First date failed, is it possible to get a girl to give me a second change?

Pretty straight forward question, I feel like I could have chemistry with a friend of mine so I asked her out and she said yes. I was a perfect gentleman and she thought I was sweet but neither of us felt a spark and at the end I asked her straight out what her feelings were. She said she didn't have time to date right now.





I usually take that to mean (and when I say it to girls it does mean) "I'm sorry but I just don't want to date you, but I want to let you down easy."





But In her case it might actually be true, she is still in love with a guy but their relationship is apart since he has entered a career far away with no chance of returning for a decade and she is really busy with medical school. From the moment I picked her up I definitely got the feeling she didn't want this to be a date, so she kept her guard up all night. That makes me think she meant exactly what she said... she really doesn't have time to date right now. If that's so do I have a second chance someday?

First date failed, is it possible to get a girl to give me a second change?
It is possible yes that you have another chance someday. If I were you though I would just be her friend right now and give her space. I admire her for knowing what she wants and needs right now. I hear medical school can be stressful. She apparently knows what is important to her in life.
Reply:Sorry. She says No. Then it's a No. Move on.
Reply:Yeah it is possible, but you should try to date someone else.
Reply:I, for one, never say "never!" Maybe she really is just super busy and/or still needs time to get over her ex.





I know that when I am in love with someone, I can't muster up feelings for anyone else (attractive or not) no matter how much I'd like to move on.





Just hang in there and maybe try being her friend! She may come around! Stranger things have happened! Good luck!
Reply:There's always a chance!! My current boyfriend and I swore for three years that we didn't want anything more than friendship. Finally we decided to try and date it was quite akward at first and we almost gave up.. but there were strong feelings and so we tried again. Now we've been dating happily for 3 years and have known each other 6.... soo there's always a chance!! Just hang in there and be her friend! It sounds like that's what she needs right now.
Reply:I would just stay being her friend..as a female, I LOVE keeping all my guy friends, friends so that things aren't complicated and its actually so nice when I can JUST be friends with some of these guys. It sounds like she probably really is pretty busy so my suggestion is to be a really good friend and DO NOT cross that line to make her uncomfortable.