Dating over 50. Both widowed. She wants to date around, I don't. Been dating 3 mts. I don't know how to react

This is difficult as we are both fond of each other alot, but she insists that we date around. I did that and was hurt in the past and she hasn't dated around that much. I have warned her of the getting hurt. She says that I am the first man since her husband died that she has been with sezually. She told me that she is seeing two others, but not sleeping with them. I told her that I was willing to back off and give her space to find out, but it is difficult doing that emotionally. So now I find myself sitting home on weekends while she is out dating. As I said, I dated a lot last year and it got to the point where I just don't want to date that much and I want to be faithful to her. What should I do and how should I accept this?

Dating over 50. Both widowed. She wants to date around, I don't. Been dating 3 mts. I don't know how to react
Wow, a gentleman over 50 who wants to date. What a rarity you are and I get the idea that you don't even know it! She appears to need to spread her wings a bit and find out what the dating life is all about these days - trust me, it is a LOT different than when she was 20! Let her find out. You can't change that and you can't rush it and you can't even influence that, except, perhaps, to make her leave you alone completely. You might want to consider doing the same thing - the spread the wings kind of thing. See others! Go out and DO things! Meet people - again, trust me, there are ladies out there who are looking for you! You will find companionship out there that will perhaps exceed what you have had with her. You may even find passion!!! (And if you do, practice safe sex.) There is a world out there beyond exclusivity with her - take a look at it.
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Reply:It's unlikely that you are going to be able to change her mind, so you will have to decide if you are OK with the idea of her continuing this way. It sounds like you're getting emotionally invested in a person that has no interest in developing the type of relationship you want. You're setting yourself up for failure by doing that, and are probably going to get hurt. If you can't tone it down and switch back to the "just dating" mode that she is looking for than you need to just move on.
Reply:I , also, am over 50, and I date on occasion. The main thing to me though is to get out of the house some. I have a group of friends that go out and listen to music together. We don't "date", we just go out, both male and female, and have a good time together.......no sex. If you are lonely, an arrangement like this might work for you. it gets you out of the house, no pressure of dating, and you have lots of fun. Good Luck! Also, until your lady friend comes back to you, she's gone, in my opinion.
Reply:You accept what you are willing too.


She isn`t willing to settle down with just the one man,she is a friend,although you both may take it further than Platonic at times.

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