What is so bad about the "Three Date Rule"?

To recap, the third date rule is as follows: If sex with a person one has been dating does not happen on or before the third date, do not pursue any further such dates.





Lately, I've heard many people flame the third date rule as arbitrary, hard to define, and not applicable to all situations.





I still think it is very important, though, for several reasons. I strongly believe that, if nothing is happening by the third date:


-The odds of anything happening in the future are extraordinarily low.


-The odds that the two people are sexually compatible are extraordinarily low.


-The odds that someone is playing games are high.


-The odds that you are dating a religious wackjob are high.


-The odds that you are dating someone twisted enough to correlate their value as a person with their chastity are high.


-And the odds that you are missing out on the opportunity to date new people with whom you might really, truly be compatible are high.





So what's wrong with three dates?

What is so bad about the "Three Date Rule"?
I agree wit ya man **** whoever got sumtin to say
Reply:You are speaking in generalizations and unfortunately relationships are anything but. It takes however long it takes to feel comfortable with someone and that could have nothing at all to do with religious hangups. Guys who push sex and make it a priority are generally only after sex and sex alone.'


A real relationship requires a connection on many different levels. First the mind must be attracted and that takes time.


For both men and women. Don't settle for anything less than that.
Reply:It's not bad as a guideline, but a strict rule is a bit much. If there is at least some forward progress with how physical you get with someone, that's good enough. So if it takes 4 or 5 dates, but it's been moving forward, that's not a big deal. Also depends on how much time is spent with the person and why they may be taking their time.


I don't think it's about valuing their chastity as much as some people just want to know that you value them for who they are and not what they can do for you. I don't want to be valued for my wallet, so I can't blame a woman for not wanting to be valued for sex.





Although, I tend to be more patient and it's usually worth the wait.
Reply:because by the 3rd date you won't know half the stuff you should know before you sleep with that person
Reply:okay well, i think it's low. and to tell someone you don't want to see them anymore just because they won't have sex with you is going to put you at player status. if you want to be there then okay. but if you want a lasting relationship, respect what she wants. maybe she's promised to herself, family, or God that she will remain a virgin until marriage. i mean, just because they won't have sex doesn't mean you can't be sexual. there are other things that are sexual besides sex. get to know the person first, seriously. AND A RELATIONSHIP ISN'T ALL ABOUT SEX!!!!!! and yes things can happen later on if yall don't have sex by the freakin THIRD date.