3rd date...still no kiss?? (from a man's perspective)?

im an attractive guy, no problems meeting and dating women but this situation has me completely stumped. I've been seeing this girl and we are planning our 4th date but she won't kiss me. I can understand holding back on 1st date, but come on...not even on 3rd date?!?! We have fantastic chemistry on our dates, plenty of conversation focused on romance and relationships, plenty of touching, strong mutual eye contact, implied talk of continuing to date each other, some hand holding, etc. The signs show that she is interested in me but every time I try and kiss her she turns her head away and im left with a good ole "friendly" hug and I just give her a kiss on her cheek. I've dating dozens and dozens of girls and never had this situation. I would be tempted to just let her go, but we have such amazing chemisty together which is so hard to find.





I need some words of wisdom...ty!

3rd date...still no kiss?? (from a man's perspective)?
Wow! A man with his head on straight...nice to see. It sounds to me that you're getting all the signs. Maybe the next time go in 90% of the way to the point where she either returns a kiss or bails. I'm sure you won't be all creepy about it, so go in 90 and if she bails, ask her what's wrong. Tell her you like her, have been wanting to kiss her, but are getting apprehension from her. It don't see that as insecure, I see that as you calling out the situation for what it is. But, you gotta go in for the kiss first. If you jsut randomly bring it up at dinner or something, then yes, you'll look insecure.





Be patient...good chemistry doesn't happen all the time as you know. Just try and put an end to this question mark swirling around in your head ASAP.
Reply:Just give it time. Maybe it still so soon for her and she is afraid of falling too hard for you. Girls get their emotions involved in things a lot quicker than guys do so let her take her time. If you have the chemistry, you can wait. It will be better in the long run. If you must, though, mention it to her. Maybe in a lighthearted way. See what the real story is.





Best of luck!
Reply:bc she knows after that youll just want to have sex duhhh
Reply:by date number 4 she should be ready to kiss, but then again, maybe she's not a kisser. only way to find out for sure is to ask her. can i recomment something before that 4th date? brush your teeth!!! just in case it might be your breath. (i'm not saying that to be mean ok)
Reply:sounds like your not really being aggressive


enough
Reply:Why does everybody find it necessary to rush these things all the time? Maybe if you'd actually give her some time to get to know you a little, she just might be willing to kiss you. Just relax, man...
Reply:yeah that really sucks and thats weird for her hey just ask her if u can kiss her some girls liked to be asked and yeah ask her y she doesnt want to kiss her maybe she has had no experiace and she is shy about the whole thing too so yeah u never know
Reply:Maybe she's a lousy kisser! Or maybe she's not a kisser at all and if that is the case the kiss will probably be awful anyway. I've been there, friend.
Reply:just wait for it, in the meantime go play with ur self
Reply:I didn't kiss my husband for the first time until our wedding day, when the pastor said "You may now kiss the bride".
Reply:Just give her time...maybe she got out a bad relationship and she is scared to trust again? You never know...but if the chemistry is great, then don't let her go over something as simple as a kiss. Remember, good things come to those who wait :) Good luck!
Reply:she doesnt want that to be what your relationship is about. not so much kissing, but just sex. shes prob. looking for something substantial and is holding back because she wants to make sure that you guys can have something where you can just talk and chill out.


or she doesnt like you, which i doubt.


or shes really shy when it comes to that kind of stuff.


maybe shes religious..


maybe she knows shes a terrible kisser or is self concious about her kissing technique. lawl.


but idk, i think you should continue to date her and if she doesnt kiss you before you get really fed up then break it off or ask her why.
Reply:maybe she is not ready to kiss you yet
Reply:There's another guy.








I know it's harsh but it's not necessarily a bad thing.





there's two likely scenario's





1


The fact that she won't kiss you yet obviously shows that she is a decent little chickie and it probably means she ain't fooling around with him either, and she just needs more time to get to know you and decide if it's you she wants.





If this is the case than being patient will payoff, cuz chances are the other jerk won't and you win.





2


She's got a full blown boyfriend and she wants out but isn't yet. In this case it means she definitely likes you but like i said she's a good little girl and wouldnt dare cheat on her boyfriend.





Either way, just play it like you have been and don't you dare start getting pissy with her. Cuz if you land this chick she's gonna be a good one, I promise.





Just be patient and respect that she wants to take things slow.
Reply:Just relax and don't worry about it. It's not that big of a deal. Ask yourself why you want things to build so quickly and happen by the 4th, 5th or whatever date. This isn't a race, dude. Chill out and let things take their course. If she doesn't kiss you until the 60th date it shouldn't make an inch of difference if things are going as well as you say they are. If it's meant to be, it will happen ... and not because you forced it into place before she was ready. You'll freak her out. Believe me, she's thinking about it as much as you are, if not more. Chances are she'll finally say something. Don't let your insecurities screw it up.
Reply:Just ask her. :) If you guys are getting along great, then conversation shouldn't be a problem.
Reply:Sounds like she's just driving you crazy. Just keep building up to it. If you really like this girl, then this will only make the first kiss stronger. Plus, you know that she won't go around kissing some random guy. I'd say hang in there.





To the guy saying that he isn't being aggressive enough, um... dude. That's not cool. If a girl turned her head to you, and you tried harder to force a kiss, things will not end up on good terms.
Reply:DO NOT LET HER GO. You have a gem of a woman on your hands. The best way to deal with this is to back off. She's telling you that she wants to be friends first. She's not yet ready for intimacy. Don't push her on this issue or you might scare her away. In fact, if you chill back and don't make any moves for the next 2 dates, she'll probably kiss you herself. Good luck!
Reply:Dude, its good this way. It may seem weird, but it gives you that much more of a reason to keep chasing her down. This doesnt mean that shes prude, its just that she wants it to be good. A memorable first kiss. That means that she respects her body and should make you feel good that she doesnt go around kissing guys that she thinks she likes or thinks their cute (my x). Shes just being precautious. Let it go, its just a kiss. Maybe shes really scared of PDA to. Public Displays of Affection... Had a few ppl who were freaked to do some of that. Try to see if your on a walk alone somewhere to get a pop kiss or something. dont let it get away at you, shes keeping you on the chase.
Reply:shes probably just not ready or maybe thinks tt u will hate her kiss or something....she doesnt want to ruin the scenario probably
Reply:What are her religious beliefs? do you have bad breath? Does she have a boundary about what is appropriate at a certain stage of courtship? You say you have lots of conversations .. well,ask her instead of being puzzled. If you are imbarrassed to ask, you shouldn't be dating anyone.

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