Date the ex? Or not to date the ex?

Okay so my best freinds Brooke and Max were dating, and they split up. Both of them are still my freinds but I want to date Brooke. max knows it, and he dosent seem to care, but I think I should ask him first, to see how he feels, becuause I really dont want to hurt him.


Yes I'm bisexual, and she is too, and she likes me, so it all good. I just dont want to ruin a freindship.


Do guys really care that much about the freinds dating the ex's thing? Or is that just girls?

Date the ex? Or not to date the ex?
I will not get into any moral implications of this whole situation. I will just explain something from from a guys perspective. This is a generality, there are always exceptions to the rule. If the girl and the guy broke up and you had nothing to do with the break up, than it's all good. Now, you are a girl and you want to get with another girl. Max might actually be a little excited or totally indifferent but since you had nothing to do with the break up I wouldn't worry too much. You have fun with Brooke now, ya hear? Just remember, especially if the guy breaks up with the girl or the break up is mutual, we look at the girl being our X for a reason and usually that reason makes us not really care
Reply:I disagree with the other people. i think you should ask your friend but if he shows a little hint that he doenst want you to dont do it. I don't think good freindships are ruined by stuff like that. My brother dated a lot of his freinds exes and he has always stayed friends with them. Just ask him
Reply:Go for it !!!
Reply:well i asked te same ? on this thingy and heres what most said . if its been over for a while with him and her its ok i always said friends dont date friends exes but jsut recently my best friend wants to date my ex well if u ask him and hes says yes then go for it i told my best frind it was ok but deep down inside it hurts but theres nuthing i can do cept get over it he cant tell u who to date and who not to but ask him first and see what he says because at least u got his permission first
Reply:It depends on how good of a relationship they had. I know my boyfriend would say if he were just having sex, and no teal commitment, then its fine to date her. I would ask first, but I think it's wrong. Yes, I'm a chick, but think about it: Would you want someone to date an ex- especially if you all are friends? What will it do to the relationship? I wouldn't go there, girls don't date friends Rx's because its not right! Besides, Max will always be like "Yeah, you have my left overs!" Good luck!
Reply:hmmm as a guy i wouldnt care


but to be on the safe side


go and ask him











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Reply:Don't bother with Brooke, stay friends. You don't want sloppy seconds, do you?
Reply:thats a good ? yeah its mostly girls but you should deff. talk to him ask him and be like speeking hypathetically what would you think if i asked Brooke out...? and if he has a problem with it then stay friends with her and if he dosent you eill have to think ha7rd about it because he might just be saying no just because when he might actually still care alot... But then again you have to keep yourself happy ibut thin is this girl is worth a friendship...
Reply:Alright I have had experience in this field....Don't do it....even if your friend says he does'nt care...he does.





My advice would be to stay friends with the girl, and maybe when Max moves on which could be sooner than you think, then ask him...more than likely then he really won't care.


But they just broke up...so that's a bad idea.





So please for the sake of friends and keeping the peace..Don't Do It.....
Reply:don't ever date friends first of all that will ruin friendships you will lose both of them; first the boy because that was his girl and then the girl because you might get problems in the relationship and that could end it there
Reply:well if thats your friends ex dont do it there are plenty other fish in the sea boys come and go like seasons but no dont hurt your friend by dating her ex or his ex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:NEVER ever date a friends ex. Just way too familiar.
Reply:never date a friends ex coz its gonna hurt them every time thy see u together and u know it. just forget about it, but if they willing, y not hve a threesome... :)
Reply:Listen- you dont date a friends ex EVER! It breaks the code of friendship.





Find some one else or lose a friend. The person may seem cool with it- but they aren't.
Reply:Don't date the ex-... it always ends up in someone getting hurt. :(
Reply:It sound like all three of you aught to roll in the hay and get it over with. Who give a good G D??????????
Reply:Don't do it, I am sure the other posters explained why... just don't do it.
Reply:If your gonna do it give it some time
Reply:I do think you should not date your freinds ex, even if all or friends. They may get back together, and then it would make you look bad, sort of like back stabbing a friend. You could end up without both for a friend. Best to find you own. Always try to consider how you would feel in the same situation. Keep both as a friend, do not jump on the wagon, you may fall off.
Reply:It's an unwritten rule to date a friend's ex, even if you are no longer friends with that person any more.





No, no, noooooo!