will know... I had one guy after a mounth of dating invite me and both my boys to a cook out at his parents :s i thought oh wow thats kinda crazy him meeting them for the first time and also introducing us all to his parents... i had secound thoughts about it but it was a great get together and all his siblings with there little ones where there so i found out that he was really a good kid man. So just relax he will fall in your lap :p ... Good luck hun and focus more on YOU and your babes...
Reply:Never be ashamed of being a mother. If a guy doesn't like it, screw them. Find a man that appreciates the finer things in life - a good woman.
Reply:The object of a first date is to get to know eachother.....basic details of eachother's daily life to be filled out later if there is mutual attraction. Mentioning that you have children is a massively important detail....obviously they are a major part of your life and whomever you end up dating would need to eventually interact with them.
If the guy does not feel comfortable with a woman that has children then you are wasting both your time and his time. Not to mention the emotional energy that you are expending. You should tell him about your children. If he stays then that is great....if not....well come on, lets be honest.....he would have left eventually. If things don't work out, don't go hunting for another man. Enjoy your life and enjoy your children. The right guy will come along when you aren't expecting it and you will not have to lie about anything.
Reply:I think your kids should always come before a man, and if you children disapprove of him then don't force him on them.
My mom did that crap to me my whole life, and we never got a long because of "him"
Reply:WOW LOL DON'T worrier the knight in shinning armor is coming to u soon
Reply:Just be honest with him, if hes worth being with for anything other than a one night thing he is going to find out anyway wouldn't you want him to know up front? Plus the right man for your situation is going to need to realize that your kids are important to you and that they are going to be part of your life whether he is or not. Dont give up, some guys may be freaked out by kids, but it kind of reflects his maturity level as well as how much he really likes you.
Reply:men have to know that when dating a woman with children, its a package deal...you cant accept the woman and not the children, cause that wont work. you'll find a man who will love you and your children..dont worry bout it. just dont rush into relationships...maybe you will find a single father at the park with his children or something, then you come along with your children, and you two could talk....anything is possible...good luck, girl
Reply:I would date a single mom because for 1 I have wanted kids so if u are a single mom let me know cause I am single and looking final_fantasy_vii_gamer@yahoo.com
Reply:Let the guy know, yet ALSO, let them know you are NOT looking for a guy just to be daddy for the kids,
I mean, generally, guys have difficulty understanding things with females if it is not obvious and out in the open...
They see this gal, theyre interested and she is also, but then she has kids... the guy will get suspicious, like she is looking for another daddy, she has eyes on me to support her and someone elses kids... that sort of thinking, like as if youre looking to do some mooching...
I am not saying that you are doing that at all but sharing what I have experienced...
When you bring up the facts that you have children, let the guy know that you re not looking for someone to be a papa to take care of you and the kids, what kryptonite is to superman, is similar to the possibility of a better relationship...
Let them know you are interested in them as a person, not as someone that has a wallet.... You know how guys are about child support, the fears of being raked over the coals? heard any horror stories from any guys? Well this is a similar thing to guys to experience... like a woman forcing kids on them and stuff... and they may not be ready...
Let them know you do not expect nor need them in that way, but just a relationship... You got children and theyre yours only, and not wanting to put them on him as well.... nor are you looking for him to be the next 'daddy'...
With the right guy, that will come in time... but for us guys sake, be straight forward and make it obvious, otherwise we just don't get it sometimes...
Reply:been in ur exact position hun! im about 2 steps ahead now lol
im 19, with a 3yrold
i used to look around and all that but i got sick of all he crap and stopped looking. thru my blog i met my man. unfortunately, he lives 4 hours away, so i only see him once a month...
he fits everything i need, he loves my son just as much as me... he is my man!
i still classify myself as a single mum, because as of yet, we dont have often enuff contact for him to have a decent imput, so as m sons full time carer, it makes sense
i stopped looking, and i found sean :D
dont feel that u need a man to complete the picture, just see a man as a bonus!
and dont see ur kids as baggage, see them as part of the package!
my man calls us his precooked family, all ready and prepared for him to step in :P
Reply:Don't try so hard to be in a relationship. When you least expect it that special person will find you.
Reply:kids first. tell the truth, because it'll bite you in the a ss later on. if you are that afraid of what guys will say, then you aren't ready for dating. most guys are ok with it, and those who aren't, are not the ones you need to date.
Reply:Sweetie, dating is hard enough without adding complications like omitting certain important details (kids). Bring the kids up in casual conversation...if he says "I thought you live alone" tell him you have kids, but no roommates.
Then if he runs, you need to go find a Parents Without Partners group in your area. There are tons of great men out there... the trick is finding them in the right places.
Stay away from bars,that's where the players go...they are NOT interested in kids...and if they are I would worry. Stay AWAY from on-line dating, that's where the pedophiles go to troll for single mommies with kids.
Try church, parents without partners, or if your kids are in school try the PTA. It's amazing how many single daddies out there face the same issues. Hang in there sweetie, it may seem like there is no one out there but if you are patient and wait for the right one, it will be so worth it in the end.
If you have an interest then join a club or organization. If you like the civil war, or the middle ages, join a recreationist group...its something you can do WITH your kids and you will meet folks in a safe enviroment. Not only will you meet some VERY nice people but you will discover that chivalry is NOT dead!
Been there. Good luck honey!
Reply:Nicky - I'm a 44yo single guy. I use eharmony.
My experience has been that I have said that kids are NOT a turn off. BUT, I want to (first) date a woman, rather than her children. If the relationship developed, children would be part of the whole deal.
But I want to date a sexy, funny, expressive woman. Some parents define themselves in terms of their children.
On eHarmony, some women don't tell me anything apart from their relationship with their children. Do you like Souh Park, skydiving or skinnyipping ? Be the woman first, rather than (just) the parent.
Good luck :-)
Reply:There are lots of guys who simply won't date you. This came as a huge shock to me, growing up just about all I did date was single mothers. Lots of guys don't want the hassle of having kids screw up their plans. Honestly, who can blame them? They don't have kids and don't want them. You just need to find someone who doesn't mind. You definately want to be happy so don't give up. Also, it's a bad idea to whip out the kids on the first date too.
Reply:Yes
Reply:I would dye my hair an adult color, only date men I knew and who knew me, and generally behave as if I belonged with other adults with kids rather than kids playing at adult.
Reply:i think it is deceitful. i know it is probably difficult to just have a night out and enjoy yourself without feeling like you are getting your date all involved with yourself. but you need to understand, you have 2 kids. there's no getting out of that. if you want to have a good relationship, you have to be honest right away. do not spend your date describing in detail all the b.s. you've dealt with the baby's daddy (or daddies), but do not omit the fact you have children. i do feel that it is a pretty big omission when you're trying to get to know someone.
it's not that you shouldn't be able to date, but your kids are priority. they should not be hidden or pushed aside for you to start a new relationship. also, do not introduce them to several new men unless you're sure that the man will be around for a while. this ruins any sens of security they might have.
good luck!
Reply:Face it you come with kids! The right person will not run and welcome the additional parts of you! f you have to hide the kids or not speak of them you come off more as a bad mom who doesnt love her kids than as a woman who is afraid of them? Come on thats ridiculous! Be honest, you need a man in your life you not only cares for you but for your children as well. You are not looking for just your own happiness but someone who accepts your kids! Not telling men on first dates is not protecting your kids its being selfish. Speak up or dont go out. Maybe you should take a look at the kind of guy you are going out with. Maybe picking more responsible men or perhaps older would make a difference in their reaction.
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