ON A DATE: How do you make a less talkative & shy person you're dating TALK?

This is the date you've ever dreamed of! You and your high-school/college/coworker... is right in front of you having dinner with you but... the moment you both get seated you realize your dream date is turning into... *the most speechless person ever*!!!!!!!! He/she doesn't talk much (a reason could be shyness) and you have to save the date by talking... by yourself :)





How imaginative you are to make the "shy-mute" person you're on a date with... T A L K to you and loosen up??





10 points for the most original answer! I know you're creative, so hit it!!!!!!!

ON A DATE: How do you make a less talkative %26amp; shy person you're dating TALK?
smile a lot, ask questions that he can't say yes or no to.


ex. What do you think about.....


When he does talk, act like you're interested and enjoying waht he's saying, so he feels more comfortable.





Sorry, that doesn't feel creative. How about you pretend like you're choking on something during the middle of dinner, so he does the heimlich. I bet then you 2 could have something to talk about. Nah, I like the first idea better.
Reply:Seriously... its all about neutral talking about them... "Do you do dinners a lot? where else have you been? did you like it? why? why not... blah blah" Find out what their deal is... "what do you do on the weekends?" and play off that. if all else fails, talk about their high school, make someone up, try to create a common denominator in your conversation...





and most importantly, dont interrogate. be cool, dont stare them down, dont scrutinize them, smile a lot, laugh, and make them feel comfortable.
Reply:I would ask questions but if that fails, I'm ordering drinks for her. That'll loosen her up.....
Reply:well this is what i always feel like when i date or go on dates with guys...


Im so outgoing so its hard when i basically throw myself outthere and get what? nothing back. he is probably just really nervous because when you know someone well enough things tend to get a lot looser(sp?) A lot of the guy i went out with never brought up any conversation and when i would bring something up all i got back was o ya? really? ok! ha ha! o wow! lol they never put their input and anything i said and when i would ask them like what do you think about it they would give me a 5 word answer.





So i know this sucks but it looks like your going to have to be the man (sorry if your a girl) in the relationship and probably make all the first moves untill they feel comfortable enough so make sure that your willing to put your time and effort in.





they probably really like you and are shy but its so unusual for me because i have really bad a.d.d. lol so i can always think of something random to say but he never would say anything back and it kinda seems like he didnt care or show interest but he was just shy....anyways





best of luck to you!
Reply:I recently ended a relationship with someone whose main problem was not talking enough. I dated him for six months because he was willing to try to talk more. And that's what counted to me. When you get deeper into the relationship, you may be able to get him to open up a bit. But now, he probably thinks that it isn't awkward or anything if he's just the kind of guy that doesn't talk (like my old boyfriend).





However... my friend told me that if you find the right guy for you, he'll become more open by himself and he'll WANT to talk to you. Depends on how you feel about the subject. I don't really know. I just ended it a few days ago...
Reply:Well...you've gotta find what they like to talk about or their interests. Like do you have any pets? What's you fav TV show? People are often passionate about those 2 things and will open up about it. They will them learn to trust you and open up more about themselvs.


Shy people have often been hurt before and are afraid of it happening again. Be patiant and understanding.


Good lUck!
Reply:Get him/her drunk as a skunk.
Reply:Everyone is passionate about something! Find out and let them go!
Reply:Come up with some interesting topics of discussion... it usually works to ask the person something about themselves, that's most people's favourite topic!
Reply:Bring along a cattle prod
Reply:break the ice, say something about yourself thats funny. like, "this one time i was walking to school and i fell my slip on my buttock." something like that. you know what i mean.
Reply:I usually start breakdancing. I've found it to be a very effective icebreaker.
Reply:ask him his favorite color....and weird questions like that to at least talk about himself...and dont talk about yourself alot...just ask him questions and if he asks you one just be like no no no lets talk about you...lets hope thats the trick
Reply:well get to know them real well and try to know what they like. Have something in common with them and u guys can talk all night long lol
Reply:Ask questions, tell a lot about your self. Be calm and patient. Most of all nice. If he sees that your a good person, he'll calm down and come out of his shell. Dont act too... well... like, all happy and stuff, cause it might pressure him. Maintain a calm mood and remember ask questions. Make sure you give him your full attention and comment, but dont comment too much, because he might think that you arn't really interested.