I won't date because i just know?

i'm 19. i won't date because i know it would never work out with anyone. i won't date because i can't see myself in a relationship . i won't date because arguments might arise, and arguments truly upset me. i won't date because if it doesn't work out, then he might hate me afterwards. i won't date because i'll keep asking him about my physical insecurities. i won't date because i'll keep comparing myself to others. i won't date because i don't want to be like women who date. i think i'd rather watch all my friends get married, while i remain single and virgin. i'm thinking what an achievement it would be in life to have never dated, to have never been in a relationship, to have never let any man see me naked. don't get me wrong, i love people, i just think i'll die alone. not sure if i'll die happy though.


any thoughts?

I won't date because i just know?
You're fine. Everybody takes life in their own way. You're not ready for risk. And you have learned not to trust people, especially with your emotions. You don't have to go out there and get hurt a dozen times to find the right mate. Men get more comfortable to be with the older they are. Young men just want sex, and it makes relationships unstable.





All young dating is practice for "real life." There isn't a rule saying that you have to participate in it. And if you escaped from it unscathed, hopefully with a career, then you might be better off than they are.





When (and you will) you meet someone you want, you will take it slowly, as that is your nature. You are cautious. And you need to find someone who respects that. Good luck!
Reply:From the way I see it you haven't met someone you really like yet. Once you meet him you'll probably want to date him and you'll put all those what if's aside. You'll put your feelings on the line for him.
Reply:Sounds like you are afraid to live.
Reply:Sounds like you have had a few bad experiences with men. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, you are focused, don't take crap from anyone, and you are independent. These are all admirable attributes. Some day though someone will change your mind. When you least expect it, you will meet someone who will change your life and who will open your eyes to what things can be like when you love someone and they love you back. Good luck.
Reply:some people (including myself) would give anything to be a relationship right now. it's sad to watch people in a relationship when you can't be in one. and i think that by you basically not wanting/needing that connection with another person.....well you seem kind of frigid to me. i have never heard of anyone who wanted to be alone and never date, get married, have sex etc etc. i know i coudlnt be happy without it, and in my opinion you would regret this decision later on in life. theres nothing like the feeling of being with a man who loves you for you and will kiss you in the moonlight. TRUST me on that one. i'd go for dating...the rewards are much better than the consequences. sure you will probably get your heart broken. but its worth a try.
Reply:So you dont like your body, right?
Reply:you get ONE life. It's not a joke, it's real. Make it everything you ever wanted and more. Put your self in the position to LEARN, and if it means getting hurt, do it, dont be so afraid of taking chances. chances are all we have, and we only get ONE chance to live our life. Please don't let it pass you by. Here's the thing, you'll never KNOW unless you TRY. all these things you said, You said you "think" which is true, you dont know anything until you try it. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Obviously you dont want to die never having experienced anything, get out there and take a chance, and remember to wear a smile. :)
Reply:Hey! Relationships aren't for everyone. But can you be happy? And is happiness important to you?





What do you think about women who date? That they are all just jumping from one bed to the next with every man they go out with? That's not true of everyone. It doesn't have to be true of you.





As far as arguments go, you don't have to be in a relationship to get into an argument. It happens between co-workers every day. So I guess you aren't going to work either because someone might start an argument with you.





As far as physical insecurities, everybody has them at some point! But there are people out there who won't see them at all or who won't see them the way you see them.





Anyway, good luck with the whole "I'm going to alienate myself from everyone and everything" life. Maybe you should join a convent. he world could probably use another nun.
Reply:Take this from someone who is 44 years old %26amp; single - that is a REALLY bad idea.





Just because you aren't sure a relationship will work out is no reason not to try.





Learn to deal with your insecurity %26amp; other issues.





You can't win, if you don't play the game.
Reply:so me
Reply:If being single is what makes you happy, then go for it.


However, it sounds as if you are more bitter about your decision than excited about it. If you ever do try to date or become involved, do it for yourself, and not what other people expect out of you.





Maybe you have these feelings because you have never experienced happiness with another person. But being pessimistic about something before it even happens guarantees a letdown. It's called a "self-fullfilling prophecy." You just know you are going to have a bad relationship before it starts, so therefore, when you do get into a relationship, it turns out bad.





I think you need to discover what makes you happy, and go with it. And you are 19. People change and grow all the time. I am not the same person I was last year, and I won't be the same person now that I will be next year.





Good luck.
Reply:What's the big deal. Its just a date not a walk down the isle.
Reply:well, good for you %26amp; power to ya if thats what you want. but you cant go through life being afraid of something that MIGHT happen. You could meet the right guy and miss out b/c your too scared to take the first step. And this is just my opinion, so dont get me wrong ok? but i think you would have truely missed out on a full life without ever having kids or someone to love and give you their love.

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